Masturbating in front of each other ? how do you feel

[Anonymous]

well just to let you know I'm a virgin and I'm not ready for sex yet... my boyfriend has been my boyfriend for a year. sexually, so far, we've kissed and touch and I've done hand jobs and he's touched me down there and that's about it. but lately my boyfriend got this new idea for us to masturbate in front of each other.. although he is my boyfriend I'm still a little shy when it comes to sex and stuff. but he desperately wants to do this. he tells me it be so nice to see me lay on the bed doing it while he stood watching and jerking off. the idea does sound nice, but I feel awkward about it. I'm eighteen but when it comes to sex it's like I'm a little girl..and I hate that. so for all of you have you ever done this before ? how was it. and how to I get over being so shy and reserved about sex ?

[danielm2009uk]

It takes time, but don't think of being shy and reserved as a bad thing. It's important to take things slowly and only move to things when you are ready in yourself. You could try practicing things on your own so you can understand yourself a little better, this can create more confidence and belief in yourself meaning you are a little more relaxed when you are with your b/f. I suspect you may have had a lot of negative messages about sex when you were younger, most of the population has. Some rebel, others take a bit or a lot longer to adjust, some don't at all. Oen your mind slowly and at a pace suitable to you, in time things will change and you will be able to relax more and become happier.

[tylertwh]

If you are uncomfortable with it.. then don't do it yet. Let him know that you just want to wait til you are fully comfortable so that you can experience the pleasure also.

I have had sex with my girlfriend and I believe it is an amazing experience. I also believe that it is not a decision to be taken lightly. Sex is a very powerful thing that can destroy a relationship, but it can also be an amazing time for both people.

Although I have never masturbated in front of my girlfriend she has done everything from a to z to me and the same for me to her.

Ultimately you just need to decide what you are comfortable with and he should be perfectly fine with that!

:) Good Luck!

[Jennifer2048]

Just watch what it does to him. My Boyfriend loves it.

The first time it happened was by accident. I was having a very nice little session in front of the fireplace, just about ready to come and he walks in. My first reaction was embarrassment, but he immediately told me to keep going. The expression on his face told me he was serious. I had to kind of work myself up again but when I orgasmed, he was so turned on that he immediately dropped his pants and we had some tremendous sex right there. When you see how turned on he gets, you will forget about being shy. And then when you see how good the sex afterward is, well, you get my point.

[Anonymous]

Yea I haven't had sex with my boyfriend, and we started being sexual like you guys and he suggested that we masturbate in front of each other recently and I was too shy, and I suggested we did it over the phone. We do it all the time now, any time I want to or even if I'm in the middle and I want him to talk dirty to me I just call him. It's still a lot of emotional connection but with out complete vulnerability. We really like it!

[charlie996]

dont do anything your uncomfortable with

[sovetskii13]

If it feels awkward, or uncomfortable, then you are not ready, and should wait. The best thing to do is to try and explain to your boyfriend that you just don't feel comfortable doing something that "dirty". Apologize, and say that you will give it a shot when you feel comfortable, and in the mood. If he truly loves you, then he will respect your feelings, and wait. Real lovers do not pressure their lovers into doing something they are not comfortable doing.

[wondering_guy]

when your ready you will know, your body will feel it and want too but untill then don't do anything your not ready for