Why does my boyfriend call me hot and sexy?

And not cute, pretty or beautiful? We haw a pretty active sex life, but I feel like ever since we started doing the act, he always calls me sexy mami or tells his friends I'm hot. I miss the says in the beginning of our relationship when he called me beautiful. I only get "cute" when he says I'm worrying again or when I'm like sleeping. And I know that he's obsessed with my body (like my boobs and butt). Is that normal?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's normal and it's fine. He obviously thinks you are cute/pretty/beautiful.

    Go back and pick any random day and read a day's worth of posts, and you'll come across questions from girls who ask "Why does my Boyfriend only call me cute, and never hot or sexy? Is he not attracted to me?" Guys can never win.

    Your Boyfriend *thinks* he's telling you that you are pretty and beautiful, because when he says you're hot or that you're sexy, he means beautiful too. He's just using a different word, and one that he feels is even more powerful and profound. He likely has NO IDEA that it's making you insecure, because I assure you that wasn't his intention. Girls always seem to find the ONE WAY to take a compliment and twist it around so that it's really a problem, when the guy never intended it to be that way. It's a nasty habit.

    What you need to do is TALK to him, and tell him that as much as you like hearing that you're hot and sexy, you really like hearing that he thinks you are cute/pretty/beautiful too, so could he maybe use those words once in a while? I'm sure he has no clue that's important to you, but once you tell him, he'll understand that you need to hear those words too.

    • I am so guilty of over thinking because this is exactly the same question I had. My boyfriend used to tell me I was a beautiful woman, now I went from being that to your hot or sexy and it does make me feel like I'm just an object, I felt less important to him than I was when she used to call me beautiful.

  • This all sounds pretty normal. People go through different stages in their relationship, and chances are you'll find the language changes too.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It's nothing more than famliarization with one another. Earlier on you two were not as familiar with each other and the milder comments were very acceptabe. The further into this relationship the two of you got the easier it is for him to use the more personal nicknames for you. I would think we would feel good about any of the above things he is saying. Much better than some of the crude stuff I hear guys call girls they are suppose to care about.

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  • All normal. And in many ways guys forget because we'd rather be called hot and sexy then anything else. Just let him know you like it when he calls you beautiful.

  • Then talk to him. Needs have to be communicated in a relationship.

    Wrong: you never call me beautiful anymore.

    Right: I like it a lot when you call me beautiful.

    • This. If you tells him that you like it when he calls you something, then he'll call you that because he knows you like it. If you complain that he doesn't, then that'll always be on his mind when he calls you that, and it'll become a chore.

  • That's normal because he loves you but you must tell him, so that 'do you love me?' and he explain for you.

    • I asked him after he said I was sexy, "is that all you think of me?" and he said "no, I think your funny and smart too" :/

  • Cause you're a hot supervixxen :P