I'm in love with a shy boy! PLEASE help me!

[dabbaros]

It’s a long story but PLEASE read it because I really need your help! So it all started when I was 14. I was on MSN one day when this guy from my class started to talk to me. He was in the popular gang but very shy, so I thought it was just a prank and some of the guys were on his account making fun of me so I was very shy to answer him, but I did and we started to talk daily on MSN. He never talked to me at school, he was to shy for that. So it kept going and soon we had been talking for a year in MSN but never in person. He always talked about how much I liked me and how beautiful I was I mead me feel pretty. After having been talking for one ½ year he and his family moved to another country. We keep talking and became more friends than “crushes”, we were then 15. One day he was telling me about his girlfriend and how I had lost he virginity to her . I told him she was pretty and she looked nice. I didn’t hear from him in a week after that but then he came on MSN and told me he had broken up with her. Of course I asked why and was concerned he was hurt, but when he told me he had broken up with her because she was not me. We started talking again like we were in love and didn’t stop talking for half a year. We talked every day for half a year. For some reason I can’t remember we stopped talking. He moved back home when he was 16. He moved back in his old house so now we were neighbors again(sort of, he lives in the street next to mine). After a while he started talking to me AGAIN on Facebook, but this time I was pissed at him. He had played with me heart sins I was just 14 but never talked to me in person. One day he asked me “If we were to meet at a party, would you kiss me?” and I was so tired of him I answered “it depends on how drunk I would be” (I know I know I was SUPER mean to him!) after that he didn’t talk to me for half a year. when I turned 17 he started talking to me again, I thought that was amazing, to think after all that he didn’t lose hop in me! But that didn’t last long because I started dating another guy. I broke up with him last summer and the day I broke up with him my Romeo started talking to me again. now we are both 18 and both in the same schoole, we have the same interest we come for similar families and I think it could really work between us. Now we have only one problem. The boy is too shy to meet me! We have only ones talked in person and that was when he drove me home from a party because he thought I was too drunk to walk. But it was so fun talking to him and I have tried to get him to meet me but he always comes with excuses for why he can't what can I do? He tells me all the time he wants to be with me but always when he sees me walking he looks down on his feet. i need help! I'm in love with him but shyness is stopping it!

[jeremy20]

First off, you're not in love with him. Before you think I'm just another person telling you what love is, let me explain.

You love somebody when you know EVERYTHING about them. You love them when you know you look forward to every second you spend with them. You love them when you know you can deal with their weaknesses, and the things that bother you with a smile. You love them when you, nor he, is never embarrassed in front of the other. You love each other when you couldn't imagine life without them. I know this because I've been in love before over the span of 8 years, from age 15 to 23. When it was all said and done and our engagement fell apart, I locked myself in my room for months, so believe me when I talk about love lol. With all of that being the case, it is impossible to love someone who won't even talk to you in person.

This is your lucky day because I used to be, and still kinda am one of those shy guys. This guys however, is more awkward than shy. He's acting like 2 different people, one guy on the phone and another in real life. The problem is that you only really know the one over the phone, and you can't make a relationship work over the phone. Your story was also really awkawd, as far as moving and telling you personal details about his life...when he can't even talk to you in person.

My best guess is this guy is EXTREMELY shy, to the point that he's socially awkward around girls. When he contacts you and talks to you romantically over electronic devices, it gives him confidence...its always easier to talk like that through text than in person. It gives him self validation and confidence. What can you do? You're going to have to approach him. Its the way we shy guys work.

Look into the future and ask yourself what you see in this guy. What do you know about him in reality? Do you know his interests, what he does after school, etc? Do you know about his personality, other than the fact that he is an introvert? Do you know about his type of friends?

If you want a shot at this guy, stop talking to him over Facebokk, phone, etc and talk to him in person. If you don't do this, you might as well let him go. Good luck.

[Dionysos]

Walk up, lift his chin, and kiss him. Problem solved. :-) Well, there might be some talking to explain what just happened, but if he's that shy you're gonna have to take the bull by the horns to get what you want.

[Rose_Vamp17]

I know exactly how you feel!! I was with a guy and he was super shy to talk to me! One day he took me to the movies and i got in his car and when i said hey, the first thing he said was like oh damn i dont know what to say.. And i was like what? Really? But then he started getting more comfortable with me and we soon kissed after that! So what I'm trying to say is be a confident ass woman and go up to him and break out his shell!!