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Have you gotten into anal sex, or not, and why?

I'm not usually invited to try anal with girls (doubt any guy is) and so it took some research to improve skills, on top of the meagre experience I've had. Thanks to a pretty good series, I learned I just didn't have the right technique at first. It involves a lot of patience and preparation to do it right, and most women who do enjoy it had a pleasant first experience, right? If you like anal sex please share why, and if you've tried it and won't do it again, what happened? My experience is that with nooo decent technique, one out of about 5 women has had her hardest orgasm ever from it. And most other women have enjoyed having their anus stimulated. And is there a better word for anal sex? It's so damned clinical. Blech. Not my best sexual question but considering the one about men's asses, I felt it fitting to slip it in at this time. Snuck it up on you... hah! Anal! hehe.
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  • I was fortunate in that I was introduced to the pleasures of anal sex by an experienced woman who took the initiative. My current partner and I just refer to it as "A.S." (and, incidentally, oral sex as "O.S.") because we don't like either the clinical or street terms.

    My basic philosophy about any sexual activity has three parts: 1) communicate, communicate, communicate; 2) the word "No" means "No" and should trigger AT MOST further communication and AT LEAST respectful stopping (that means NO whining, ranting, or guilt-tripping); and, 3) wherever there are nerve endings on the human body there is the potential for pleasure.

    Anal sex is great if BOTH partners really want it. Patience, lots of lube, cleanliness, and a sense of humor all help. Coercion of ANY sort is TOTALLY inappropriate. If you're not completely confident of your monogamy as a couple, then condoms are in order.

    There is NOTHING inherently wrong with it morally or dangerous physically and emotionally from it as long as those preconditions are met. If done properly there should be no pain and only a modicum of initial discomfort (and often not even that). There are a number of really good non-x-rated YouTube videos on how to go about it.

    Physically, I really like it because of the tightness of the anus around my penis going in, thrusting, and coming out. The smooth firm warmth along the whole length is fantastic. Orgasms can go on and on and can be incredibly intense. Emotionally, I feel welcomed and even celebrated by my partner in a very different way than with vaginal intercourse. The sense of closeness and intimacy are just amazing. The patina of naughtiness just adds to the fun.

    A couple of the women with whom I've enjoyed A.S. regularly had mind-blowing body-wracking orgasms from it that they reported as more intense than any other orgasms they had. All four of the women I've shared the experience with over the years said they loved the particular sense of fullness, the release they felt as they relaxed and opened themselves to me entering there, the fact it was obviously doing wonders for me, and also because it's still uncommon enough that it felt naughty in a really fun, delicious way.

    With my current partner, introducing A.S. to our repertoire took our relationship itself to a whole new level of communication, affection, and passion because of the sheer intimacy and levels of pleasure involved. This profoundly positive impact took us both by surprise and has been thoroughly wonderful.

    • I think with all the right steps, it's fun for all. For some reason, I don't want to do it with a woman who isn't totally into it, though.

  • A better word for anal sex? Try 'sodomy'.

    Anal sex isn't healthy for different reasons:

    -Bacterium's living an being absolutely necessary in the intestines can cause havoc elsewhere in the body (vagina, mouth, stomach)

    -There's a risk of rectal prolapse link for both girls and bottom guys.

    -For a bottom guy, if his prostate is hit at a moment he as an even tiny infection there, the infection COULD spread over the whole body , causing sepsis (bacterial or viral blood poisoning link Prognosis can be estimated with the Mortality in Emergency Department Sepsis (MEDS) score.[28] Approximately 20–35% of patients with severe sepsis and 40–60% of patients with septic shock die within 30 days. Others die within the ensuing 6 months)

    Moreover, the guy doing it can get a nasty prostate infection from the feces his d**k meets in the anus.

    Morality hasn't anything to do with it, it's just risky behavior.

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    • First I would like to say "buzz kill?" And then I'd have to say that's an immature response. However, buzz has bruises. Luckily I'm not top or bottom in a gay way. I like my prostate healthy. Doing things properly, many sex experts agree it's a safe and enjoyable act. Proper cleaning, i.e. an enema, fasting, and condom use minimize the risk. Using increasing diameters of anal plugs until she can handle one the diameter of your cock, and using safe words, the horror show can be averted.

    • "many sex experts agree" is a typical fallacy: link

      "increasing diameters of anal plugs until "..."an enema, fasting" sounds like fun, really :-S:-|

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yep! I certainly enjoy it. I tried it for the first time when I was 17, and have only done it in serious relationships. It's not something I could enjoy with a casual partner. I think trust is a major factor in making in enjoyable, but even aside from that, all three of those boyfriends knew what they were doing from the get-go. They knew how to ease me into it and do the proper prep work to make it comfortable. My current boyfriend had probably the least amount of knowledge regarding how to make anal comfortable for the girl, but luckily, me being the one requesting it in the first place [and him pleasantly surprised], I was able to instruct him in the areas in which he needed a little guidance. I can't orgasm from just anal stimulation, just like I can't orgasm with just vaginal stimulation, I need some clit play too to make it happen. That plus anal, equals particularly explosive orgasms for me. I wouldn't say 'better', but definitely intense in an incomparable way.

    I've never been with a guy whose idea of anal sex included just jamming his d*** into a girl's ass with no preparation, lol. Girls who have, I can't blame them for hating the experience and not wanting to repeat it. But they also shouldn't take their partner's [and possibly their own] ignorance as THE example for what anal sex can be like.

    • I don't get the invite often, but now that I know better I'm ready to make the trip to the Xmart and pick out toys to prep with. Next time, it will be great.

    • Exactly, lol. If you want it to be great for everyone involved, you gotta make the effort to do it right and make it fun. We're still looking forward to going toy shopping when our money situation starts looking up, but in the meantime, fingers and different fun lubes are working out just fine. =]

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  • I've done it but only with a condom on. As one of your other posters put there is a high risk for infection. So I always suggest wearing a condom and definently changing the condom when you switch back to the vagina. I can't do it with bigger guys, it hurts too much and the last tine I did it with a guy who was more endowed I ended up bleeding so we never did it again.

    • Yeah, it's not pleasant. Usually if the V is really tight, I know the A is off limits except to tease during V sex.

  • I've never actually had anal sex (I wish they'd come up with another name for it too!), but I've done some anal play on my own and rather enjoyed it, so I'm open to it as long as the guy in question isn't an a**hole about it (no pun intended).

    • Let's all call it Sunshine Rainbow Sex instead. :)

    • Which brings me to option B: never really doing it, but playing with toys. Good comment. For various reasons I'm not the first choice for anal, but I've generally found women enjoy having it played with during vaginal intercourse (being sure not to mix fluids around, for the health conscious).

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  • Never been able to find a woman who will allow it but once. Just once.

    • Yeah, it's not offered often, and I never ask.

    • You sound rather pitiful about it. Perhaps some more research on your part, as well as creativity and patience, might give you the tools to make it pleasurable enough for your partner that you'll both have an opportunity to enjoy it multiple times. Tension, pressure, guilt, pain... all will interfere with the pleasure.

  • Yes I have I pretty much to it to pleas him he as good boy all year so he gets it at Christmas and his birthday and as long as its nice and slow I love it but he is sweet and never hurts me (my ex hurt my ass so bad I bleed for like 2 days)

    • ...sorry, I have to say that reminds me of the scene in the dressing room where Billy Bob Thornton tells the large woman he has up against the wall: "You're not going to sh*t right for month."

    • im not that fat lol

  • Nooooooooo ... wayyyyyyy... just the sound of that sends chills down my spine.

    Ahhhhhhh ... I don't WANT to have corrective surgery. @ _ @ Waaa!

    • Yep, and I'd never suggest it if we were together. It's a rarity.

  • dude anal sex is great :-D 1: introduce the the subject prepare her mind

    2: she must be willing

    3: she has to trust you at a hundred 100%

    4: go for it tiger but slowly :-D

    Ps:i will advise you to start the normal way then she is fired and relaxed ( very muscle specialy the sphinter muscles) go for it tiger

  • No. Because it disgusts me and I know how it hurts especially for the first timer women.

    • It's definitely not for everyone.

    • Sorry it disgusts you, but you're just wrong about it hurting "especially for the first timer." If it hurts then there's a problem with technique (or there's just a huge mismatch in size that technique won't cure!). Of course, it CAN get messy, but then, in my experience anyway, that's where a sense of humor rather than a sense of disgust come into play! But you're certainly entitled to do what you want with your body.

    • Thanks for the heads up, appreciated.

  • Any girl I have been with loves it and has intense orgasms from it.

    But it does take a lot of preperation and trust.

    For a girl who's never done it, you can't just stick your penis in, you have start slow with one finger, then 2, etc.

    Might even take a few times trying and playing with that area.

  • Im not interested, I don't think its worth the pain, health risks, preparation and gross factor of playing around the hole where waste comes from.

    • Yeah, that's why it's got to be prepped for in my book. It's not a spur of the moment activity.

    • I make my man were a condom if he wants it. It takes the gross factor out he stays clean and I just wash off right after as for pain and the health risk just have him do it nice and slow that?s a good way to do it do let him pound your ass lol

    • id rather not. I don't even like the feeling of stuff coming out so I'm sure I won't like it going in. My boyfriend has no desire to try anal and put me through unnecessary pain when I have a perfectly good vagina that he loves

  • I've done it about a dozen times and it's never become more than barely tolearable. I think it depends on individual anatomy somewhat, because the girls I know who do like it REALLY like it. I know that there are ways to make it better (lube, slow and steady progress, etc) ... but it's not really worth the effort, and it can be irritating knowing that you have to go through all that just because your man isn't satisfied with all the orgasms he's already guaranteed to have from regular sex.

    • I think it depends on anatomy too. Most of my reading has shown women who enjoy G spot manipulation enjoy A sex more as well. Perhaps it's because neither the clitoral area or the G spot are being stimulated for you.

    • The angle he goes in can make a LOT of difference. For many women, froggy is way better than doggy. With doggy, he goes straight in like this -----> and hits your S curve -- making it feel like you have to poop. With froggy -- like leapfrog -- he comes down from above like this / -- you on all fours and him standing and lowering down like squats. Your body aligns much more naturally with the dik like this. Plus, in this position, I have "lost" my semen quite a bit. It just goes in so deep, it disappears. It may come out later -- even the next day I am told. But I never see it again.

  • I have had my hardest most heavinly orgasms during/from it. I love it. Did I have a good first time? Yes he obviosly knew what he was doing. Do I still love it. Hell fuccking Yes!

    • What about a vibrator in the A while having good V sex?

    • No that does not work very well at all. Tried that already too. I know it sounds really hot... Me too I wanted to so bad to try it but found out that its not a good ide. Doesnt do me any good atleast.

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