Is this normal for a guy that's inexperienced with girls?

I'm dating a guy now, been seeing him for about a month we go on dates every weekend. I'm the first girl he has ever asked out, he said he was always too shy. We hold hands, hug, he puts his arm around me when we are walking down the street... But he has not kissed me. do you think he is scared? Or maybe he doesn't like kissing?
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I'm inexperienced too I've only kissed one guy but that was years ago.
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  • If he's inexperienced he's probably afraid of doing something wrong. I mean, if he's never kissed a girl he's probably waiting for you to give him serious signs or to kiss him yourself.

    I know my current boyfriend was really inexperienced and when he kissed me it was pretty obvios he didn't know how to very well, it was all a bit awkward and clumsy so he was embarassed because he'd only kissed a few times before me.

    You could try to first give him really obvious signs, when it gets quiet between you two look up at him and look at his lips, or bite your lips, or get closer. If you lean in he'll catch on and kiss you. Maybe even touch the back of his neck and lean in a little hile looking at his lips-- he'll get it.

    OR you could kiss him yourself and break the ice.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes, he's scared. He's *terrified* that he will accidentally push you too fast or make you uncomfortable or be unskilled or in some way make himself seem unattractive to you. I'm sure he very much WANTS to kiss you, but he has NO CLUE if you'd be okay with that, and he's desperately hoping that you will make a move so that he doesn't have to.

    Shy guys are often very good guys, but they have no confidence with women. The best way to GET confidence with women is to have an understanding girl teach him how things are supposed to work, so that he can feel like he knows what he's doing and won't screw up. If you are willing to help him out in that way, his confidence will start to go up, and he'll start to become more like the kind of guy you want him to be.

    • What if I give him confidence then he wants to date other women :(

    • While that's not completely impossible, it's unlikely that you're going to turn him from inexperienced shy-guy into Mr. Pimp Daddy anytime soon. But IMO, it's MORE likely that you'll break up sooner if he continues to lack confidence, than if his confidence improves. Improved confidence will probably bring you closer together instead.

  • He's probably afraid of making you think less of him. I use to be that way (a long time ago, now I feel old, thanks, haha) I always thought she would get the idea I was only in it for the physical gratification. Flirt with him a bit more heavily and maybe bring up in conversation that you don't mind a guy taking the initiative. If it doesn't bother you, you could go for the kiss yourself, I can pretty much guarantee you it's not because he doesn't like kissing.

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  • How can he like kissing if he hasn't? Do it yourself.

    • He could of been kissed before I haven't asked. I don't want to kiss first he might not want me to.

  • Heroes not know what to do I don't know what to do I am shy scared and I need help with that tuff, you should kiss him

    • sorry heroes should be he does. my phone changed it on me. but just try and help him out he is scared I know how he feels.

  • He probably just doesn't want to do anything wrong.

  • He's probably just taking things slow, and I don't know if that's common or not.