Do you think women understand the effort it takes men to have an attractive body?

Think about it. For the most part women need only be thin to have an attractive body. And I'm not talking about 95 lb anorexic thin, but rather just not fat. The majority of women in their late teens to late 20's can achieve this simply through diet...some are even so lucky to be blessed with great metabolism and can maintain this body even easier. Guys on the other hand aren't considered to have attractive bodies just by being thin. An attractive body is thin, yes, but also requires strength and muscle mass. I wonder if women realize what it takes to put on and maintain muscles. It takes a steady gym and fitness regiment. Commitment and effort. I am in no means complaining as I love to keep my body fit, but I wonder if women truly appreciate the effort we put in? Women complain a lot about how easy it is to be a guy, but IMO it takes equal (if not more effort) to be noticed by the opposite gender. Thin women will always have at least a few guys fawning over them, but thin guys need to hit the gym hard if they want that same appreciation.
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  • oh please. women go through more hell in being judged by their looks first of all. that's why vastly more teenage girls have eating disorders than men and there's an entire industry built on surgically improving everything society says needs to be improved on a womans body.

    secondly, attractive is subjective. I like kind of skinny but slightly toned guys. I like moderately muscular guys too, but usually I'm drawn to the tall, slim guys. there are a lot of circles where skinny guys are pretty popular. I don't care about the amount of time put in the gym. what do you want a gold star after every gym session or something?

    and you hit the nail on the head. "thin" women. not all women are thin, most arent. and then not all cultures idealize thin women. either way, not all women will always have a few guys fawning over them. Why should men be any different? If only specific types of women will always have attention from men in each culture, then why shouldn't only specific types of men always have attention from women in each culture? Men should always have appreciation, but only thin women should? Okay. That makes tons of sense.

    • Yeah I have to agree with this answer completely, and I'm a guy. Women have it 100 times harder in terms of being attractive then men do. I have to admit I'm guilty of only liking thin women though lol.

    • Women certainly are judged more for their looks, but surgically improving themselves and eating disorders are a "You" problem. No one says you need to be a supermodel, it is your fault if you feel the need to have the body of a super model. In reality, if you are thin that is plenty for most guys to consider you attractive. Simply being thin is generally not enough for women. If we just dieted we would have skinny arms and a concave chest.

    • you might like skinny guys, but chances are those guys aren't just dieting and thinking "ok...this is all I need to do because I'm thin". I'm willing to bet the vast majority of those skinny guys are hitting the gym because they want to get more muscle tone to be considered attractive to women. I think women take for granted that the female form is naturally attractive to women and being skinny is quite simply enough for most guys' tastes.

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  • Having an attractive body takes effort, and due to genetics some people have it much easier than others. I know that it's not en easy thing for guys to keep fit, strong and all that, but most women don't really like a lot of muscles on guys, just someone who's reasonably fit. Also, women put a lot of effort too. For one thing, girls put weight easier than guys do. Yes, some are blessed with great metabolism, but most women have to eat less than guys can to sustain being thin. If you take a girl and a guy of the same height, the girl will in most cases have to eat less to be of the same weight. I don't think many men would be able to endure diets girls torture themselves with. Girls are prone to cellulite, stretch marks, saggy boobs etc., they have to shave their whole bodies, it takes a lot of time, energy and money. All the things girls do every day - skin treatments, putting make up on, hair-dressing (I have a very long, heavy hair, and just curling it takes forever), getting their nails done - it's a LOT of work. It's not as physically demanding, but it takes so much times and some of it is expensive.

    • Great answer! Fair point!

    • Thanks :)

    • I appreciate the logical response and I respect everyone's opinions if they can state their case. Calling me ignorant and sexist or some other emotional blown up response is ridiculous because it doesn't prove anything. Only that you get upset easy.

  • Male and female bodies may experience different expectations, but they also have different biological traits that affect the ease of reaching these goals. Men gain muscle more easily than women do because of hormone differences, and they ALSO lose weight and keep it off more easily. In addition, men don't deal with the same hormonal fluctuations (from menstruation and pregnancy) that women do that can contribute to weight gain. So I don't know if I would argue that it's easier for women to look attractive, but I definitely wouldn't argue that it's easier for men.

    • P.S. There is a huge amount of variation from person to person. Some women lose weight more easily than other women, and some men more easily than other men. Obviously I've made some vast generalizations. But men TEND to gain muscle more easily, while women are more prone to fat storage.

    • I mean I don't know if I'd argue that it's HARDER for women to look attractive, but I definitely wouldn't say that it's harder for men. Lol! Sorry.

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  • As much as it pains me to say it - I think you're wrong about this one.

    Women struggle ETERNALLY to have an attractive body... it's SO much harder for them to control their weight than it is for men...

    I will admit that the skinny male is going unappreciated these days though, what with obesity rates soaring...

    Even though women have a lack of appreciation for men in general, I disagree with your question.

    • fair enough. I appreciate your comment

  • A man os suposed to be strong, manly ans fearless, you dont workout for girls, you lift heavy shit to go back to come back to your Roots, girls dont understant you are right, guys that dont lift either and they still hate about it, live with it bro, Stay hungry, enjoy iron

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  • Well I can only speak for myself, I notice when people take care of themselves and I think the hard work pays off. For some people like myself the lifestyle becomes habit/routine and its not so much "work" some of the time. (Not all of the time of course).

    • Agreed, but I think women take their attractiveness to the opposite gender for granted, especially when merely being thin is considered attractive for women. Like "wow all these guys are slobbering over me. what's wrong with those guys who complain about how hard it is to get a women or how hard it is for guys?" Meanwhile all she is doing is eating a salad for lunch everyday while a guy is killing himself at a gym to get a better body.

  • I do appreciate when guys take care of themselves, but in reality, thin guys are attractive and it's much easier for guys to be thin than girls.

    • yes, but if men simply dieted rather than work out they wouldn't be skinny, they would be scrawny. Two completely different things. If women dieted they would be thin which in a lot of guys eyes is enough. It really is. Acutally having a pulse in many cases is enough, but that is something else entirely ;)

    • I'm not sure you understand how hard it is for girls to be thin. Female bodies are *built* with extra fat because of childbearing. Simply dieting isn't enough. When I was 16, I had a summer job at a camp.. I walked for hours every day AND ate much less. And by the end of it, I still had a fluffy tummy and hips. That said, you're probably right that being thin is enough for girls, rather than being muscular. It's just not easy.

  • Some do, most don't. They are convinced that if they themselves pick up the heavy dumbbells, they'll get 'too muscular'. They have absolutely no idea how hard muscle gain is in comparison with fat loss.

    • that's what I'm thinking. Girls always tell you how tough it is because they need to do their hair and put on makeup and do their nails etc...But in reality that is just superficial stuff that. Time consuming? Yes! But no real physical exertion... When I woman is thin she gets noticed by the opposite gender. It isn't that simple for guys. A woman expects a man to be strong and muscular, but I don't think she realizes what it takes to get there.

    • I think women take their attractiveness to the opposite gender for granted.

    • Well, young ones sort of do, if they're naturally good looking. And why wouldn't they? If they're young, decent looking and slim, men are drooling over them. It doesn't last though. You can look at it as men need to put in more effort, on the other hand you can look at it as our effort pays off better.

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  • guys do not have to be bulky to be attractive... in face I hate bulk

    im not saying I don't like abs or nice shoulders but don't act like a guy has to be muscular to be good looking.

    i know tons of guys who eat like sh*t, and still have abs or still have muscle's.

    i have a very good metabolism for a girl but if I slip up on eating for more than a day, I've got a few days of catch up or I'm chubby. including exercise.

    • if they eat like sh*t and still have abs or muscles they are working out or playing a sport. Muscles don't magically happen.

    • sorry but some people are just lucky... my boyfriend can sit around eating sidekicks with no sports or working out and still have a sick pack... along with a lot of other guys I know. genetics make a whole of difference.

    • he either is working out, playing sports or you are way overexaggerating. You can't have six pack abs from doing nothing. He might not be fat, but I can guarantee he doesn't have a six pack.

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  • You are so mixed up. It is very difficult for women to look good. Guys have a higher metabolism and put on/ maintain muscle better than women do. Its just as difficult for women to look good and stay in shape as it is for men. Plus men are pickier women it comes to how a woman looks than women are about guys. Guys are more physically minded while women are emotionally.

  • I suppose it's harder for men to have the ''perfect body''

    But what I find funny is, if a guy is ugly he's ugly, if a girl is ugly she just has to use make-up

  • im sure most people in general know it takes a lot of work to take an attractive body. Although some people can have terrible diets but they still have a great body

  • ^^^For the most part women need only be thin to have an attractive body.^^^^

    That's an ignorant and sexist statement.

    • how is that ignorant and sexist? I am a guy and I'm telling you that for the most part women need only be thin to have an attractive body. Simply a superficial based merely on your body. Nothing more, nothing less. This is taking nothing else into account. It is impossible for that statement to be ignorant and sexist.

    • You are saying a woman doesn't need to work to stay attractive, that only a man does. This divided thinking stems from your contempt towards women for having it easier, as you see it. Based on my above conclusion, how is your statement not ignorant and sexist?

  • Yeah, women find it so EASY to be thin - that's why it's a multi billion dollar industry, and there are no fat women in the world.

    Idiot.

  • don't know. I'm a chubbychaser.