My boyfriend wants me to go on birth control but I really don't want to.

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend and we use condoms. He really wants me to go on birth control but I don't want to. I have never been really good about remembering to take medication in the past. Also my friends complain about how their birth control makes their boobs hurt and other things. I'm not worried about STDS cause he was a virgin too but I don't feel comfortable letting him come inside me, so we would have to use a condom either way...its my body and I don't think he should be telling me to take the pills but I know if I get pregnant it's his problem also. My parents are strict Catholics so they can't know either...

[IGuessWeHaveAMess93]

From personal experience, I had a similar situation like yours, and I chose to not go on birth control either, I can't tell you how terrifying it is to worry about getting pregnant :/ My birth control doesn't really affect me physically, like boobs or weight gain issues, and depending on what state your in you may be able to get it prescribed to you from planned parenthood?

Anywho, I'm not going to try to sell the idea of birth control to you. If he uses condoms, maybe see if he will get the ones with the spermicide as an extra precaution? He really can't make you go onto birth control, so there really shouldn't be an issue if you use spermicides and condoms

[peace-love-couture]

Well, it takes 2 to have sex and 2 to get pregnant, so you should do your part as far as birth control and he should do his part

If you aren't comfortable with birth control pills, look into other forms of birth control: link

Maybe the shot would be your best option or female condoms or spermicide

But you being on birth control doesn't mean he shouldn't use condoms anymore if you aren't comfortable with it

[crookthings]

I suck at remembering to take medication too, but that's what cell phone alarms are for! :P

Also, you can get a pill with a really low dose of hormones like Loestrin 24 Fe, I have no side effects on it. Everyone's different and sometimes you have to try a couple of different kinds, but it's really worth it.

[jmr2191]

Do your research on different birth control pills and talk with your doctor about if birth control pills are a good choice for you based on your medical history. If he says yes, ask what he recommends. My girlfriend uses birth control and I still use condoms.

Bottom Line: It never hurts to have an extra fail safe.

[Dragan]

Birth control pills are harmful. If condom is used correctly as safe as the pill.

[cuteandsmart]

Sure condoms take away from the pleasure for the guy and that is understandable but the birth control pill can lower a womans sex drive which affects both partners and the birth control pill is bad for women and can cause lots of problems since it is messing with her hormones. It is ultimately up to you. Most guys don't know this about because pills so maybe if you do some research and show him maybe he will be more understanding about your reservations.

[Nicki_Minaj]

I'd say it sounds like trouble because a) you don't want to b) your parents. if you have money the side effects are not bad because you can get pills that match your body.

read about it, they aren't that bad. but in our age group they are actually not as effective in preventing pregnancies as other methods like iud or even the depo shot (which actually sucks, tbh)

[Lj236]

if you don't want to use birth control then don't use it

[Anonymous]

Get the depo shot. No need to remember anything.

[Anonymous]

he wants you to go on birth control so that he doesn't have to use a condom. it is your body. do what you are comfortable with. however, if you have bad periods, the pill does make it easier.

[dubstep]

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[meghan19]

Dubstep, you should probably fall off a cliff.