I have never been with a virgin before. Have I missed out on something in life?

[zolly9999]

Guys tell me have I missed out on something spectacular in life? I lost my virginity when I was 14 and have been with a few different girls but never a virgin. I'm 38 now so I know my time has past ( to be with a virgin). I have always wondered if I missed out on something special...

[relationshipDNA]

If nervous and stiff is your thing, then, yah. You're missing out.

Seriously, what are they saying you missed out on? I can think of a few falsehoods they're constantly spreading. I think it's all mental. The idea that no ones been there but you might be an attractive notion. Or maybe idea is she is tighter down there which might provide more pleasure. Perhaps the idea is that she's clueless as to what a good lover feels like and will take anything as it is.

Every girl had a first time. Ask them and they'll tell you that they were mostly nervous and unsure of what to do. It might have even been a painful experience. If you go get yourself a virgin, don't expect to get your socks knocked off. I think pro's in any profession or task, always do it better than the newbies.

[zolly9999]

I'm just curious if I missed out on anything... I never said was. Haven't you been curious about something?

[relationshipDNA]

I was just giving perspective. I'm saying, on this...I don't think you're missing out, but yes, I'm curious about stuff.

[zolly9999]

Ok that's cool. I appreciate your input. :)

[Anonymous]

Why do guys want to glorify being with a virgin so much? Maybe if you're a Muslim or something I understand? The other guy put it perfectly. You'll get blood on your d*** and she won't enjoy it because it hurts so much, leaving you dissatisfied. Is it the whole that she's never been "touched" by another man? Well she may have given blow jobs, been eaten out, fingered, came on, that doesn't make her untouched exactly unless you find some completely innocent shut in which is extremely rare. Instead of pondering on what you're missing out on being with a virgin and be grateful for the good sex you've had with experienced women.

[zolly9999]

I'm not glorifying anything I'm just curious that all. Don't get me wrong I'm not stopping have sex lol . Aren't you curious about things you have never had?

[dudeman]

because its in male nature women don't seem to understand or even care anymore how males think

[dudeman]

sex with an experienced women is nothing to be grateful for its like being happy you can beat the sh*t out of a five year old

[jacquesvol]

Why? Maybe this quote I found on GaG: "I think the guys who are obsessed with dating virgins are simply terrified of being compared to past lovers. (A fear that would be even worse if she was a hooker who had many many past lovers.)"

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[dudeman]

no that's not it at all jac

[Opinion Owner]

It's not in male nature to be glorified. Dudeman your so bitter against women I don't even take them into consideration anymore. All you ever do is bash on women who are comfortable with being sexual. Maybe your just trying to over come your own issues with that.

[Opinion Owner]

Also saying a virgin is more likely to stay with you and decrease divorce rates is utterly ridiculous. In fact a lot of virgin women cheat on the man they lost their virginity to because they feel they are missing out on life. Whose doing these so called studies you are holding so much claim to, Mohammad?

[dudeman]

im not bashing them I am just stating the facts, when has facts been a bad thing. I find ignoring the facts to be more harmful because that ignores issues of society

[dudeman]

also this is not ridiculous because it is the truth and no studies would show otherwise that a virgin is less likely to cheat. This is is western cultures mind you. I'm not saying all virgins are like this but a great majority when being compared to non virgins

[curiousched]

stop trying to ease your conscience,

[Anonymous]

Well think about this...imagine the girls you had sex with who had the least experience. Were they more fun than the experienced girls? A girl who's a virgin will just be a more extreme version of the less experienced chicks you've banged. She'll be more nervous, tense, clueless...she'll just lay there and want you to do everything. And moans of pain will be more common than moans of pleasure. And there will be blood.

I've never had sex with a virgin guy either. Am I missing out? When you first put out were you really on your game?

[HandsomeRaj]

Buddy, I've never bothered about that thing called Hymen. I merely see it as nature's creation. I know tons of women who've had anal an oral but saved their 'virginity' for marriage.

I've come across virgins at times but when I realize they are 'virgins' I've abstained from s** with them.Just don't want to do it to a virgin - don't ask me why but I just don't want to.

Answering your question:

1. NO you haven't missed out on anything here

2. If you want to lay a virgin, allow me to assure you it's never too late.

[jacquesvol]

" never too late" Indeed, a 50 year old co worker married a 49 year old woman and told me she was a virgin. It wasn't the moment to ask details. ;)

[HandsomeRaj]

:) thanks :) and there are exceptions to every rule and everywhere

[Distant]

If you consider a bloody penis and a girl shouting "Ow! Ow! Ow!" special, then yes. Yes, you have.

[zolly9999]

Lol. Like I said I have never been with one so I don't know what to expect.

[LUCYLUCK]

Really isn't all that special. It's messy, awkward and then she will be clingy beyond words to you after. I'd say you dodged a bullet more so than missed something

[dudeman]

i think billions of men throughout history would disagree with you on the special thing, todays marriage depression and divorce rates would also disagree with you as well

[britannny]

What does virginity have to do with marriage, depression, and divorce? Nothing, I think. Also, not all girls are "clingy beyond words" after... Were you, lucyluck, lol? But anyways. It really isn't that special.

[LUCYLUCK]

no I really wasn't clingy after britannny, but I know enough girls who were

[curiousched]

your comment explains the whole divorce thing - the non-virgins are forever hung up on guy #1, still clinging to his memory whilst the hubby has to put up with used goods. non-virgin women will never be as valuable as virgin women.

[NMMan]

Doesn't sound like you've missed out.

[britannny]

First time sex usually SUCKS for girls. It's nothing special. Like one user said, all that is to be expected is a bloody penis. And it can be awkward.

You're missing nothing.

[dudeman]

if you really think they are not linked then you just don't know what you are talking about

[dudeman]

studies would highly agree with me, after a women has just five partners her chances of a marriage lasting longer then five years drops below thirty percent if she is a virgin her chances of her marriage working are almost ninety percent. sorry lady but I know what I'm talking about

[dudeman]

not to mention women initiate over 70 percent of divorce, so any women who is not a virgin is a really bad bet for a LTR

[britannny]

Lol, OK. : ) You're totally right. You seem to have it all together, I'm sorry.

[britannny]

I honestly don't really care that much. But whatever. I still think there isn't a real connection.

[dudeman]

whats with the sarcasm I was just stating facts or are facts to much for you to deal with?

[britannny]

... lol

[rockcandy]

Maybe dudemans just talking about clinginess. Of course, I think his stats have less to do with a woman simply being a virgin/inexperienced and more to do with traditional values. And since the traditional types value marriage and don't sleep around much it just so happens they will have less partners

[britannny]

Also, traditional types tend to believe in staying with one person NO MATTER WHAT, lol. No matter how miserable they make each other.

[curiousched]

this isn't a place to try to ease your conscience, the reason why non-virgins get miserable is because they are not content and never will be. In my experience - women and men who claim virginity isn't important are just trying really hard to accept themselves and make people believe they are correct when in fact they deeply regret not waiting. they can never truly form a deep emotional bond.

[jacquesvol]

IMHO you didn't miss something special.

I''ve known* only one

Her first time was good for both of us but the next times were better.

*known in biblical sense

[dudeman]

yes it means no women ever truly loved you, I'm not lying about that its what I truly believe

[britannny]

Not a logical answer. Just sayin'.

[dudeman]

very logical

[dudeman]

ok maybe she truly loved you but studies show her love doesn't mean much

[risingphoenix201011]

Don't listen to this guy. He's just mad because he can't get laid :)

[rockcandy]

So you think all virgins fall in love with the first guy? Does this apply to male virgins too? And even if this is true, its shallow puppy love just based on sex and firsties. Haha risingphoenix...

[dudeman]

no it doesn't apply to guys, and no not all virgins but the statistics would say the majority that only been with one man at the time of marriage would most likely

[curiousched]

You are correct - regardless of what the whores say.

[MikeK]

I've never desired a virgin. I'm not opposed to them, but I certainly wouldn't seek one out.

[cgraves561]

It is wonderful!

[Anonymous]

Wish I had sex for the first time at 14

[Anonymous]

Yes, you have no reason to live. Now go down to your local high school and pick one out.

[zolly9999]

Nope sorry I thing I will pass .

[hotcaribbeanbarbie]

lol

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

He'll likely end up in prison for that, then he'll be the one that's picked out.

[Opinion Owner]

Elementary or Primary Schools would probably be getting out around now.

[zolly9999]

I'M NOT INTO LITTLE GIRLS! I prefer women! That's a retarded typo in my last comment. I can't remove the stupid thing!

[zolly9999]

Stupid autocorrect ...

[Anonymous]

Nope. Usually when you have sex with a virgin its an awkward experience. Since its her first time it will hurt her, and you'd be lucky if you got to finish.

[zolly9999]

Never thought of that...