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Would you pursue a relationship with someone you've had casual sex with?

If you met a girl at a party and she gave you a bj in the bathroom, would you consider furthering a relationship with her or would you not even bother to get her number. And I don't mean a friends with benefits situation I mean a serious dating, bring you home to mom relationship...Girls same question, would you want to date I guy who put out on the first night? Casual sex isn't my thing but I'm fascinated by how people are able to manage dealing with the feelings, negative stigma and complications of it all.
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  • ive seen people do that before.

    and yes I would if I really like them. there's no logical reason not to. sex doesn't change their personality or any connection we may have once we get to know each other a bit. only delusions of morality and social stigmas change views on people due to casual sex. logical people who know that this is all emotional reactions to social stigmas and internalizations of societys view of "sluts" know that there is no reason to not date someone just because youve had casual sex with them.

    some people may fear that they would be more likely to cheat but this also doesn't make rational sense.

    ive never had casual sex but yes if I did and the person and I ended up having a great connection and I really liked them and they really liked me, id give it a chance.

    a lot of men aren't very rational when it comes to this though. they are generally more conscious of social implications of who they are dating. society has harsher implications for women who are promiscuous. men are very conscious of how the woman they are dating is perceived by others, and they care more about that than women do, from my experiences and observations. many of them don't want to date the girl who has been around the block even if she has never cheated on anyone, and simply slept around while single. they also have emotional reactions of dominance over "sluts", where said "slut" becomes another mark on his score board and her value as a person suddenly goes down. its all extremely ridiculous but that's the way society works.

    not all men are this way though, thank god.

    • Sometimes when a woman has casual sex with a guy he can assume that she has done this with many other guys. I realize sex with lots of people is another negative stigma implanted in our minds by society, but I believe it also speaks to the issue of safety. Sex shouldn't be taken lightly, there are so many diseases and unwanted pregnancy. I think if your going to take a risk like that it has to be with someone you already trust who has a desire and an obligation to care about your sexual health.

    • well that is what you believe. and that's it. everyone sees things differently.

  • Such a big deal made of sex on a first time meeting basis and I don't see it as a problem. Yes I would consider such an event OK and would have no problem furthering a relationship with him.

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  • I guess it would depend on what proceeded the bathroom incident. If we had been talking and flirting and enjoying each others' company beforehand and had a really close connection ... then I think I could see that as having the potential for a further relationship. Maybe it would end up being the kind of thing we could laugh about later.

    On the other hand, if it was a girl I had *just* met, and it was a simple case of being drunk/horny/desperate then no ... I would probably not have a high opinion of her, or of myself afterwards! In that case I think I'd prefer to forget it had ever happened.

  • I certainly wouldn't. A girl who gives a blowjob at a party in the bathroom is more in the 'whore' category for me.

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  • If it was getting a Boyfriend in a bathroom at a party, probably not. Tells me she's kinda trashy. However my answer might change if we'd already been flirting with each other and knew each other well. But if you're just some random girl I pretty much just met, 9/10 I'm not bringing you home to mom.

  • I don't really judge people, but I don't think I could pursue someone like that really, I mean yeah she sucked me off, but how many other dudes has she sucked off in the same manner? I think first impressions are very important, and if that first impression is of her going down on me, although its momentarily thrilling, in the long run its a really bad thing. I'd rather if I met a girl and she wanted to do something then cuddling or maybe a kiss if she's comfortable with that, something as intimate as a blowjob is meant for couples imo, people who are already intimate with one another for a long time, and know each other closely.

  • It wouldn't influence my decision to date her one way or another. A BJ is great and all, but I don't decide to date someone based on whether they blew me.

    • Well put...it is neither a dealmaker nor a deal breaker...(:(:(:

  • Casual sex is one thing, blowing me in the bathroom at a party is a little bit much though. Id prefer to hook up.in a more normal.setting early on like that. She can do the bathroom thing after we already know each other. If you want to date him, probably not the best suggestion...

  • Well I don't care for bjs...but yes...I pretty much have to be physically attracted to a female to want to have sex...so...if she is attractive and I enjoyed the sex then it would be natural for me to want more...the next step would be to see if we are personality-compatible and have the ability to view the world in a like fashion...if that flies then we would date...and...if we are then sexually compatible..then I have a steady gf...possibly a wife...(:(:(:

  • no I souldnt, I also wouldn't get serious with a girl that's done this in the past.

    • wouldnt, and most men that don't care you will find don't want children, don't want to get married or are already past marriage age

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