Want to try having sex with a guy, but I'm not gay?

[qww382]

I'm an 18 year old guy who's a freshman in college and I have been interested in having sex with a guy. I don't know why but I've been really interested in it for almost a year now. I have never been attracted to a guy before or ever thought a guy was "hot". I honestly think it's because I'm so interested in anal play. I'm currently in a friends with benefits situation with a girl for about 2 months and I really enjoy having sex with girls. When I watch p*rn, I watch heterosexual video and I'm not interested in having sex with a guy more than once. I was just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation? Also I was wondering, if I wanted to go through with this, how do I go about finding someone to do it with? I think I'd obviously need to approach someone who's gay about it and I would be worried to do it with anyone who lives in my area. Mainly because if anyone did find out, everyone would think I was gay and not understand.

[billy_young]

I felt exactly the same as you so I went ahead and did it... ish.

To start with, you're not gay. You find women attractive and get turned on by women... that means you're not gay. You might be bi-sexual, but you won't know until you've tried it, and you're only bi-sexual in my opinion if you actually would consider having a boyfriend. So, you're bi-curious. My definition of that is that you're straight, but want to know what it's like to be with a guy, or have some sexual fantasies that would traditionally be considered as gay.

I read something saying that nobody is 100% straight i.e. nobody goes through their entire life without having at least one curiosity about what it would be like to be with someone of the same sex. Lot's of people are in similar positions to you and just do nothing. But personally I think that life is there for us to experience. Whenever I come across something like this, I think of one of my favorite quotes: "in 20 years time, when you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do much more than those you did". In other words, go out and make the most of every opportunity you get or you will always wonder 'what if?'. You're at college, so it's the perfect time to experiment, try new things and make mistakes. If you do those things now, people will forgive you. If you do them when you're 50, people will think that you need to grow up.

Ok, so how to find someone... there's a great site that I have used called fabswingers.com. I think it exists in the US, but it might not be as popular there as it is in the UK. If it's not, I'm sure you can find something similar. Basically, it's a free website for people who want to meet others to have sex with. There are literally tonnes of gay guys on there who will be perfect. I met a guy once and a transsexual once because I wanted to experience what both were like. Both times they were really nice people who completely understood my situation and my nervousness and eased me into the experience. I lied to them about my name and created a new email and I met the guy in a public place and went to the TS's house (perhaps a bit risky, but lots of people had 'verified' her on the website so I trusted her), so in both instances there was no way they would be able to tell anyone about what I'd done. Me and the guy sucked each other off and I did the same with the TV plus gave anal. I have tried fingering my ass a few times and it's really pleasurable so I want to try receiving anal at some point too. I enjoyed both experiences, but I'm in no rush to repeat them. They felt a bit wrong and a bit weird, but I'm glad I tried it so I know what it's like and I can say 'I tried'.

You can maybe find a girl who's willing to do things with a strap-on online too, although girls are generally much more difficult to persuade. There are loads of gay guys though. The alternative is to just suggest it to your fwb. The worst that could happen is that she'll say no. That's... (continued)...

[billy_young]

...just given me another idea! You could suggest to your friends with benefits that you have a 3-some with another guy. She could find the guy without having to reveal your identity and you can try being with a guy but you won't be in such an awkward situation as being on your own with him plus it will be someone who you can trust a bit more than a complete stranger. HIV/AIDS - use a condom. They aren't 100% effective, but there's less than a 1% chance that they'll tear, and even if it does, it's unlikely...

[billy_young]

...that the guy you're f***ing has HIV and even more unlikely that you'll catch it immediately. OK, there is a tiny tiny risk, but gay men who use condoms are generally safe. So as well as using a condom, find someone who at least claims to always practise safe sex. Obviously they could be lying, but basically avoid anyone who admits having unprotected sex. It just helps to reduce the risk even more. I hope this helps. Basically, if you're curious, just do it. As long as you're sensible then...

[billy_young]

...it will be completely safe and nobody will ever find out. Have fun! :)

[sunseeker11]

the most honest answer I heard on in a long time, I still like to experiement once in a while, givin and recieving

[qww382]

Thank you! Finally someone with an honest answer and with a similar outlook/situation. I guess I am bi-curious. I like what another person said about just because you play soccer once, doesn't mean you're a soccer player. I don't think one sexual experience will define me as a person.

[billy_young]

Yeah, I really liked that comment too, it puts it into perspective. one sexual experience won't define you as gay or bisexual or whatever. It might to some people, but that's because everyone has different interpretations of those words. Just like people have different interpretations of humour and funny, or beautiful or adventure etc. However it will help to define you as a person. I mean it will have some impact, no matter how small, on your personality and the way you view life. That's a...

[billy_young]

...good thing though. You will have had a different experience to many people and that will help to make you into a more 'rounded' person :)

[ladsin]

so if you enjoy little children and want to have sex with a 6 year old child, and plan on having sex with a little child, as long as you haven't done it yet your not a pedophile?

[billy_young]

That depends how you define the word pedophile. It's all just about different people's interpretations of words. Enjoying flying and thinking that you'd like to fly your own plane one day doesn't make you a pilot. Plus me and the person who asked this question don't enjoy gay p*rn and we do plan on sleeping with women for the rest of our lives, so by your logic that makes up 100% straight. I'd say I'm at least 90% straight because about 99% of my sexual and romantic thoughts are about women.

[Wavery808]

I'm also a freshman in college and our situations are literally almost identical. Iwant to try a one night stand with another guy just to try it. I've been into anal play for some time and have really been wanting to just try gay sex. Something about it is very intriguing to me and turns me on. I could never see myself in a relationship with another man however, just looking for one night to try it out. If you're still looking for someone maybe we could meet up if for some reason we lived close by?

[Anonymous]

I would discourage it,you don't know what you're getting yourself entangled in,it could ruin your reputation.what if the guy never lets you go;blackmails you into giving him favours or else he exposes your deed,what if you just can't stop?what if it actually comes out and your family(kids/wife/parents)or your employees/people who look up to you learn of it someday?You'll be ruined!and what if you come out of the whole scum HIV+?Ask God to guide you away from this evil coming over you-no offence meant.

[Opinion Owner]

Better ask your girl to finger you rather.I have that fantasy of doing that to my guy myself.

[katiesmuff]

At the very least it is bicourious

[CuriousEddie]

I don't think that simply because you're interested in experimenting means that you're gay. If someone only played soccer once, then went around calling himself a soccer player, people wouldn't think that's right.

But as you can see from many of the answers, that isn't the case with sex. So there's a lot of hassle regarding just wanting to experiment, which makes it difficult to find and trust someone.

[ladsin]

so you want to try it? are interested in trying it, and prefer to be the submissive?

ur at least bi-curious at this point if that's even still a thing

[qww382]

Yeah, I'd prefer the submissive

[ladsin]

so your gay or bi... its like if I said, ima lifelong vegetarian, but I really want to, and plan on someday eating meat in theory I'm not really a lifelong vegetarian, I have plans to break my current oath and thus at least according to most people I am not, will not be considered truly a lifelong vegetarian

[bifus]

I am mostly straight but I'd like to try being fucked by a guy someday. I enjoy using anal toys, so it sounds like an enjoyable experience.

[crazybastard]

try it but be carefull man. you know all the dirty sh*t going around. and think about the future first and how that would reflect on it. if you are horny just jerk off and think after because when we are horny we think crazy sh*t

[anonymoushunk]

if yor not gay then you are bi

[toricakes]

It's the same with me and girls. I mostly straight though. I want to date and marry a man. But if I fall in love with a women, that's my life

I never slept with a girl though. I think "guy"Ish looking lesbians are hot though

[Pegme6]

Lets try it

[Anonymous]

im str8 also but I love (self) anal it feels so damn good I have a dildo that sticks to the floor or wall and I ride it like crazy it also makes me feel sexy doing it and yes I would let a guy I can trust to be adult about it and not have HIV/STDs etc or anything do it to me any time he wants and he doesn't need a condom ether he can do me and come all he wants in me too ooooooooohhhhhhhhhh I wanna get f@#cked in the ass sooooooo bad 100 times a day because I can't get enough ... come and stick it in me now ... I'm giving myself anal right now while reading stuff on this site and looking at nude girls too I wish a guy would walk in on me and shove his thing in me and do me like a girl and pound me so hard and make me moan and scream in ecstasy

[Anonymous]

Find someone else like you who is curious. Lots of other freshman are in the same boat. They are everywhere, you just need to find them.

[Anonymous]

i understand I have had similar thoughts and I would give it ago because I'm a bit open minded but I'm too scared catching HIV/AIDS even if they did wear a condom.

ive had this thought of a guy doing me up the arse but it would have to be a pretty cute boy, there's only 2 guys I have seen that I would let them do it to me

[Anonymous]

yes you're gayyyyy at least bicurious

[Anonymous]

I'm not homophobic but I suggest that you don't do it, there are many reasons why you shouldn't do it (the first question answere that anonymous girl just told yo everything so I'm not gonna repeat it. I't would call it gay because having sex with the same gender is what gay means.

Just try fingering yourself, you're gonna feel pleasure because by fingering yourself you will massage your prostate, so don't confuse it with thinking you are gay and you like it's just a normal body reaction.

[Anonymous]

You can say it's not gay, but it's practically the dictionary definition of gay.

At the very least, you're bisexual. Life will go a lot easier for you if you at least know your own orientation.

[Anonymous]

If you want to have sex with a guy you are dear, wow