The difference between a submissive guy and a dominant guy is not what they do, but how they do it.
For example, a submissive guy asks you to do something, while a dominant guy tells you what to do. They both request an action from you, but one of them gives you the control, while the other establishes him as the controller. Think of it that way.
So just because you are on top doesn't mean you are the dominant one. Dominance is not about being on top but about CHOOSING who will be on top.
And he wants you to tell him what to do, because he can't know how to please you without knowing what you like. This is not about dominance. This is about him wanting to please you.
And when he says something like "tell me what you want me to do to you", he is still giving you an order. Notice he doesn't say "tell me what to do". He says "tell me what you want". So he is still the decision-maker, in terms of what will be done.
If you read between the lines, he is still the dominant one in this scenario. That also means that you don't have to be embarrassed of stating what you want. You are just "following orders".
Anyway, if you are unhappy with this situation, then have a talk with him. Try to have more positives than negatives in your talk (i.e. compliment him twice before criticizing him once), and always approach positively (such as "I would like it better if you did this" rather than " I don't like it when you do that".
Alright, that's all from me.1 0 0 1Dominant: ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence. In other words, if you're "dominant", you like to take charge and be the one who calls the shots. In bed, that means you like to do things to your partner, while they are "submissive" and let you do whatever you want. Obviously, though, in this relationship, he's the dominant one and you're playing a more submissive role...at least, in bed.
While he may think it's cute that you're embarrassed by all of this, however, I think you should really let him know that his behavior makes you uncomfortable and that he needs to tone it down a bit so you don't feel overwhelmed in bed. He may have had lots of partners, but since you're still new to this, he needs to slow things down and match your pace. Sex is basically teamwork, in a sense, and it doesn't work if one of you is charging ahead where the other one isn't ready to go yet. Instead, he should be introducing you to this stuff at your own pace so that you can enjoy your time together, not be worrying about what all the new stuff means.0 1 0 0
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If he is asking you then you should def. drop any embarressment you have in asking or trying new things. Being dominant is basically seeming as if you know what you want and your gonna get it lol
-Taking control in not being afraid to explore or be explored- is a fun dominant key0 1 0 0
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2 3Ok you need to be firm with him, VERBALLY dominant, like you get right down between my legs and do what you know I want, Nothing dirty is said, but you both know what it means, If he is going too fast, tell him, hey slow down slooooowwww down, et him right to the point of making noises like Goofy, then stop dead in your tracks, pull off and finish him by hand, when he makes a sticky mess on your hands, slap his ass and tell him, YOU DIRTY LITTLE BOY, use you imagination, In your head when alone, experiment on what turns you on, use toys small one large ones, dildos rabbits, Try any things you would not usually think off, imagine doing the rudest thing you might never consider, and imagine doing it get filthy in your head, if you don't like it, stop the fantasy, as for men, we like to be called nice names like oh you big bastard, or it=s too big, always makes for a laugh. SEX IS GOOD FREE AND WITH THE RIGHT PERSON F?g Horny. HAVE FUN EH. Hope this helped. LOL
0 0 0 0As you see, guys often are all just talk but no action.
0 1 0 0He is really asking permission to go all the way.
Like: "will you be able to handle this?"0 0 0 1all mouth, no trousers
0 1 0 0He like to be the one who controls the sex that's hot I like when guys are all take control.
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