My guy friend has been bringing up sex a lot

[Anonymous]

I've known him for a year & a half..Before you judge, we are very comfortable with each other, so things get pretty raw & vulgar. I'm sorta in love with him, but he doesn't know. We really close and we literally stay up for hours (until 5-6am) hanging out & talking. Anyway lately during those late night talks he's been getting really sexual.. When we're talking or watching t.v he'll randomly put on p*rn on his phone & turns it up to where I can hear like the girl screaming & moaning and stuff.. He talk about and ask me if I masturbate. He knows I'm a virgin & he always ask about my sex life and he asks you must be horny..i know what you want. He talks about his penis size & showed me a picture of it..he always says "your future husband...so & so" He would always do that. but lately it's been happening more and more. he typically does this when we've been drinking alittle but he acts like this sober too. He hasn't made any moves or anything.. I like him a lot, so I don't just want sex from him. & I don't wanna make him seem like a horny jerk, because I wouldn't like him if he were like that. I like nice guys..not jerks. We have normal conversations like I said for hours, we talk about religion, racism, we tell each other stories,our fears, what we want to do with our lives etc.. we went to prom together, he's told me things he's never told anyone else, & he's kissed me once before on my cheek. & he's very sweet to me so its not like just awkward sex talk. I've never like anyone how I like him, but I so afraid to tell him and ruin everything and our friendship the way it is. most people would say he likes me, but it's been so long, I think he would've told me by now... Anyway I don't know what to do with this situation... & why is he bringing up sex so much all of a sudden ? any (preferably male) advice would do a world of good for me

[JohnWhilkins]

Damn. Tough spot.

You guys sexually validate each-other, so check that.

You seem to have genuine love since you build so much rapport, constantly.

Everything else you mentioned seem to check out too so on the outside there's no reason why your relationship shouldn't be working out.

Do you feel sexually attracted to him? If yes then I'd at least consider it.

The only parallel I can draw is that I've been horny of friends of mine but as soon as I wasn't horny it was like (holy sh*t what was I thinking of).

You'll probably need advice but instead of just male, you need the advice to come from somebody that's been in the EXACT same situation.

[JohnScofield]

Men are funny creatures. My guess is that he likes you. My guess is that he also is a horny son of a gun. Ultimately life is about risk. Are you going to take a risk and go for the glory or are you going to one day find yourself asking "if I had only just..."

[Cowboy5]

Maybe give him a HJ. Once he xplodes, the sex talk and thoughts of other stuff will go away for a while. have fun with it.

[sikoo31]

he wants to f*** you, for sure.