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Ladies would you rather a man tell you he's small or would you rather wait and find out yourself?

Obviously I'm referring to penis size here. Yes I'm small and this does affect my confidence. I know that size for women is a 50/50 thing, for every chick that says it matters there's just as many who say it doesn't.but if you were in a situation where you went on a date or have been on a few dates with a man and things were bout to go to the next step( sex obviously) but the guy was small, would you prefer it if he told you prior to sex? So you could talk about it and get it out in the open? Or would you prefer it if he didn't say anything and just went with the flow and let you find out for yourselves? How would you react if he told u/ or you found out he was small. I understand the responses I may get will depend on the women, especially if some size queens answer lol but truthfully I would prefer honest answers. I have used both as mentioned above with different outcomes.. my size by the way is 4 inch erect in length and bout 4-5 inch in girth depending on where I measure. Hope for some good honest feedback :-)
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Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, why would you warn a girl?! Your penis shouldn't come with a warning label, your objective is to actually get sex, not make people stay away from you. How would you even introduce that statement? You want to excite your potential lover, not put yourself down, which is what it would come across as if you made a broad announcement. A lot of men aren't "big", your confidence as a man is far more important than the size of that organ. This is the kind of thing a lot of men stress about while honestly, it's not anywhere near as much of a deal for women. The internal sensitivity of the vagina is only the first 2.5 inches so sensation-wise, that's all that matters and you don't have to be big for that. Aside from that, 86% of women don't have orgasms from penetration, most come from external (clitoris) stimulation, so again, those are the facts. It's about what you do with your penis, your fingers, and your tongue that make a big difference, you can please your partner with a 4-5 inch penis just fine. I wouldn't want my man to say anything about it, if I were that into him that I'd want to sleep with him, I'd be happy with whatever I found. We aren't that superficial, you know. Honest answer. A confident man is far more attractive than a self-conscious one or a man that feels the need to self-deprecate and point out what he considers "flaws", your audience most likely won't agree and they won't appreciate you "warning them". You are going to need to deal with this issue within yourself and learn to stop worrying about it so much, you are blowing it out of proportion in terms of its importance.

  • I would like to find out myself, a guy telling me he is small would make me feel like he has a lack of self esteem/confidence which is a turn off and I really wouldn't know what to say to that and it would probably be awkward. Even if you aren't, act confident about what you have and do your best because you know every woman is different and that could still satisfy a woman just fine.

    If it doesn't well keep trying to be confident because there is a woman out there will be okay with that. I don't know about other women but personally penis size isn't one of my top concerns when I'm dating someone.

  • Personally I think you should do what ever you think is right. If a girl is with you for the right reasons either way will not cause her to change how she feels about u. If you were my guy and told me id just let uk size doesn't matter and its how you make me feel, or if you waited till we were in the moment and I saw you id still feel the same. I've been with big guys and felt nothing because they didn't make me feel good, but I've also beeen with avarege or small guys and it felt amazing. JUst be confident with who you are how you make your girl feel and she will not care at all if you are 4 inches.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Make her fall in love with you before she ever sees your penis and she won't care what size it is when you do have sex. I would never say you're small, it shows lack of confidence which actually will turn a girl off.

  • This isn't a 50/50 thing for women. I don't know 50% of women who would prefer a 4 inch penis. Women are fairly size centric.

    • I would also add that telling a women puts her in an uncomfortable position because your size isn't what she wants. And now she's put into a situation of judging you based on your size. Women do this all the time, they just like to admit it.

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  • Do not bring it up beforehand. Do you know what that says to us? That you are not only insecure about it, but you feel it's a bad thing and a potential deal breaker. The lack of confidence will kill more attraction than a small penis, I can promise you that. A small guy with skills beats out a big guy with no skills every day of the week. If you act like your size is a problem, she'll think it's a problem too.

  • Ladies would you rather a man tell you he's small or would you rather wait an find out yourself?

    I rather he tell me.

    How would you react if he told u/ or you found out he was small?

    I'd bail out then we can both find partners better suited for us.

  • Yeah I wouldn't bother telling her she'll find out herself. It will put her in an uncomftorbale and awkward situation if you tell her weather she's fine about it or not. She'll find out herself and then she can decide for herself once you've had sex.

  • Don't forget women vary in size as much as men do! You can not tell by the height,weight or frame size either,in men or women.

    • Very good point, but women here will go to the ends of the earth to tell you you're wrong.

  • i wouldn't want a disclaimer. be proud of your junk. :)

  • I'd rather a man be confident in what he has, big or not... and be confident in his other abilities (oral, etc). If a guy was like "yeah I have a small penis"...I'd think he wasn't confident in himself and that's a turn off.

  • I wouldn't want him to bring it up beforehand, it shows that he has low self esteem and would be awkward for me, because I wouldn't know what to say.

    They say it's not the size of the boat that matters anyway. Haha(;

  • No need to let the whole world know, let the girl decide for herself

  • Your better off not mentioning it. Otherwise you'll be hit with the double whammy of being a small d***ed guy who lacks confidence.

  • I don't think I care either way. It'd be cool if we were close enough to talk about it, but only if it comes up, there's no need to make it an announcement or feel obligated to say something before sex. It's not going to phase me if I "find out" by seeing it, I'll just keep going :P

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