Girlfriend becoming prude, confusing and frustrating me.

[Anonymous]

Lately, my girlfriends libido has gone away. I was never really into sex, and she always wanted it. So we would have sex often as I would always do it and get into it for her. She started getting bad cramps, so the doctor prescribed her birth control. So I guess, 8 months later we barely do anything. Because of that, I'm always in the mood. I always want sex, I just want to do something intimate again. We barely make out anymore, and a lot of our kisses turn into pecks unless I'm leaving or something and she'll give me a more intimate kiss. She's never in the mood, she's slacking off in class. I'll try and make out with her and she'll never go with it and turn her head after a kiss or two. If I try and have sex, she'll just say she isn't in the mood. So, this would make me think she has no interest or she's bored. Yet, she always wants to see me, invites me over, compliments me all the time, makes plans and even talks about us getting married and having kids and such. I just get confused and annoyed, I want intimacy and I want romance. I'm starting to feel like we have the label of boyfriend and girlfriend yet we are just friends. I don't know why her sexual appetite took such a nose dive all of the sudden. I asked her today if she would send me a cute picture of her and she said she didn't feel like it. She used to send me several without me even asking. I jokingly mentioned today I'm unsatisfied sexually with our relationship, to which she replied 'Give it time.'. And I pressed it a little, and she just kept replying with 'Give it some time.' My birthday is coming up in a few weeks, and if we don't do ANYTHING sexually on that day, I'm not sure how I will react.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your girlfriend is depressed or something may be bothering her. Normally that is the case when someone loses their sex drive. If you come at her saying she doesn't give you enough sex you're coming at her on the offense and making it even worse for yourself and that'll prolong her even further from being intimate with you. What you should do is sit her down one day and say "hey, I'm really concerned right now. We used to be very intimate and now it seems we aren't as much. Is everything okay? You know I care about you and you can talk to me." that comes off as you're actually concerned about her well being and she will probably open up to you, not just "oh you font give me enough sex" and making her feel like a bad girlfriend. Also birth control can reduce a womans libido due to hormones but it's usually not a significant amount, I think there's other underlying issues.

[diegoD]

dump her