Gay friend likes me but I'm straight?

Question

so for starters me and my friends got to an all boys school and yes as the common stereo type we act incredibly gay,we don't have a lot of gay students but we do act really gay sometimes(grab asses outside sports, call each other baby or sexy, wrestle really gay,BTW I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST GAYS OR LESBIAN) and when everybody acts gay its hard to figure out who really is,well anyways I was always suspected one of my friends was, I told my other friends of my suspicions(we all respect we are still friends) and when I was out of town he came out of the closet so my suspicions were true and he knows no one else in our group is gay or bi but for some reason I think he's attracted to me(no I'm not a homophobe thinking every gay guy might like me) but out everyone in our group (we weren't the closest friends) he always like to act gay around me or towards he always touched me more than others (in a friendlyish way) ,but I do think he is or was attracted to me at one point so what should I do my gay friend likes me but I'm straight and am not curious whatsoever so I'm gonna experiment,i still want to stay friends with him though,the fact that I know he's gay now does nt change my opinion towards him

NicknameShirt · Accepted Answer

I think a gay guy might like me, too. But I don't want to be friends with him because he's so tiresome and we have nothing in common, so I guess it's not the same.
I guess you would go about it kind of similar to if he was a girl? Reject him without totally destroying him? Maybe distance yourself a little for a while, be careful what you tell him about yourself and encourage him to seek someone else?

HadesHatesMe · Accepted Answer

Dude I would personally go for it, he likes you and honestly what does it matter what other people think. If y'all can make it work then great. he's your friend at least make him comfortable, y'all won't be in the same school together forever so if it goes wrong its not the end of the world. And if you are absolutely not into him at least help the poor guy out.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with being friends as long as he knows and is aware of the boundries that you are not gay and have no immediate intentions of getting that way.

Screamo-Lu · Accepted Answer

Don't change your behavior toward him or you'll end up hurting his feelings. If he gives you more obvious signals that he's attracted to you, talk to him.

sephora · Accepted Answer

lol, I like how you assume he likes you, people need to stop acting like every gay person is hitting on them. Did he tell you he actually liked you?

bluecarpet1 · Answer

Try and get him alone.

Be a 'gentleman' and ask him straight out.

That's what I would want a friend of mine do, or anyone. Just be discreet, get them alone, and ask them.

Obviously the best handled rejections, etc, are the smoothest, kindest ones.

BillyTheMountain · Answer

It would be nice of you to 'help him out' so to speak...

But it will likely change your relationship with him so be aware that it could end badly.

Also your other friends may find out and that can cause problems too.

sunseeker11 · Answer

nothing wrong with being friends or experiementing don't be ashamed a lot of guys experiement it doenst mean they are gay

Y4uNMe · Answer

Run as fast as you can.

stonerboner · Answer

Be his friend and tell him you don't want to have sex with him. Or, for for a ride on his joy stick and see if you like it.

Bromance_guy · Answer

You lost me... with all the words

Valrith · Answer

Well, don't let him liking guys ruin your friendship. You sound like a good guy who just doesn't want to lose a friend because his friend likes him. I say you should talk to him about how you feel, like how it makes you unconfortable when he trys to hit on you. Just make sure that he understands that you are fine with him being gay, but you just don't like guys the same way he does. :)

Becauseofme · Answer

Haha I think that you should just tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable when he's all over you... But be nice he clearly sees something good in you!!

tpearce1 · Answer

You should just start of by talking to him about the fact that he's gay, and the fact that your talking about it the way you are indicates that your willing to 'try it out' so maybe you should just go for it, make sure he doesn't tell anyone, and then if it isn't your cup of tea, be honest, he won't hate you :) hope it helps