Why are girls so afraid of sex?

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why are girls so afraid of sex or sexual thingsif its because of pregnancy... there are things out there that prevent that ya knowor do they (girls) just not desire it

billy_young · Accepted Answer

They aren't.

Ok, a very number of girls are afraid of sex. Some don't want sex, which is different from being afraid of it. But most of them do want sex. That's my experience in the UK anyway (I'm not saying that I've had sex with lots of girls or anything, but I know because of conversations and experiences with male and female friends that most girls do want sex.

If they are young (i.e. below 16-18) then they might be scared because they are virgins and they don't know what sex is like. In a way, having sex using contraception is like skydiving - chances are you'll really enjoy it and nothing bad will happen, but if you've never done it before, it's scary, and there is a very small chance that something truly catastrophic will happen.

There's also often issues self-consicousness among girls. They think they are fat or ugly or have small boobs or whatever, so they don't want to get naked in front of a guy.

Or, for some girls, they just want to wait until they have met the right guy and will only ever have sex with someone they love. So just approaching random girls isn't that likely to work - they have to be your boyfriend and go out with you for a long time until they trust you and love you enough.

There's also the possibility that they have had bad sexual experiences like being abused.

If we're talking about someone older, then it's most likely that they just want to wait until they are in love with someone.

There's also the possibility that girls aren't afraid of having sex, but you're not getting any because you're trying to get it from the wrong people or in the wrong way or at the wrong time.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

girls do worry about getting pregnent and std's a real concern as well , some also can't handle there emotions when sex is involved .

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Lol you don't seem to know that condom or the pill, or condom +pill even is not 100% safe

It gets pretty close, but there's still a 1% chance of getting pregnant, and its not the guy that will get pregnant now is it :P

Just sayin

Plus there's girls that just don't desire it

Or wish to wait for later

Or wish to wait until they know the person is actually truthful and sincere (a guy who can't wait until a girl is ready just wants one thing from the girl)

A guy, he can do it 0 or 100 times, there won't be a difference in their bodies

A girl, once she loses it, its gone and anyone (who checks? XD) can tell

Its also sometimes uncomfortable when the guy keeps asking for it and putting pressure on a girl (eyther by asking until she gives in or just asking often) is a major turn off :P

PS: the first time hurts pretty bad for most girls :/

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Here are my issues:

1) It will hurt. I've only done it once so I'm still worried about pain.

2) Pregnancy..nothing is foolproof. Although this wouldn't be the one to stop me if I was using protection.

3) Emotional attachment. This is the biggie. I need to feel a connection to have sex, and afterward I know I will feel bonded, and if he doesn't really care about me and just wants my body it will be very heartbreaking. In all honesty emotional attachment hurts almost as badly as a breakup. It hurt more than my last breakup in fact.

1 and 2 aren't the biggest issues, it's really the 3rd, that I will end up getting hurt. It just hurts a lot to be emotionally attached. Then you feel used and worthless. Some girls sleep around a ton for this reason, and it is a vicious cycle.

cun7n1nja · Accepted Answer

I've never been afraid of sex, not as a virgin and not now. If I were afraid of sex with someone, I'd simply not sleep with them and probably not spend time around them anymore if they scare me. In general though, I'm not afraid at all. I'm a very sexually-minded girl and I have a fairly high drive, sometimes my boyfriend struggles to keep up with me, lmao, only partly because he's almost 10 years older than me.

toulouse · Answer

because it hurts. esp if the guy isn't paying attention, or like u, has no clue how painful it can be.

guys think, that because pounding someone feels good to them, it must feel god to her, it doesn't. uve clearly never been on the recieving end of something being shoved in & out of a tight hole.

i wouldn't have sex, unless I knew the guy EXTREMELY well.

heywat · Answer

lots of girls are victims well survivors of sexual abuse. some of them, it was done all through their childhood and growing up with it makes you scared to do it in the future even when you know it won't be like before...

EverythingReal · Answer

Reasons a girl might be "Afraid of sex":

-She's not comfortable with you enough yet

-She's never done it before

-She doesn't want to be taken advantage of

-She wants sex to be more than a one night stand

-She thinks you'd disrespect her during the act

-She's self conscious

-She doesn't want you to leave after the sex

lananoel · Answer

Nothing is 100% when you get pregnant you have 2 options. Kill it keep it. Shits serious.

katiesmuff · Answer

Where do you get the idea girls are afraid of sex?

pepper01 · Answer

we aren't scared of sex. we are just scared we will get pregnant and become single mothers. we also don't want STD's or HIV

carinabina820 · Answer

1) I've been raped twice 2) I have scar tissue that will make the next TA I have sex very painful, 3) I don't want to be left with an expensive baby and wrecked life those things aren't perfect you know, 4) having sex with a guy you don't love and that doesn't love you is a recipe for heartbreak and drama.

upsyndrome · Answer

I am? Didn't know that's what fear felt like... helllllllllllllllloo.

heart4god · Answer

Once you have sex, you can't get your vrignity back

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys want to do the least possible to get into your pants, and then they LEAVE. That's how they are. They may say they like you after they sleep with you but they really just want to keep you around for sexual duties. Period.

Anonymous · Answer

I think only virgins are ..

Anonymous · Answer

It's just you they're afraid to sex it up with.

Anonymous · Answer

Well from experience, girls are afraid of loosing their virginity because of the pain and also because of pregnancy. Keep in mind that contraceptives can fail.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing to do with being afraid. More like a self confidence issue because we feel like a guy sees more when there isn't anything in between.

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