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How to get him to go down on me?

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he has never ate me out and he refuses to do so. He says that whenever he has tried in the past he can't get past the taste and/ or smell and ends up gagging. My ex use to loving doing it and I miss it. I love my boyfriend but this is starting to bother me. He isn't very experienced and doesn't have a lot of confidence in bed. I told him we could try and if he can't do it then we know, but he still refuses. He promised he'll do it one day, but I want that one day to be here now! I go down on him quite a bit and owuld like some in exchange. Any advice on how to change his stance? Does anybody else have an opinion?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • you can't force anyone to do anything, do stop asking for it, I think if someone ask for something too much it becomes even more a turn off. I would advice you to stop going down on him all together and if he wonder why you aret doing that anymore you tell him if he won't do it on you you won't do it on him, maybe if you do that he might wanna try just to get sucked, if he doesn't care then you either have to live with it or leave him.

  • It's fine if he isn't good at it or he tries and really can't stomach it. But the fact that he won't even TRY, is just selfish. He needs to at least give it a go before writing it off, especially because he knows its something you like. And your desire should be motivation enough to give it a shot. Then, if he tries it and it just isn't working, you'll both know that at least he tried.

  • Stop doing it for him until he see's how unfair that is lol

    Take a shower immediately before, so there won't be any taste or smell, or even go buy that stuff from the condom section that gives it a nice flavor. I mean seriously, what kinda girls has he been with anyway lmao

Most Helpful Guys

  • Receiving oral is very important to you. Not giving oral is important to him. He does not appear likely to ever change.

    In matters of reasons to be together, there are things more important than sexual compatibility, but when the sexual compatibility is so bad as here, you will probably both be happier moving on. Would you be happy spending the rest of your life without oral?

  • Dump him.

    More seriously ... dump him.

    Sucking? Being nervous? Forgivable. Not wanting to try?

    Move on.

    • For the record, my first ever girlfriend, I just jumped on her and did it eagerly first time I got her pants off. That's how its supposed to work.

    • Yup..I am on Chris's side..life is too short..unless it is too long?

    • Agreed. DUMP. NOW.

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  • It might be time for a new boyfriend.

  • I am sorry but if I have this problem I would have to leave him.I can't be with someone that isn't compatible with me.I LOVE ORAL a lot so this is a major problem for me.I can't tolerate this matter though.

    • <3

    • =D

  • Oh I have an opinion but you won't like it...

    Sexual incompatibility is a huge cause of broken relationships. I'll keep it short, if he isn't willing to even TRY meeting your needs in the bedroom then the relationship is doomed to fail.

    How to fix it? Two options.

    1. Break up with him and get a guy who will.

    Or

    2. Try to change his mind, bare in mind this option runs a moderate risk of pissing him off.

    • Yup^

  • Try it right after the both of you get out of the shower! Use some flower scented body wash while the both of you are in the shower.

  • Make sure your stuff is clean and shaved

    And then force him to do it:D

  • He must have issues,because you are gorgeous.

    • Not sure why the Down Arrows..but I totally agree with this dude^

    • I have not arrowed you either way, but I would guess the reason for the down arrows is your answer bases his issues on her looks. Yes, she is gorgeous. But gorgeous or not, he has issues unrelated to her looks.

  • Ugh...I would like to succor you with positive words...but if he wanted to do that, he would already have been doing it and I do not see him liking it any better if you pressure him...I am totally on your side as I would leave a woman who would not let me go down on her..oh...and btw...hair and pee do not bother me..at all..even prefer them...just to rebut your other responders.../:/:/:

  • Presuming that you're clean down there and you eat a moderately clean diet to make sure you don't taste / smell ...i don't know what his deal is.

    A well-maintained vagina is supposed to ATTRACT a male, not repel him. :-X

    P.S. That's unfair of you, that he gets oral from you, but you don't get any from him. I would withhold oral until he is willing to go down on you (presuming you're clean and eat a moderately clean diet).

  • The guy has got to out of his mind, its one of the best things to do to a girl sexually.

    If the guy doesn't care enough to pleasure you then I would dump him. He may just be using you to get off without intending to reciprocate the favor.

  • Just be like "Lick me now!"

  • Anoint a p**** with chocolate cream. Maybe help, If he love chocolate.

  • I don't mean to offend but you should have known this about him somewhere around the second or third date. Now you are stuck in love with this guy who is too squeemish and lazy to pleasure you. The solution? Get rid of him before your feelings for him run deeper.

  • if a guy said the same thing about a girl not sucking his d*** it would be the exact opposite reaction. everyone on here would be saying its just too bad for him & that its a girls choice if she sucks a d*** or not. he shouldn't be forced to do anything that he doesn't want/like to do sexually. the hypocrisy of this place is absurd.

    maybe your p**** does smell/taste bad.

    • For the record, I for one would tell a guy in that situation to dump her. Today.

  • ...he can't get past the taste and/ or smell and ends up gagging...

    kinda sums up why he doesn't want to do it.

    try changing his outlook on that & see if what he is saying is true...

    trying it in the shower might help. let him know how much you like it (fake it a little for encouragement)

  • Be sure you are clean and fresh. That means a thorough warm water rinse inside your lips after you pee. Make giving him oral conditional on your receiving it first.

  • Shave? Maybe you stank.

  • i don't know why he wudnt. your his girlfriend, he should want to do that to you. If you don't mind me asking do you not trim or shave in that area. that cud be the only possible reason that might slow a guy down

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