What happens after your not a virgin?

[Anonymous]

There has been so many posts lately of people being scared of losing their virginity that it literally repulses me. Is it lack of information? being scared of what happens next? What others think? Having a real bad first experience? Don't have all the answers just hope my experience can cleanse some of your doubts virgin folks. If your experienced share your experience too. I met the girl that took my virginity in a party. She came with a group of friends some of whom left during the night as they were not getting approached and didn't know any one at the party. I saw the girl I liked talking with one of her friends. I was scared of looking like a fool approaching her. So I downed a shot. She made eye contact with me and I charged clumsily through the crowd. Once I was in front of her I asked for her name. Who she knew, got the conversation goal. Was scared all long of getting blown off. Something that never occured. I asked for a dance. she accepted and I brought her to the dance floor. Some Merengue playing in the background I took her by the waist and started moving to the beat. She stepped on my toes like 12 times. I could feel her palms getting soaked by every failed attempt. I stopped her. Looked her in the eyes and whispered "Trust me" in her ear. I placed my right leg between her lady parts. And Followed the beat. I did 3 songs with her. When she stopped. She was shaking, her face was boiling red. I though she was going to faint. She tilted her head forward and kissed me. Stalked me for the rest of the night I was scared of her (I was still a virgin) Didn't know what I just did. She keep saying I wan't your number. I didn't know what to do. What was she going to do to me...I kept thinking. Close to the end of the night I gave her my number didn't ask for hers. Two days later she calls me. Sets the first date. After sometime 4 months I think. We go on her date, after it's over she brings me to her house. At her house she them removes her mask and I discover she is a blood sucking vampire who's there to kill me. Joke. We just have sex. I last 5 min then game over. Go back home. Feel weird because I realize I've just lost my virginity. Next day. People keep talking about the same stuff they used to talk none of my friends ask me about the date. People just talk and talk. The only thing that changed was that I wasn't a virgin anymore. I though to myself how much ((B...S...)) I've heard during the years about how people regret their first time and all. Was that all there was to sex? I asked myself. I've been fighting to stay a virgin and now what?. Well I figured that Sex is just one step. There the relationship that turned sour afterward, the people that just call you names because you've had sex with that girl and they had a crush on her. You find yourself having to deal with people that talk, talk, talk, but never get laid. I didn't want that for me. Just Take the lead and the rest will follow.

[toriedawn]

I know a lot of girls who worry about loosing it, a friend of mine said it hurt so much her first time that it took her a whole year to do it again and even then it still hurt, apparently it hurts more if your nervous about it. My first time I was 16.

I was one of those people who was really insecure about themselves and when a lad started taking interest in me I couldn't help it I fell in love with the idea of being in love, I would have given him anything, and I did.

id known him for quite a while but we had only actually been going out less than a day when we had sex.

my friends were really protective when they found out saying he had forced me into it and made me do it all because he was older and more experienced. The truth is if anything it was me who convinced him, I was ready and willing and he told me I didn't have to if I didn't want to.

I wasn't with him for very long, yes it may have been a mistake but I don't regret it, I was relaxed and comfortable and he was helpful and understanding, it didn't hurt, it felt good.

don't get me wrong I would never say that sex isn't a big deal but after the first time you stop worrying about things like whether you will be bad in bed or what hey will think of you when your naked and you think about the good stuff more.

well that's my opinion anyway.

[Asker]

Great to have a girl's experience on this.

[britannny]

I don't think there are that many people who are really "scared" of losing their virginity.

I was pretty nervous about sex at first. I wasn't worried about what would happen afterward. I was concerned about things like, would it hurt, what if I suck in bed, what if he's grossed out by my cellulite. That sort of thing. But after I did it once, I realized that none of that stuff is as big of a deal as it seemed. And I wasn't nervous anymore.

[Anonymous]

what happens after you lose your virginity, is that you're not a virgin anymore and you go on with your life.

[Brando]

Scared of LOSING their virginity? Most people on here stress still having it.

[Asker]

lol true.

[Anonymous]

heres what happens: you cease your obsession with trying to lose your virginity and that's it.