Guys get protective of a girl after they have sex, especially if he takes her virginity?

[Anonymous]

I started hanging out with this guy, and one week later decided to have sex with him (I was a virgin he wasn't) because I was just so curious as to how sex felt and I knew he was a really good guy and he really liked me and I trusted him and felt very comfortable around him. 1.) after that he now calls me his girlfriend even tho we never talked about it and he is a lot clingier and more protective...is this normal? does he feel like some weird ownership of me? 2). sex with him doesn't feel "special" and I'm not super attached to him or anything, I feel the same as I did before I had sex...is this normal too...? like I'm moving to a different state in a week and I don't even know if ill really miss him too much, just feels like a good friend or something

[GreenKate]

Sex never feels special unless it's with someone special.

It does sometimes make people feel closer. It sounds like this happened to him, but not to you. It is normal, but it's perfectly normal for it not to happen, too.

You didn't commit to this guy, don't feel obligated to him.

I'm not saying to dump him, but just keep in check that 'protective' doesn't turn into 'possessive'.

[Anonymous]

Some guys get protective/possessive of girls more quickly than they let on. I've only been texting a guy for two weeks and he calls me his girl. Another guy has seen me only once and is very chivalrous and protective. I think it's just their instinct when they like someone. THey are just drawn and WANT to be close.

[Anonymous]

i think you feel like this because you are secure, you know he likes you, I think a lot of times feeling different or emotional after sex comes from insecurity tat the guy does not really like you.

anyway he is being like this because he likes you and therefore he cares about you.

[Asker]

^you bring up a good point, maybe I'm just really secure, which if this is the case I now feel like a bitch for taking his kindness for granted :(

[InvisibleKid]

you should tell him that.

i guess he is like that becouse he dosen't whant to sex and dump you. he just cares that you feel good about it,

[Anonymous]

Virgin girls are for long term relationships/ marriage, he probably feels close to you.

[TokusatsuComicLover]

maybe it's a biological instinct