Threesome Fantasy MMF or FFM , what's the difference Guys?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were texting he began telling me about how he needed intimacy with me, I assumed he was referring to sex because he'd begun talking about my body. I told him I missed him too & he said he wanted to make love to me..all night ect.. He had a chance to be here a few weeks ago but had told me it wasn't worth traveling for only two days together, I thought that strange but could only accept it. As the texting transferred to sexting I started with a fantasy and he joined in with what he'd like to do to me. Never before had I text or discussed a thresome but I added that. It started as FF, me and another woman. I asked him if he'd like to watch that and he said " yes, of coarse".. I was a little surprised but continued the fantasy for him, he seemed to enjoy it , I added that he'd have sex with the other woman and his reply was, "sure I'd do it if that would turn you on, I guess it would be alright." ...That response seemed weak to me... So I then changed it to MMF as in he, I and another guy, another guy having sex with me! Then he responded with " I wouldn't want to share you, yet".. Yet? For an instant I felt special , as if he wouldn't want to see another guy enjoying the woman he claims to love. He hadn't been saying I love you much prior to that text but now he is constantly texting and saying it.. I realize this was all just a fantasy, we have never done and probably will never do a 3 some..I In fact, I 'd never discussed it with a man or woman before. Really just wanted to turn him on via text. Unfortunately I have been thinking a lot about his response which strikes me as a double standard. .. I did talk to him about it later, didn't dwell on it but asked him again about it, he couldn't give me a clear answer about the "yet".. What do you all think?

[NoOneListens21]

One of the guys I know said he would get jealous but at the same time it would turn him on and he wanted to test it out to see how much he could take. I guess it's a jealousy thing but at the same time a turn on maybe like watching p*rn but you're there and someone you know or love is getting f***ed by another man. Jealousy or anger can turn some people on or bring out more passion in them. OR he could say he's not comfortable with it as of now because the idea isn't sitting right with him and maybe he'd like to try it out some time or even MFF.

I think it's natural to think about or even want to try or try a 3way. He may want to and maybe you don't. Maybe you should talk to him to see how he feels about it and maybe you can find out something new. Threesomes can be tricky though =/ especially if one gets jealous easy or isn't comfortable with it/doesn't want to do it.

[Asker]

Thank You, I believe you are right about alot. I just think we will stay away from this subject in the future. Its very hard for me to imagine the man I love or my future husband having sex with another woman..especially with my approval. Makes me a little sad..

[NoOneListens21]

np. ^_^

[Michael-in-SC]

Some people just can't deal with it emotionally. I've been in FFM's and MFM's with my wife (and been the third wheel a couple of times in other MFM's) and had a lot of fun with all of it. If there is genuine trust in a relationship, it can be a bonding experience for the couple. The only time I got a little bit jealous was during my first threesome (a FFM) when the other girl was paying more attention to my wife than to me. I soon realized they had done this before, and my wife confirmed later that night that she was bi and that was her girlfriend. And FYI, in threesome parlance, the middle letter usually indicates the gender of the person who is receiving most of the attention from the other two. Therefore a MMF usually implies some sexual interaction between the males, whereas a MFM implies no or very limited, incidental contact between the males.

[Anonymous]

The issue isn't the "yet". It's the selfishness that all of us have in ourselves...

We all want to have a free f&ck with someone else, but not share what "belongs to us". In other words, we guys would be very thrilled with a MFF thresome, but not a MMF!

Frankly this is my fantasy too. But I don't ever think I'd get down to doing it, because it's so much like "cheating" and could have all kinds of repercussions on the relationship!

[Asker]

Thank you for making it plain and clear. I feel its like cheating too I would never want to see my husband or boyfriend whom I love sharing himself sexually with another woman. I think some fantasies are best kept in the fantasy world. As a woman I feel there would always be a shattered trust..he'd always use the " but you said you wanted it too" line & I'd always think he'd prefer someone else over me. those are serious repercussions. It could even end the relationship..

[CuriousEddie]

It's just all fantasy -- don't try to overanalyze it. Perhaps he thought you wanted to have sex with another guy... are you getting upset over him letting you have imaginary sex in an imaginary situation with an imaginary guy?

[tadpole25]

FFM - very good threesome

MMF - very bad threesome

MMM - horrific (unless you are gay)

there is no middleground in threesomeland

[ThatBritishLad]

It'd be more awkward if it turned out to be an MMH scene D:

[Pantybroker]

Hey there! I stumbled upon your question about the difference between MMF and FFM threesomes. It's definitely an interesting topic to explore. Based on your description of your conversation with your boyfriend, it seems like you both ventured into the realm of sexual fantasies and exploring different scenarios.

From what you shared, it seems like you started with the idea of a FFM threesome, which stands for Female-Female-Male. This involves you and another woman engaging in sexual activities, and your boyfriend watching or participating with you both. However, your boyfriend expressed some hesitancy, which could be due to jealousy or insecurity. As the conversation progressed, you changed the scenario to MMF, which stands for Male-Male-Female. This involves you, your boyfriend, and another man engaging in sexual activities together.

His response of "I wouldn't want to share you, yet" suggests that he might have conflicting feelings about the idea. It's important to remember that sexual fantasies are not necessarily indicative of what someone actually wants to experience in reality. It's common for people to have fantasies that may not align with their actual desires or comfort level.

Discussing fantasies like these can sometimes bring up complex emotions and raise questions about trust and boundaries in a relationship. It's great that you had an open conversation with your boyfriend about it. It's important to keep communication open, honest, and non-judgmental. Understanding each other's boundaries and desires is key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Ultimately, it's up to you and your boyfriend to decide what feels right for your relationship. It's perfectly okay if you decide to keep your fantasies in the realm of imagination. Remember, fantasies are personal and subjective, and it's important to prioritize the emotional well-being and comfort of both partners. Good luck navigating this exploration together!

[Anonymous]

The idea of MMF and MFF both turn me on, for different reasons, and in fantasyland, it's all cool.

However, seeing another dude entering my woman in real life would probably get me arrested for homicide.