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Usually, girls seem to not want to open their legs for their man as much as he wants to get in there, correct?

It seems like guys in general want to get near/in their girl’s vulva as many times as possible, as much as possible. Why don’t the girls in general seem to have this mutual desire at the same level? Or do they? It seems like girls want it less, they’re more withdrawn or reserved about it, and don’t take the initiative to get their man in between their legs. Why is this? Also, correct me if I’m wrong. For instance, do the girls really want such pleasurable, intimate contact as much as the guys want to give it but just tend to not show it?
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  • It depends.

    First, some females tend to date guys who are a strong balance of compatibility, comfort and chemistry. In may cases, this means that her partner has a stronger sexual desire for her than she does for him, but she has a strong emotional bond to him that makes up for the lower sexual desire.

    Second, females hormones fluctuate. When she is ovulating, she thinks about sex all day long and probably masturbates more frequently than a guy of the same age does on an average day. However, this state only lasts a day or two each month. In between times, her sexual interest is usually lower.

    Third, females use more caution when it comes to sex, no matter how much their bodies are begging for it. We bear the burden of childbirth, we get attached easier and stds are meaner to our bodies.

    Fourth, it takes more time and more direct physical contact to work a female into a sexual frenzy, for the most part. The amount of arousal guys feel with visuals alone (young) or a few strokes (older) takes us much more foreplay to achieve.

    Fifth, we don't know if we are going to orgasm or not from sex, so it doesn't mean it will always be pleasurable. In fact, sometimes it is uncomfortable or even hurts quite a bit for various reasons -- even for experienced women.

  • We do want sex, and we want that intimate contact as much as guys. However, guys will want it no matter what's going on with the relationship (usually). As long as he still finds her attractive, he will want the sex. We are not like this. We need to feel cherished and emotionally fulfilled outside the bedroom, to want to be intimate inside the bedroom. This is not about control. When my ex began pulling back and not fulfilling my emotional needs, I literally had to hold back tears when we would have sex. I was scared to withhold sex for fear of making our relationship worse, but in the end, it was destroying me and making me feel like a sex object.

    When women are feeling loved and cherished by their man emotionally, we can't stop thinking about having sex and being intimate with him. We want it all the time.

    • I completely agree, especially with the last paragraph, and I try to tell guys this all the time. I work really hard in my relationships to give my girl attention and care at ALL times, and as a result, they all become nymphos around me who can't get enough, and will do ANYTHING to make me happy. Sometimes it just means I sit and listen to her for 15-20 minutes without being distracted, and other times, it's doing something simple, like cooking breakfast for her. You get what you give.

  • we're just raised so much differently than guys are in regards to sex it's really hard to explain. Guys are just generally more aggressive about it and that's a drive you have and it's socially acceptable where as girls have that drive we're just told it's bad to have it and we need to control it and not to hand it out cause any guy will take it if they can. Sort of the same way we're so different about crying. We're told it's OK to cry from a young age so we freely cry when we feel like it and guys are told not to cry so you stuff that emotion down as much as possible.

    that's the best way I can draw a parallel for you hope that makes sense

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  • Girls have a sex drive that is based upon their hormonal cycles, while men are horny all the time. Basically, women have less desire on average, plus they have to worry more about pregnancy, STDs and so forth. Girls contract STD's at a much higher rate than guys due to the way a vagina is designed. Also, girls due to the way certain chemicals are released in their brains, they tend to bond more with guys they have sex with, which makes things confusing for them if the guy hits and runs. Most girls don't like casual sex, but prefer it with a regular man, whereas men don't have the same level of bonding chemicals in the brain after sex.

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  • fear of smell or taste... you see women give blow jobs all the time in p*rn men going down on a woman in p*rn is a bit harder to find.. so it's seems a bit taboo or not expected from a man so I think women get kind of scared not that they don't want it...

  • Give the first anon girl best answer! I want sex just as much as my boyfriend does, provided our relationship is on good terms for the time being. If I'm angry with him or upset I'm not into it.

  • They want it as much.

  • Because if a girl opened her legs to every guy she wanted to bang then everyone would call her a slut. But a guy can sleep with a countless amount of girls and he's looked up to.

  • i enjoy sex and am pretty uninhibited regarding sex with someone that I care about... but I personally am just nervous/embarassed of what a guy might think. I don't think its particularly attractive... so the thought of spreading my legs expecially for a guy to put his face all up close and personal is mortifying to me even though I love oral and wish I was confident enough to enjoy it more.

  • i wanted sex a lot more than most of my previous boyfriends and I love intimate contact! :D



  • If a guy is very attractive, your hormones will take over just like a guys will when he's with a woman he's highly attracted to

  • The society has double standards for men and women. When a guy sleeps around he is just a normal guy but if a girl does, people call her names. Girls usually want to meet the social expectation and be a "good girl". Also I think most girls want sex to be more than just sex. Besides, sex drive varys. Every girl is different.

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