I have a rape fantasy I'd like to carry out with my boyfriend, I don't know how to get him to try it, help?

[Anonymous]

My number one fantasy for a long time has been the idea of being really dominated by my partner, making it really feel like he is raping me! I really want him to take control and not stop (I have heard about the safe word that can be used in these fantasies, which id obviously have) But yeah I just want him to want me so bad! I've heard a lot of girls have this fantasy too. I want him to hold me down, even while I fight against it and really take control. However my boyfriend isn't THAT dominant normally, like the most I'll get is some slight spanking lol which makes it really hard to make this fantasy real. So really my question is to you guys, would you be prepared to carry out this sort of fantasy if you knew it would turn your girlfriend on like never before or would it really freak you out? Also guys and girls how would I go about getting him to, should I just come straight out with it before sex so we can try it, or maybe ask him too during sex. I've thought maybe a way I'd feel less silly about asking it and he'd probably be more open to trying is if we tried when we've had a drink as we're always a lot more kinky then. I may try get him to use bondage too, I have all these fantasies yet I've never shared with him and I really feel its about time, as I've been with him for over 2 years now. Sex is just so repetitive now, I really wanna spice it up. I just don't know if he'd like it, I mean do you guys like the idea of controlling your girlfriend in that way (this by no means relates to 'do you like the idea of raping someone) its completely different as I know id be safe. I'd never actually want to be raped. Hope people can help =) thank you

[melissarose8585]

Sit him down, outside of the bedroom, and have a talk about fantasies. Tell him you have some you want to try, but you don't want to push him into anything he isn't comfortable with. You never know-he might be into it as well and afraid to say anything about it. Or he might not be into it, and that is something you'll have to consider as well. Sex is about both of you getting what you want.

For example, I, like you, tend to like a dominant male. I'm so independent in most of my life that, in sex, I really want to have that dominating force over me. It doesn't mean I'm not a strong female, it just means that I like a little S & M on occasion. My guy, though, isn't it to it as much. So we'll trade out; I get my night of fantasies, and the next night he gets his, which is usually what we call the "porn game," where we watch one and mimic it. Everyone is happy, fulfilled, and it makes things interesting.

So share with him, and see if you guys can't come to some agreement. It's totally normal to have fantasies that are a little different than your partner's, but you can both be satisfied if you'll talk about it and find a way to make both of happy. Just don't let the fantasy become the only way you can have sex, and make sure that you are safe while doing it, having safe words and clear boundaries.

[Asker]

Yeh I was thinking about that, maybe asking him if he had any fantasies first and then letting him know about mine =) Guess ill see where that leads then, like ask he'd ever be up for trying them! Thankyou for the reply =)

[gina589]

You need to talk talk and talk first (safe word and make sure he knows the difference between $90 panties and the dollars ones).

Thanks for posting this just posted this while back ago but didn't get much of a response.

I think about getting raped on the interstate & a gas station bathroom.

I tried with one boyfriend and he just went limp when I started crying. Now, I make sure to use a safe word, "are you trying to get me drunk", I know he's going to rape me. I like realizing it sometimes he does & sometimes he doesn't do it.

We don't hit each other, for the most part but he's been taking we down by the hair & doing me from behind or punches me in the stomch, I fight til he over powers me and rapes me, I kind of freeze up and think about the intestate and he has a thing about doing me passed out. It kind of makes feel better about thinking about it.

[xxangel1990xx]

That sounds great! I have that fantasy too lol. To tell him at first I was gonna say suggest it before you have sex but then you mentioned suggesting it during sex so maybe that will work better for you :)

[bunny420]

He might freak out if she told him in sex :P.

[sealevel27]

Damn, that's hot. Seriously, I wish I had a girl who wanted to be dominated by me in that way. But, that's me. It might not be your BF, so you should have a talk with him about it----but NOT in a sexual setting. So, maybe talk to him about it on the phone, or at dinner, or somewhere that sex is not the focus. Let him think on it, and make sure he knows it's OK if he's not into it.

But he might be into it. I know I would absolutely be into it. Depends on the guy, of course.

[Asker]

That's good to know that guys can actually be into this then =) I think I'll maybe try having a normal chat about it when he's round mine, ask him if he'd be into that kinda thing or maybe suggest he tries being a bit more dominant, so its not too weird and all in one go for him. I hope my boyfriend reacts like you do =P its such a hot fantasy, id love it! Thankyou for the advice =)

[sealevel27]

No prob. One of my ex's once told me that she'd fantasize about me chaining her up, keeping her as a slave, and just f***ing her whenever I wanted. The most I've done is hold a girl's hands up on the headboard while I'm doing her. I need to explore that some more!

[islands7]

Sure, I'll do it & have done it, why not?
What to do - afraid you'll have to get tied up, easier if he'll do it
then tell him he can do whatever he wants with NO consequences (safe word still stands to stop action)
and you EXPECT him to ravish your body, else you'll NOT feel desirable

[debsman]

An ex of mine would sometimes wear old torn clothing so could go the whole route...starting with ripping her clothes off of her, then force her to her knees to service me orally. When I was satisfied I would then push her onto her back, and while holding her hands above her head, force her legs open and ram it home. Afterwards, she would tell me how fantastic it was.

[GenaBaby1995]

I want to get raped too! Mmmm, rape play take me down by the hair pin me tire me out til I can't fight anymore pull my jeans halfway down pin me to the dirty floor and rape me. While he pounding me on the floor hard I go limp and fantasize about get pulled into a truckers cab or bathroom just fcking pinning down all his weight on me and pounding me face down over and waits some and get back on me and keeps raping me or i'm stopping side by the highway to pee and someone trucker stops pushes me to the ground or back in my car and pulls pulls my jeans to my ankles spread my legs and make me watch him keep going in and out of me and again after that and leaves never gets caught. i wet thinking about it

[theman1129]

hell yes

[Unknown29]

I’m a dominant personality type, and I fantasy of doing stuff like that to a girl. Especially, for some reason, tickling her.

[Clarke498]

I've always wanted to do this to my girl... Lucky guy.

[MudRucker]

Are you fucked in the head?

[Anonymous]

just get a different word for rape

and call it like

extreme domination and show what you want him to do to you

and ur done

:)

[Asker]

Good idea haha! There's something about wording it as a'rape fantasy' which obviously isn't nice, so ill try that instead so he doesn't get too freaked hehe =) Thankyouu

[Opinion Owner]

Yea cause rape isn't a nice word even in the bedroom but ur welcome =) good luck!