Erection during massage

Ive been thinking about going for a massage sometime soon just to help me relax a bit. I'm going through mid semester exams at uni, busy at work, etc etc etc and I've been pretty stressed out lately so I thought I would try getting a massage. The only thing I'm worried about is getting an erection during the massage and making myself look like some sort of weird sex pervert. I just don't know if I would be able to control myself if I had a women rubbing lotion all over my body. Is it common for it to happen and is there a way to help deal with it?



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  • Looking into being a masseuse myself, I think someone dealing with a job that involves touching people should be aware of how their clients may react. If I was a masseuse and my client got an erection I wouldn't be bothered, I mean your body is gonna do what it's gonna do! What would be inappropriate is if you made lewd comments, or started to touch yourself sexually. But it doesn't sound like that's your motive, you just want a massage. Don't worry about it!

    • Or if the masseuses started massaging me down there :o

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    • If you want to be a Registered Massage Therapist, the first thing you should know is that masseuse/masseur refer's to the people who offer happy endings. An RMT is a designated health professional with extensive training in musculoskeletal anatomy, postural analysis, and at least a dozen different techniques that specifically target conditions and injuries. A true RMT will also be registered and insured by a national organization. (NHPC in Canada)

      Just so you know :P

    • Okay. Well where I'm from the word masseuse means masseuse.

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What Girls Said 5

  • Hahaha, After reading this message, all I can think about is that scene in Couples Retreat, where he gets an erection while getting a massage.

    "I am sorry sir, but that -----> points to erection--is not going to have a happy ending" LOL

    I think it might be a common problem among men...Just imagine a big hairy beast rubbing you down, he kinda looks like a Wookie, and smells like Fish...Problem solved, NO more erection!

  • I have heard of guys getting erections during massages before. I hear its a common thing and some massage therapists are used to it.

  • well you're there to enjoy it, so I wouldn't stress about it. just think about relaxing and if it happens it happens.

  • I'm a massage therapy student, and I've learned that if it happens, it happens. Almost always, the therapist will hardly notice. It only becomes a problem if you make a big deal out of it. You know, giving the eyes. If this happens, the RMT will end the treatment. Remember, massage is sensual NOT sexual!

  • I think it would be hot, & be very tempted to play with it.


What Guys Said 5

  • I am a registered massage therapist, and while I don't deal with a lot of male clients myself (most men aren't too comfortable with male therapists), I've heard some stories from my coworkers. We are taught in school that this is a natural bodily function, and any RMT worth anything will know that it's not always controllable.

    Some of my coworkers have had males who become erect (although if it happens, 90% of the time it's only semi-erect), and most of them will just ignore it. The majority of the massage you will probably be lying on your stomach, and you should be fully draped with a sheet at all times, with only the body part being worked on exposed (arm, leg, torso). If you only get a towel to cover your private bits, get up and walk out, your RMT hasn't been trained properly and could possibly injure you. NEVER at any point during a massage should an RMT expose your private's, it is completely unnecessary, there isn't a body part that can't be properly draped.

    If you find you have an erection when your RMT asks you to turn over onto your back, just take a minute to stretch and pretend like your too out of it to and need to regain your senses (trust me, after a while your brain enters a sort of half-sleeping, half-aware state, and it's quite common for clients to ask for a minute or two to regain their composure.)

    If your lying on your back and you feel it happening, just be honest, apologize and say your not looking for that kind of massage, it's just your first time. Any professional RMT will either give you an additional towel to cover yourself with, or if they are uncomfortable, they will leave the room for a minute or two.

    Rarely will an RMT freak out, if they do, they are not a professional. Be polite and apologize, but don't feel bad, they are the one who is being unreasonable.

    Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it though, if you find a good RMT it won't happen, you'll be to focused on breathing through deep pressure and releasing sore muscles you didn't even know you had. Don't ask for a Swedish Massage, it has no benefit other than a few hours of relaxation. If you tell the RMT that you have some sore area's you'd like worked on (shoulders and back are always a safe bet), they will spend the time trying to release hypertonic muscles and trigger point therapy, and you will feel infinitely better.

    Preferably, DO NOT go to a spa, find a clinic that performs other modalities as well, like physiotherapy, acupuncture, orthopedics, or acupressure. These health clinics will have trained, professional RMT's who have gone through extensive training about the human body. Spa's usually have massage therapists who have taken a few courses in swedish and relaxation massage, but don't have the anatomical background a health professional should.

  • i get weekly massage for my lower back by a guy and sometimes I get alittle hard and I love women and but it happens.i think it's because you get so relaxed and knowing that you're almost completly nude except for a towel in front of someone.

  • Apparently a common fear:


    What if I get an erection during the massage?

    Some men don't get massage therapy because they worry that they'll get an erection. Or they get the massage, but are unable to relax during the massage because of this fear.

    But there is no reason to be embarrassed. It's perfectly normal for men to get an erection during a non-sexual, therapeutic massage.

    Gentle touch administered to any area of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and cause a partial or full erection. Your massage therapist (male or female) understands this and will generally ignore it.

    If you are still worried, you may wish to wear a men's bikini bathing suit during the massage, which provides more support than boxers.



  • If you're that worried, and you are just trying for a relaxing massage, then get a male masseuse.

    They will be able to give you a deeper massage anyway, having stronger arms and hands, and there's definitely nothing sexual there.

    In my experience, I don't get erect from a massage. It's just not very sexy.

    • I'm a woman and my hands would crush your bones. Grr.

    • If you weigh 300lbs and lean into it, I'm sure you would.

    • You might be surprised Anon, on average I would say your right, but 100 pounds coming through an elbow onto a trigger point is enough to make you tap out. It's not the size that counts, it's how your trained to use it ;)

  • Ouch. That would be rough. I myself don't like going for massages anyway cause I feel like they make me feel feminine. Too much of that in my childhood without realizing it haha. Sure, it may be a self-esteem issue, but meh, it doesn't really affect my life too much so it's okay :P

    • That's because your idea of a massage is probably a swedish massage in a spa with harp music drifting in the background. There's nothing feminine about treatment therapy, and if you want to bring your Led Zepplin cd to listen to, that's perfectly fine.

      You should honestly try getting one, you might be surprised how much feeling good about your body can help with self-esteem. Human's need to be touched, and a healing hand can do more than you would ever think possible.