Will anyone ever love me ever again knowing I have HPV?

[Anonymous]

I'm 21 and I found out my ex gave me HPV... and I have genital warts now... I feel ruined and I feel like damaged goods... I would never wanna give this to anyone else... so I know it probably means I can't let anyone fall in love with me... or have kids or be able to love a guy cause the pain to be rejected I don't want that... I don't wanna kill myself...I wanna live but I wanna b loved and be married one day and have kids... I just feel hopeless...i just hate this... and plus I got so much stress in my life and bad things happening to me... can a guy ever wanna love or marry me or make love to me... and I am a very atttractive girl , I know guys will like me but once they know I have HPV I know they will reject me ='( I hate this I hate myself now ='(

[Anonymous]

Someone will love you. I promise. I'm 21 I have HSV. I found out when I was 19. My ex knew he had it, but infected me any way. This is NOT your fault. AT ALL. So stop blaming yourself.

My outlook on it has changed over time. You will stop letting it define you, and you won't even think about it any more. Some guys may reject you, but it will be alright.. For the most part you will be surprised at how accepting they are. Personally, I have never been rejected for it, and I've been told that it's probably because I don't make a huge deal out of it or that it is the end of the world. Plus I made sure to educate potential suitors when I told them about it. Ignorance is going to exist, but you will learn to ignore it.

Plus, SO many people have things like this. There is a dating website called positive singles, and there are a lot of great people on there who have been exactly where you are right now. Look up support online, try to find someone to talk to. Again, I promise it gets better. Plenty of men will still want to date you and make love to you. I now have a boyfriend who doesn't have it, and he loves me all the same... If someone is worth it, they will understand.

You will get married, you will have kids... There is no reason that you won't have a normal life. At least it is not HIV, it's more or less a skin condition.

Chin up, sweetheart. It can only get better.

[Asker]

Thanks so much... your words mean a lot to me ='( ... you are so kind *hugs* Yea I've been crying myself to sleep since I found out... you made me feel a bit better...thank you so much

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously not a problem... I'd be glad to help any way that I can. The crying will stop, I promise. New strength every single day! You're more than this disease... You're still you.

[Asker]

true I am still me ... yea God probably knows I can handle it...thank God for people like you..thanks :)

[Opinion Owner]

He certainly knows that you can! That's one thing I had to make sure I continued to tell myself... He wouldn't throw anything at me that I couldn't handle. I'm glad you're feeling a little bit better!

[Anonymous]

Like one in 3 people have HPV... you're not alone. I have HPV and so do at least half of my friends. I got the kind that causes abomal cells on my cervix. It's called the "common cold of stds." Most people know someone who has it or have it themselves. Most guys don't know if they have it or not, but most who have been sexually active kind of seem to assume they've been exposed to it if they've had unprotected sex.

It doesn't cause many serious side effects for most people, especially the kind that causes warts. Chillax and make sure you get regular pap smears just in case you got the dangerous kind that can lead to cervical cancer IF left untreated. Even in the worst case scenario, it only does major damage if you don't take care of yourself. Use condoms, not just to keep it from spreading but because they seem to help against relapses in symptoms for most people. There is even evidence that your body can clear it completely, though this has neither been proven nor disproven.

Also, stress will make your symptoms last longer. Eat lots of vegetables, cut down on junk food cigarettes, alcohol. Exercise. Learn to keep your stress levels down. There are a variety of techniques -- meditation and journaling are my favorite.

[Asker]

thanks for answering... yea I truly have to learn to relax... and I will take care of myself... I will do anything to better not worsen

[Opinion Owner]

It'll be ok! I freaked out when I first found out, but it's been five years now and I've had a two boyfriends who were like, "Oh yeah, my ex had that..." which means they already had it... It may not always work out like that, but please don't feel so alienated and damaged over something that is so common. If anything, it's a sign to take better care of your body because a lot of people have it and don't even know ... symptoms are more a sign that your immune needs a boost. Big hugs!

[Asker]

I know I gotta relax cause stress causes it to worsen... yea but in my country guys are that judgemental... good thing is I don't plan to live in my country very soon... I will do my best to not freak out or alienate myself but I just don't understand how my ex could of known he had it and not tell me , I would have still love him but I would have used protection always... Yea I gotta boost my immune system and be more healthy...thank you so much for your answer =') *HUGS*

[Opinion Owner]

He may have had no idea. Most guys don't develop symptoms. Females are more prone to showing syptoms. With more diseases like gonnorea developing strains that don't respond to antibiotics, this little skin phenomon may end up being a blessing in disguise if it encourages more people have safe sex.

[Asker]

Yea that's true... just wish we weren't the examples ..you know

[Opinion Owner]

We could be one of the ones who don't develop the gonnorea that ruins our reproductive organs ;)

[Asker]

we won't! XP

[Asker]

Hey have you ever had sex while having a genital wart inside your vagina?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I have the kind that causes cervical dysplasia ... which is more dangerous even though you can't really see it.

[Anonymous]

I hear there are precautions you can take.

A condom for all sexual activities is a must now. I'm not sure what you can do about the whole genital warts thing, but a condom for sure will help it from spreading.

I hear there are cremes you can use to make the symptoms go away...not the virus, just the symptoms. You also have to be completely honest with any future sexual partners.

[parkway]

The good thing is you don't have AIDs.

You will find a guy to love you.

Your guy is still out there passing his little friend around to all the girls he can find. He knew he was infected. Many women think that being beautiful has many advantages. I only see beauty as attracting more trash to you. If you were plain Jane would you be infected now at this moment? Possibly no.

Do you know how guys like him think? They don't care. They feel that if a woman is dumb enough to have sex with him, then they deserve it. The law is on his side to a point. We both know there are women standing in line to be with them. If he runs out of women here he just moves and keeps going. Women in foreign countries are very bad at spreading the joy.

You are only thinking about the negative. Yes you must think hard about having a child. First you must calm down. High levels of emotions and negative feeling will cause more harm to your body and outbreaks.

Now would be a good time to change your perspective and begin to recognize the things you are thankful for. Change your thought process and go to a better place and your life will begin to improve. Lucifer has played a nasty game on you and he is still working unless you change your way of thinking.

Good luck and take care,

[sage-of-caring]

And ex of mine has HIV and she was very distressed like you are. The fact that she has HIV makes the idea of having sex more dangerous (we used to be friends with benefits). I will admit that I was afraid to have sex with her but only because I wasn't in a committed relationship with her. I did look into it and there are ways to lower the risk of infecting someone, I believe there are also ways to even have kids (I know there may be complications depending on what STI you have and I haven't look into them all).

In the end she started dating this guy and she told him she had HIV and he was scared but he also said he still liked her and really cared for her, eventually they did have sex and used all the protection they could, he got regular blood tests and he was really committed to her. He said he was committed to her and wanted to be with her. Last I heard they were still together.

[Asker]

thanks so much for telling me this... it helps

[sage-of-caring]

no problem I wish you the best.

[TheUglyOne]

HPV doesn't normally have symptoms in guys, though some varieties can. You'll be okay, it's not the end of the world.

[Asker]

it is don't you see. who would want someone with HPV?

[TheUglyOne]

Me, since my wife has HPV. Even got some precancerous cells that were spotted and removed.

[Asker]

did you know this before you got into a relationship with her? that's nice... I just wouldn't wanna give someone it you know...so terrified of being rejected...thanks for answering this question...ur wife is lucky to have you

[TheUglyOne]

I'm probably the one who gave it to her. :(

[Asker]

hey you are her love each other and are together and happy rite? so at least you have someone. I don't

[TheUglyOne]

we are, but goodness sakes I'm responsible for nearly giving her cervical cancer. I can't feel good about that!

[Asker]

you didn't know you had it when you slept with her... I am sure she forgives you... you were both meant for each other... I am sure your closer even now... nothing can be done to change it but you boh can move on... don't let it get to you , just treat her right and give her all your love man *hugs*

[TheUglyOne]

aww you're very kind. She doesn't even blame me. See, how could a guy refuse such a sweet and kind woman?

[Asker]

i don't know but I know they are out there =\..thanks for being kind to me

[imonfire]

you and close to 50% of the people who are sexually active.

[Asker]

have it? or will not find love?

[imonfire]

link

I'm really not trying to be negative- but, you have this condition, you should research it. This is HIV or Aids, it's not even herpes. You're going to find love, you're going to live a healthy life, your children will be healthy babies.

Congratulations :)

[imonfire]

*This isn't HIV or Aids

[Asker]

awwww thanks for the kind words... I have read that link before... I am going to my gyno Friday and ask of Gardasil vaccine

[TrailOfTears]

Perhaps you are in the lucky generation because Medicine is doing leaps and bounds of progress. People think its hopeless since we have not had something quite like Penicillin but remember that was just a very very lucky fluke. We can soon make medicine as potent if not more and when that happens most STI will be treatable.

[Asker]

true hope they find a cure for HPV soon *cross fingers* =\

[TrailOfTears]

They are trying.. Real hard at that since the first one to find a cure will become filthy rich. Its an intellectual goal rush and by the looks of it its on the home stretch. The problem is however even when they do find a cure it will take significant time before it gets ready to be distributed to the public.

[Asker]

whoever finds the cure ...I will give him my money and I will hug him and eternally thank him and bless him

[NoGamesGuy]

Don't be so down on yourself, just take a few comfortable breaths. Things will get better, you will find a guy that loves you regardless of your health issue. I know a couple where one has AIDS and the other does not and they are happily married with both knowing each others past, he is still disease free. Personally, I have no problem dating and/or getting to know someone with certain diseases because of knowing how they work and certain precautions unless, the situation puts me jeopardy. When you find that special someone you can tell him about the precautions for safety to be with when things get to that level. Trust me not all guys are heartless beasts. :)

[Jbgurl20]

Go seek a doctor first,its not the end of the workd you know..? You can get better, all you have to do is take medicines and undergo a surgery then everything will be fine. The right man will come, he will love you no matter what.

[Asker]

can surgery make it completely go away?

[Jbgurl20]

Not completely, I am not sure but it will help a lot.

[taster]

Yes you will find love again...and try not to hate yourself...you did nothing wrong...you can always friend me and message me if you wish to discuss it...(:(:(:

[Fpsrussia]

Sorry to ask this but will this hpv go away ?

[Asker]

nope/// but you can use protection and you can boost your immune system to fight it

[Fpsrussia]

Well hopefully ill study this stuff next semester I'm studying to take my doctors degree so I can be a doctor hopefully once I'm a doctor I can find something that will remove this substance out of the body , but I would love you I don't know , but I wouldn't have sex I don't think it's safe is it ?

[Asker]

well from the answers given here... they know persons who even have AIDS and they have sex ...protected of course... I just have genital warts...genital herpes is worse and one of the female answerers was able to still have a boyfriend and hav sex witout giving it t him

[Asker]

btw thanks for saying you would still love me *kiss on your cheek*

[Fpsrussia]

Hahah , thanks , I mean I haven't gotten in a relationship since 5th grade I've been too busy with studying and collage and all of that and a job and working out everyday at the gym , I wanna keep my 6 packs lol ha ha . But I don't know what's the relationships are like now ? I've been called hot multiple of times at the gym but I didn't really care much I don't know why didn't feel like it

[Asker]

i'm sure your cute... wish I could add you...to know nice guys like you is a pleasure =)

[Fpsrussia]

Add me idc

[Fpsrussia]

Ill switch to normal if you want ?

[Asker]

yes please =)

[Fpsrussia]

There you go

[TwiztedTD]

Hey, I'd like to talk to you about something personal and don't feel like posting it on here.

Do you want to add me as a friend and we can talk?

[Asker]

I add you

[Anonymous]

Soooooo many people have it, you are not alone. Also understand while it might be bad now, it will almost go away over time. I have had it for 20 years now, and I have had one outbreak in the last 15 years. Condoms won't help prevent spreading it as I got it while I was wearing a condom, so go figure. You will be loved and appreciated. You will figure out the right time to tell people you sleep with about it in your own way. Keep your chin up.