Losing virginity without condom

[Anonymous]

me and my boyfriend are both virgins. we've decided to wait for the right time and to not rush things and I think we've finally got to that stage where we're both ready :) he's previously mentioned before about doing it the first time with no condom...and to be honest I'd really want to try it too even if its just this one time. from what I've heard from my friends, it's apparently better without the condom. I completely trust him and I know he's the right one. I've known him for nearly 6 years now and been dating for the past 7 months. the only thing is I'm not on the pill or anything and I don't really want to be constantly taking pills daily due to the side effects and I'm very forgetful too so it wouldn't be too effective on me. seeing as how its his first time, I'm not too sure if he can pull out in time. so now I'm having doubts...i really don't want to get pregnant. I've heard about morning after pill or an emergency pill that you can take afterward, does anybody have any idea how effective those are?

[Mrsupaakeru]

Make him wear a condom and get on the pill and make yourself remember to take it. You have a strong chance of having a kid if you don't and even if you think your boyfriend is the one you never know what might happen until you have that ring (not that I don't think you should trust your boyfriend). Being a parent is hard an you want to be sure you are financially stable, emotionally stable and committed before having a kid. Abortion should not be a form of birth control and adoption or foster care can be an ugly option if it can be avoided and there is no reason it can't be avoided in this case.

the more contraceptives you use the better protected you are do some research on other contraceptives and how effective they are and choose at least one before having sex. Remember it isn't just about you or your partner it is about the baby you might create as well.

[jacquesvol]

Pulling out and Ogino (based on supposed day of ovulation) are absolutely UNRELIABLE methods . Buy a pregnancy test and chose baby names before using those methods.

Plan B (Morning After Pill) is reliable if you take it within 24 hours, much less if you take it later. Only Ella link is reliable if you take it within 4/5 days but it is a prescription drug.

Both will seriously upset your body because of their high hormone content and should be used ONLY in case of emergency. (condom breaking, pill forgotten, rape)

Not a great way to start your sex life!

You can find reliable information about other birth control methods here: link

[billme1070]

You sound like a very responsible person for trying to think this through. Don't listen to your boyfriend. Granted sex without a condom feels better but carries with it a big responsibility. I've had sex in the past with and without condoms and honestly if the condom fits snugly you will hardly notice it. The best solution would be to get yourself on the pill first. I see a lot of misinformation posted in some answers (like how long it takes BC pills to become effective) so have this discussion with your doctor.

[maceygirl]

It does feel a lot better without a condom. But you shouldn't do that if you are not on birth control. He probably won't be able to pull out before he cums, especially since its his first time too. The morning after pill is only for an emergency, so I wouldn't count on that if I were you.

[Aries11w]

I don't think it's a good start to your sexual history to rely on the morning after pill! Please be responsible and use a condom or, the rod?

[TurbulentDan12]

I have to be honest this just sounds like a bad idea. It's understandable that you want your first time to be as special as possible and that's why you want to not use a condom, but if you're not on birth control the chances you get pregnant are a lot higher obviously.

And as others said plan b really shouldn't be your "plan a". It gives you tons of hormones and really shouldn't be used unless necessary.

If you don't want to take pills there are other options for birth control you should do a little bit of research. But the easiest way to be able to have sex without a condom and still have a low chance of pregnancy is probably going to be birth control.

Unlike some of the answers I don't think he necessarily isn't going to realize when he's cumming he'll know, but will he realize it and be able to pull out fast enough? Can you really count on that?

I just don't think you can. It doesn't seem like a risk I would be willing to take.

[jacquesvol]

+5 !

[gonyr]

Plan B has health risks associated with it. Its not something you should plan on using. That's why its called plan b. Its a last resort option and will make you feel sick. Is that what you want your first time to be associated with? Use a condom. Sure its better without one but someone who's never had sex shouldn't complain about having to wear one

[dan123z4]

Pulling out is a myth you could get pregnant of the pre come also which is coming out the whole time

[defytraditiongirl]

i would not recommend doing that

[Anonymous]

Not sure what you ended up doing. I wish for my first time we just waited for birth control to be effective. Then we could have enjoyed skin on skin and I could have finished inside her vagina. It feels so much better and is way more intimate.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, don't trust a boy who is a virgin to know exactly when to pull out. Even experienced men sometimes don't get out in time. Use a condom. It feels better without but neither of you know the difference yet. Be safe and enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Get the depo shot. The emergency pill will have more side effects than getting the shot or getting on the pill in advance. If you're forgetful, the shot fixes that problem for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, and happy screwing! ;-)

[Opinion Owner]

Have you sucked him off? If he's getting some direct penis love he'll be good.

[Anonymous]

plan should NOT be used for birth control prevention. you need to get on birth control pills. it takes 6-9 months to get into your system and protect against pregnancy. when I lost my virginity I didn't use a condom and still dont. I had him tested beforehand. I was in the mirena iud and now I'm not on it but he's great at pulling out. with a virgin guy they come far too fast and don't know when they are so its a good chance he will come inside you. use a condom!