Guy always turns the conversation dirty

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy for a little over two weeks, and he finally made a move on me by telling me "we're good lookin besties", then I said I definitely agree with that, so now we've been talking for a few days. I'm 19 and he's 24. The first day after we got past the good looking thing he was complimenting me on my butt, but he didn't go too far.. then two days after that we had "normal" flirty texting conversations without anything dirty, and today we started out with a normal convo but after a while he turned it dirty again talking about my butt and saying some stuff about thongs, then he said how "I got something big so I'm in charge here".. but he didn't go any further. Then I told him how he needs to behave ha ha and he's all "I do? :( can I be a little naughty.." And this conversation happened in the light of day so it's not like he's looking for a booty call during this convo.. I've heard it's natural for guys to turn the conversation dirty, but if they do this a lot are they only after one thing? Like in person he seems to be a bit nervous around me, and he flirts a bit but not over the top like he does in texting. He seems like a really sweet and funny guy in person but then when I see his dirty side come out so quickly I'm like oh.. does he only like my body then and only wants sex? Advice please!

[Anonymous]

It is a catch 22 for guys. If a guy does go dirty, he gets accused of being a pervert. If a guy doesn't get a little bit dirty, then the girl thinks he's a lame virgin that doesn't have any sexual confidence. I've tried both methods. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. The problem is, as a guy, you don't know what method is going to work on a girl until you try it. All guys want sex, some are looking for relationships, some aren't.

[Asker]

So if I flat out tell the guy that I'm not easy and he keeps talking to me the same amount, would you say this is a good sign or not?

[Opinion Owner]

You could tell him that, but it comes off as a bit confrontational. Just say easy there tiger, not so fast. :)

[prophecy]

he's starving. two weeks of japing - I think it's enough, time for some action.

[3boys4me]

I personally think that early on when a guy turns things sexual w out knowing you all that well then he's just kinda interested in sex. If a guy is interested in getting to know you and is genuinely into you he won't bring this stuff up so early for fear of scaring you off. To me that's just a red flag and I would steer clear if you're looking for more then just sex.

[CrystalMinds]

Reminds me of a guy I know. He was friendly to me, nice, flirty, and things started to get perverted after a few texts. Then he lied about his feelings for me to get me into bed, I turned him down a couple of times and now he can't stand me anymore, haha, sorry I'm not easy!

[MeridiansAAngel]

ask him, is this only a sexual thing or do you actually like me for me.

-A