Read a good theory on the psychology of the cuckold fetish and cuckolds?

[Anonymous]

So recently I've read that cuckolds (guys who want their girlfriend or wife to sleep with other men) instinctively know they are genetically inferior. So to correct that they want their wife to have sex with someone who is more on her level. The man who is getting cuckolded is aroused because it is his bodies way of making sure that he realizes that it is for the good of mankind in the long run. So, in short, it's like his body is a computer that recognizes its flaws and so it wants to self destruct but in this case he simply wants to stop himself from passing on his dna. Pretty crazy stuff. What do you think? It would make sense. I mean, I don't see any other reason I would get aroused. But sometimes I think it's bs because I've seen good looking guys who are cuckolds with financially stable jobs and they might have a small penis but that does not define superiority or inferiority.

[Brando]

I too have read up on this and came upon a similar theory, probably the same but with different wording. I would say that I agree with it somewhat, but don't disagree the rest of the way. I see it arising out of insecurity and inferiority. This creates a "beta" male for lack of a better word, and he sees himself as unable to secure his mate. It's kind of a nice guy syndrome where a guy approaches another man's date, and he is too timid to step between them and shoo the approacher away. The part I can't be sure of are the deep, subconscious theories that say a man's behavior leads him to look out for the good of society. I don't disagree, but just because I have no grounds to disagree on. It SEEMS a little far fetched but again, I don't have anything to show it either.

I also think the less prevalent form of cuckolding in which a man allows his wife multiple partners because he is DOMINANT is less studied and less common in things like p*rn. I don't think I'd ever do it, but at the very least the thought of my SO with another man is arousing enough to make me want to "stake my claim", so to speak. For me, it's not only about allowing her whatever pleasure she likes but also the control I would have over her and the other man, as well as the thought of knowing I can please her much better than he can- she merely enjoys his body.

But towards your original question, I would be skeptical to accept that theory completely. Even a beta male, in all their "inferiority", still want to reproduce. They can't chase it like others can but I have a hard time believing they're cutting themselves out from the gene pool.

[malansal]

Well thats all BS, I have a cuckold fetish, I'm told good looking, have power in my workplace, an ex boxer, very confident, and assertive, my theory is because I'm an alpha male (and others like me) cuckolding is a mental torture, whereby we have always been in control, people look to us for leadership, and the pressure needs relieving, yin and yang if you like.
Cuckolding takes control from you and gives it to your partner, you are self punishing (BDSM for the mind), no control over the outcome, also mixed in is the adrenalin (junkie perhaps), escapism from an everyday boring life, with your own guilty secret, that you just don't get with a round of golf with your mates, probably other cuck's would give a different answer, so it's horses for courses I suppose.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

This is absolutely correct - I'm in the same boat with the being in control in every other aspect of my life. I also have likened cuckoldry to sadism - whereas being tied and spanked physically is a form of sadism, so is cuckoldry, where instead of physical, it's mental. I can fully understand why a lot of people get off on the physical sadism, so why is it so hard for people to understand the mental sadism? Cuckqueaning is also a big thing now, where guys bang other women in front of their wives (who get off on it) too. People are so judgmental sometimes!

[Izzy2102]

I never got that fetish. I guess that explanation would make sense but only if they'd also be willing to raise another mans child. Letting her have sex with another thing, evolutionary that would only be an advantage if they are 100% willing to raise children that are not his.

I don't know much about that fetish but I think that's were it goes wrong

[madiocre]

It sounds right but I think there is much more to the picture ...

I always thought it was bit of a showing off kind of thing... like sharing her with others then taking her away because ultimately she is his.

[tom-tom-traveler]

I would disagree with that hypothesis. Some guys just have a different kink that drives them. Others are probably using the 'cuckold' approach as an excuse to have sex with other women while staying in their relationship.

Asserting that it's a person's unconscious attempt to remove their 'faulty DNA' from the pool is a stretch. A very BIG stretch...

[Irishivy]

I disagree. My man just recently brought this up and I’m past the point of having kids. It’s more about him than me

[Tatoosh]

Actually some guys that are into cuckolding are very successful and can be dominant types in various situations. The cuckolding part, particularly being submissive, may be how they deal with the stress of the more dominant personality traits and situations. They relinquish control to a "trusted" partner (the wife) and can revel in being submissive for a specific period and circumstance.

Other cuckok guys may just be very submissive in general and want the explicit directions of a strong, dominant woman. They enjoy the humiliation both by their wife and her lovers. So they may act as servants, be confined, and even be denied sex. And they find this not only tolerable but deeply satisfying.

Those sorts probably fit your "inferior" theory. They want their wife serviced by an alpha male. But they may be a common type, but they are by no means the only type. Some guys are not so submissive but rather more voyeurs, which is pretty common for males in general. Most guys are visually oriented. We look at women and often define them on their attractiveness or sexiness, both in body, dress, and demeanor.

It is not a big leap from being turned on by seeing a sexy woman to seeing that same sexy woman having sex. That does not have humiliation as the primary driver. They are more the Stag sort that are not interested in having sex with more women, but find the deeper connection to one woman and enjoy watching her in action. Some of those will enjoy their woman being overtly slutty while others will want her treated as an equal and respected. So many variations and people have to sort their own path through life.

[sikoo31]

that does make sense from an evolutionary stand point.

but it does make total sense cause lots of those guys just like to watch their wives act like sluts and get f***ed like one.

its not necessarily about the guy, but about his wife's actions that arouse the guy.

so it could be something else.

and where did you read this?

[coklovingwife]

I have to have my wife sleep with guys who's cocks are bigger than mine

[Infoking]

Here's the truth.

This stems back to the early stages of human beings when society was more bobaric and less organized as it is now. Women are hard wired to be attracted to strong men, emotional security, stability and intelligence. Most intelligent men aren't fighters but offer emotional security and stability. Given a situation where a male is having sex with his mate. You only have 2 options. Fight the male for yours or place your sperm after the stronger male and hope to impregnate her. If you fight the male she will become aroused watching and her vagina will produce lubricant for the winner that she deems as the strongest male. She will no longer produce vagina lubricant for the weaker man. So if that said man feels weaker he will watch and wait his turn instead of making a risky decision.
It's a natural biological response from the cuckold to become sexually aroused when watching his significant other having sex with another male. Creating a build up and higher consistency of sperm. This causes the cuckold to mate with the female afterwards ejaculating his sperm inside her along with the previous males sperm. Both males sperm will try to kill off one another when inside her vagina giving the strongest male sperm a chance of carrying on their offspring. That's you see most cuckolds offer security and stability and most bull are alphas that are stronger and dominant. Women are attracted to both of these qualities.