Is it weird to be dating/having sex with a 16 year old at 19?

OK my boyfriend is 16 and I am 19. We had sex today together for the first time--is it weird that he is 16? It is legal here & I don't feel it's weird, but I worry other people will think it's strange.
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It doens't matter anymore anyways. He just dumped me. :'(
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Most Helpful Girls

  • My best friend and his boyfriend are the same ages as you and yours. At first, I'll admit, I thought it was weird and thought that his boyfriend might be some sOrt of creep. However, after spending some time with the guy and seeing him out with my friend, I've seen that although he has the peronality of a piece of chalk, he does genuinely like my friend. What I'm saying is people might make judgements at first based on age but if you genuinely love each other, it will become apparent. People will see that an most likely think differently. Good luck, I hope it works out.

  • The age difference is not bad at all.

    But being the fact that you are still a minor, of course people are going to say it is weird.

    • But... she's not a minor. Her boyfriend is.

    • Well either way, it still isn't weird. Men date younger girls all of the time. I don't see why all of a sudden it would be "strange" because its the other way around.

    • I agree.

  • The age difference no, it's not weird.

    BTW I'm sorry that he dumped you.

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  • wow classy guy...sleeps with you then leaves you.

    16 is an incredibly immature age for a 19 year old to get tied up with, whether dating or just sex. There is a huge maturity gap before and after a high school diploma.

    I think based upon what happened to you just an hour ago, I think youve learned the answer to this question. I'm sorry for you hearache, but you deserve someone much more mature and who can treat you well, regardless of whether sex is involved. Good luck.

  • I don't think it's weird. Some might give you a look, but don't let it get to you. They're not dating him, you are. It's your choice, and good or bad, that's what you need to remember; that it's YOUR choice. Honestly though, I wish you all the best. If he makes you happy, focus on that. Go for it. Have fun. Be happy. Make each other happy.

    Good luck.

    • Great answer as usual!

    • I'm sorry to hear that.

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  • nothing wrong with it, he is at legal age of consent, so don't worry what others think, just try to remember, he is only 3 years younger, but eventually you will realize that his mental maturity is a lot behind yours,x

  • It's different because a lot of 19 year old girls don't date 16 year old guys, at least from what I see. But if it's legal, who cares. Do what you want.

    • Update: Sorry to hear that. Remember he is only 16 and most likely less mature than you are. I'm sure you will find another guy that will be right for you. :)

  • It is a bit strange but what you do in the privacy of you're home is no ones buisness but you're own since you're nopt breaking any laws.

    I dated 2 girls a lot youngher then me ans yeah some people found it strange but it felt right so didn't see the problem.

    • I hear ya, man. I fail to see how it's an issue if it's legal. Besides which, you get a lot less people bothering you about it as time goes by.

    • true but tbh apart from my family with whom I don't have a good relationship there was no predjudice or whatever amongst my friends everyone excepted it immediatly same goes for the girls friends who are now kinda my friends too :)

  • Ok 16 it's not legal guy or girl is is weird well they are immature at that age until they hit 40 or so . But you may need to wait unles you like prison sex?

    • No, see the age of consent is different depending on where you live. In some places 16 is legal. It's not 18 across the world.

    • Where are you ? Most state in us are under 18

    • This is funny as fvck. She said it's legal there. Immature at that age until 40? Is it weird to have sex with under 40's now?

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  • It's not weird, but 16 year old boys are as fickle and ridiculous as 16 year old girls. Don't plan on a lasting relationship.

  • Yes to me that's strange and if it were switched around it'd still be weird

  • it is fine. if you love him it is great ;) I'm 17 and id love to f*** you ;D

    • Does it matter if I love him? He dumped me and called me a whore and a bitch. :'(

    • NOPE, NOT REALLY LOL. COULD BE NICE JUST FOR THE SEX ;P

  • He sounds like a top guy.

    • Wow, sounds like a right little player.

    • :'( this was his first time and our first time together today. It was liteally all of 7 hours ago and he dumped me :'(

    • Awwww bubyyy. Did he say why?

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  • It is weird having sex at 16 OR 19... PERIOD !

    • no its not starting from the age of 16 and up its normal to be sexually active