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OK, I walked in on my male roommate masturbating?

the other day when I woke up, I went to take a shower, and the bathroom door was open a crack so I didn't think much of pushing it open, and there was my roommate jerking off, worst part was it was at the climax, or in other words he was cumming. I immediately walked out and then screamed at him. He apologized and everything. Ok here is the thing, I know is wrong that he is jerking off in our shared bathroom, especially with the door unlocked, but the scary part is I cannot stop thinking about it, and its not that I think it is gross, I get really turned on by thinking of the moment I saw him cumming, and I know it is wrong. I really do not know how to handle this, I am mad at him for being a pig, but also I feel like I want to watch him.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • i think there a couple of issues here.

    issue 1

    You walked in on him wanking. This only happened once. He apologized. I think you need to give him the benefit of the doubt and say it was not intended. You're reaction is strange. You call him a pig and you screamed at him. Are you offended by masturbation, or guys or just guys wanking? I'm not sure what there is to be so upset about.

    Issue 2

    Getting sexual involved with a flatmate (roommate). Don't do it. It never ends well. This is a guy you will have to live with. Its a receipt for disaster. Sure if you want to watch someone wank, then ask another guy, buy some porn, but never your flatmate

    • Wrong on issue 2. I've slept with several roommates, and had a ball. Trick is, just like screwing in the office you must, AT THE BEGINNING, have this talk: "We start this like grownups, do this like grownups, and end this like grownups. Otherwise, we waste time and make a mess. Deal?"

  • First, get it out into the open. Generally, any orgasm you see, you get to talk about. So set some jerkoff ground rules--like no unlocked doors. (Forget trying to ban his orgasms. Coming is a universal human right)

    Then, throw in: "If you have to jerk off with the door unlocked, I get to watch. It makes me hot." If he asks why it makes you hot: "I don't know. You don't need to."

    (You don't have to explain--or even know--why something makes you hot. Which is why the steady flood of "Why does X make me hot?" questions stagger me.)

Most Helpful Girls

  • Everyone masturbates, babe! Well, mostly everyone ;o) Perhaps he could have been a bit more discreet about it, but he apologized and everything, so it doesn't sound like he is a pig. It's not wrong to get turned on by seeing him cum; I get turned on by seeing guy's cum, too! If you feel like you want to watch him, then approach him about it and be honest. I'm sure a guy wouldn't turn that offer down :o)

  • first off...he was not being a pig and he has every right to masturbate in that bathroom, granted he should have closed and locked the door. he is not in the wrong.

    second off...i think it would be a little odd if you were not at least a little turned on by it.

  • Relax! It's not like he did it on purpose and plus he did apologize. he's a guy, so therefore don't be mad at him. Now you want to watch him masturbate? tell him. I'm sure he would loved for you to watch. so just ask him if you can :)

    • I disagree. He didn't lock the door and even left it open. As males we are conditioned to locking the door and making absolutely sure that we jerk off in perverted privacy.

    • Dillion-Um... no. Not all of us. Some of us don't lock the door because we expect people to knock before barging in (it is a bathroom, after all). Others don't think of masturbation as a perversion and thus don't hide it.

    • Exactly!!!!!!!! I could see if it was a bedroom but it was the bathroom, and frankly I don't think she should even be mad at him for that. She should have been more aware that somebody could be in the bathroom.

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  • don't deny your human nature. we all want to reproduce. believe me, ur gonna have some serious psychological problems later if you "disowned" this part of yourself. you should accept what happened and even try it yourself. go try it! sex and masturbation isn't bad! just do it wisely and don't catch yourself one of them std or unwanted preg.

  • First of all, when you walk in on someone having sex, you walk away without further comment. If you would like to join them, you can stick around but you should be showing approval. The choice of your inclusion in the activity is theirs and you accept the decision without comment.

    At least that is the way it is done among my associates.

    In this case, you have a problem because you have already indicated that the activity isn't ok and that it bothers you. I suspect it does since you refer to him as being a pig.

    Inventory what you want first. Do you want to start a sexual relationship with him or do you just want to watch him jack off? The second might be a little more tricky because there is already a bad history there. A better option might be to find another guy who knows in advance you are just looking to watch. It saves lots of confusion.

  • Tell him you want to watch him, you would turn him on so much.

  • I think you should decide if you want to see him jerking off again for real.
    If yes, tell him it freaked you out but only because it was unexpected. I can just about guarantee he would give you a front row seat to watch him masturbate if you had the courage to ask. Just set rules if you have no further intentions with him.

  • That is hot. Love jerking off when someone is interested in watching

  • May be old but for what it's worth set some ground rules like locking doors etc. or keeping it to your own rooms. You're not a pig for thinking it's hot. The same thing happened to me (I live with three other women in a flat) where one of my flatmates opened my door and she saw me doing it. Was embarrassing at first, but then she approached me after a few days and asked me if she could watch next time and I let her and we had god fun with it. Let's just say I ended up doing a striptease and letting them watch me jerk off for all three of my flatmates on several occasions, including a couple of their (female) friends from time to time.

  • I say he should have locked the door but he didn't and he did say he was sorry so you all are good now but if you want to watch just ask because he is going to get even more turned on and I'm sure you will enjoy it also

  • He wasn't being a pig. People masturbate, and you are a grownup who chose to have a male room mate.

    Of course, he should have locked the door.

    Anyway, there are going to be sexual tensions between opposite sex room mates. Hell, even opposite sex friends experience them. You need to get used to it.

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