I always believe that it depends on the person. Doing those type of things will only keep the person around but for so long and usually they will end up looking for someone with more depth to them. A lot of people believe you need to be attracted to the person that you are with but also have an emotional connection and one without the other is pretty much nothing. You can't just rely on one thing to get you by. Again, depends on the person.
People stay in relationships that are lacking a lot of the time. They could be lonely or don't want to end up alone or they were raised in a environment where behaviors that may not seem acceptable to others are to them. They could stay out of loyalty to that person if they saw them through something horrible or helped them out a great deal.So it doesn't mean that they have to be good at that and that's why they stay.
People may feel as though that is a major thing that they have going for them that keeps them at a certain level and may be compensating for something.
As for mi - I believe people in the relationship should be open to one another to express themselves emotionally as well as physically.0 0 0 0Ive never been that way to that extreme but I'll admit at times I have found myself turning to sex to smooth out a fight me and my boyfriend might have had and when he knows I'm doing that he turns me down. There have also been rare times when I was stressed with school or having a rough time and I felt my self esteem was low that day and I would go to my boyfriend for sex not really because I wanted it but just because I wanted to feel wanted. I don't like doing that. It makes me sad to see girls going above and beyond sexually in order to rectify other issues. Sex is not a tool and its not a skill that you need to become good at, t should always be purely about the connection between the people having it
0 0 0 0I wouldn't think guys would think very much of a girl like that although not many guys are going to shy away from the sex.
0 0 0 0and that's sad that a guy may settle for a sh*tty female all because she's making him cum.
So true, and all this time we thought it was only us girls stupid enough to stay with someone because we were getting good sex from him!
Both genders are guilty of that.
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People compensate, it's a natural reaction. To me, it depends what's lacking in the first place. Drinking down my load every night isn't going to be enough to mask her overly sh*tty attitude towards me or our relationship, but maybe that's because I'm a reasonable man. If she's using sexual techniques to make up for a weaker trait, more power to her if they're both happy. That's the goal in the end anyways, happiness.
0 0 0 0But why paint over that missing trake with "fake gold" instead of just fix it so you can have a truly happy end goal?
Because they don't know how to 'just fix it', or it's just plain easier to do it that way, who knows. Does it really matter either way if people are happy and it works?
It matters to me because I'm intelligent enough to realize that sooner or later, those negative traits may float to the surface and impact our relationship. Maybe even in such a severe way that I have to break up with the person and I've wasted all this time on him
No personal experience with this.
I guess probably after a few years I'd get sick of it.
Seriously, I don't think I know many people with girls like this. I know a lot of guys with girls who barely have their sh*t together, who barely have sex as well. Just enough to keep him starving, not quite so little that he leaves.0 0 0 0
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1 1FROM TROULOSE. This user blocked her.
"I don't think of it as a compensation, that's _your_ prejudice (not the best trait, tbh). Imo, its a skill, like anything else. "
-Toulouse.0 0 0 0who is troulouse? link?
btw, it's not prejudice lol Prejudice is way more extreme than simply boldly pointing out that a lot of girls use sexual activity as compensation. Tell Troulouse to stop being so dramatic and making me feel like I made a good decision in blocking her and like I should keep her blocked.
by troulose "(If by 'bold' you mean obnoxious, then sure. ) I fail to see how it is anything other than, prejudice. As for as me being dramatic, I fail to see that as well. I'm not the one who blocks. I wonder why you would not _want_ to feel like you made a good decision. I think you should thank me, for making you feel that blocking someone is good, as apposed to cowardly, and absurd for a talk-site. So, you are welcome."
Are you bad at sex? You seem to be quite jaded and cynical the way you write this, you should rather compensate it with something else lol
What does it mean - being "manipulated" by sex? Everyone enjoys sex. It's not like girls also can't be "manipulated" by it.0 0 1 0I'm really not at all I'm just annoyed because I have a few male friends who have gotten involved with girls like this then it's like it has a domino effect and makes them so unhappy, unsatisfied, and complicates their lives. I wonder if this post applies to you because you didn't really give me an answer to the question; you just focused on me.
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