Is my boyfriend asexual? GUYS: At what age are you most sexually active?

[ThunderKathryn]

Asexuals, or non-sexuals, are people who don't have the urge to have sex, and don't have a reason to have sex. My boyfriend has told me before that perverted stuff is something that is gross to him. We were flipping through posters at the store, and a poster came up of a girl half naked and he looked away really fast and rolled his eyes and then turned to the next board. I'm not sure if he did that cause I was there and it embarrassed him, or if he did that cause that stuff grosses him out. We kiss a lot, but he has never tried to go past first base. I've been waiting for him to make some sort of move to go past that and touch my chest, but he never has. Not sure if he's just nervous and is debating on whether he should, or if he just isn't interested in doing something like that. He is really affectionate and we like to hug and kiss and hold hands, but some times he won't hold my hand for a long period of time. I can even feel him wiggling away from my grasp. I usually let him go when he does that. We've been together for over half a year and he is a perfect gentlemen, he is completely respectful and the sweetest guy on earth. I'm just starting to wonder if he is asexual or not. He never brings up sex. We've had a conversation like that before and he told me that he isn't like other teenagers. He doesn't think about perverted things and he doesn't strive to get it. He told me in a different conversation that he was afraid that me and him would go off somewhere and start kissing and then he would let himself get carried away. So it sounded like he was scared that he might have sex with me if we got into it too much. I'm not entirely worried about it right now. But I would like some advice. Do you think he's asexual? Or just nervous and unsure about what to do? (I'm his first girlfriend) If he is asexual how should I respond to him? Should I stop being as affectionate towards him and let him initiate stuff? Because I don't want him to think that I'm too clingy and expect too much from him. Or should I continue to do what I'm doing? If you don't think he's asexual, how can I initiate going past first base? Is this something I should initiate? Or is this something I should not worry about and let him come around when he comes around? EXTRA QUESTION FOR THE GUYS: when is your most sexually active time in life? The teen years? Young adult years? or adult years? or... older years?

[tastefulbarbarian]

That's not what asexual means. Asexual for starters is being able to reproduce with oneself and produce spawn; in human sexuality terms (as that is impossible), it means not feeling sexual attraction at all. No desire for sex.

Now, most men are very sexually active when a female is available after the onset of puberty till the age of thirty-five or so, when things may speed up for a bit, or start slowing down. My guess is that he either is very nervous, he has something physical he wants to hide from you (maybe a heart condition, erectile dysfunction, micro-penis, etc.), he is asexual, or perhaps even gay. I'd talk to him about it, not us.

[MissConfused93]

He may honestly just be scared. The only way to tell, in my opinion, is to talk about it. If you can't talk about sex or anything sexual, you shouldn't be doing it. Ask him what he expects in your relationship, and what he's comfortable with. When you're kissing, taking his hand and putting it on your chest maybe be a good idea. It's possible he just doesn't want you to feel like he's taking advantage of you.

[ThunderKathryn]

I've thought about just placing his hand on my chest. I'm afraid it'll make him retreat though XD that and I have a really small chest (small B) and I've never been felt up before... so it's like... neither one of us knows what we're doing lol. we've spoken about sex once or twice, but the conversation never got really far. I'm mainly just concerned if he's truly attracted to me or not.

[MissConfused93]

No guy is going to be turned off by a small b haha. I'm a 32A and I've never had an issue! And if you're not willing to try something, you won't ever really know whether or not he is.

[MissConfused93]

*was a 32A haha.

[MissConfused93]

Thanks for best answer! (:

[Anonymous]

put your hands in his pants and see if he enjoys it then have him do the same to you... if he doesn't like either or is grossed out by it then he might be gay. make him feel you up and if he is not turned on then he is gay.

perhaps ask him if he is gay and if he would like to prove that he isnt?

not sure why any guy would be that nervous/scared...

[obligations]

maybe he's gay.