Do girls lose interest after sex?

[Anonymous]

Met a girl she's 22 I'm 24 dated 3 months I had never dated before so was very shy and never held hands, made out, had sex with her and she is very outgoing so she went distant and I think went back to fooling around with ex idk. 3 months went by and she returned when she noticed that I have changed and I'm not shy anymore and I had been sort of dating around... we started texting again and everyday (for 3 days) it was extremely sexual and flirty to a point that she confessed that our chats recently always made her very wet etc. One night we flirt sexually for about 4 hours till she can't hold it anymore and we meet up and have sex in her car (It's hard to have sex in a small car but apparently she still had her orgasm but I didn't) after that she wanted to cuddle and hugs, kisses me and holds my hands and tells me how she wants to become girlfriend soon.. that night when I dropped her off we made out again and she hugged me very tight and and wouldn't let go. But after that the texting died down again now it's like one or 2 text in the whole day to say Morning and good night... now I text her and she replies 3 hours later... 4 days after having sex she asked me what I was doing and said she wanted to go out (I hinted I wanted sex) but she said she didn't wanted to have sex just wanted to relax and see me... so we went out had dinner a few drinks kissed a little bit and that was it I told her I liked her in a text and she didn't say it back... I don't like initiating texts with her to not seem needy or desperate just because I had sex with her... Is it possible she lost interest once she got the sex out of the way? I figured she would be more attached to me after sex? How do I do things right with her if I want to keep her around without scaring her away?

[Paullus]

Man, reading this is painful, it reminds me of the days when girls had their way with me. No offense but if you want to tell her that you like her, why not tell her in person! If you are too afraid how she might react in person then why even have a relationship with her.

Relationships are built on trust and communication. Not texting, weird mind games, long distance stuff, texting, back to weird mind games. If you keep this up girls will f*** with your mind. Look, I'm just saying that you need to man up, be more honest and comfortable with women in general, because right now I see your fear, and they see it too.

[Asker]

I understand your point but I talked it with her in person as well and she sends me mixed signals all the time... she's going away on vacation for 4 months and doesn't wanna commit now until she returns to not feel "Guilt" those were here words... And the reason I don't lay my feelings in person much is because the first time I did it she backed off completely... being Commited seems to scare her and she also made it clear to me that she loves being single...

[Asker]

Yet even if she loves being single she wants to settle down with me when she returns apparently. My concern is now how do I keep her around without scaring her away by showing interest but staying away from being needy... I just don't get why she was all up on me texting everyday all day wanting sex and when she finally got it from me the texting automatically died down drastically... this is where I get confused and wonder what to do next... I already know she doesn't wanna commit now...

[Paullus]

Ask her to be friends with benefits.

[Racez]

It's the opposite. It's the guys who lose interest after sex.

About the girl, I think she's still interested but just wants to maintain your friendship.

[overthetop67]

Agree with the second point, but disagree with the first as an absolute truth; Not all guys lose interest after sex, that's just an easy stereotype. And hopefully she wants to maintain your friendship, your relationship, as GF/BF as well as have sex. The two are intimately related, and influence one another deeply.

[Asker]

So what should I do? just play it cool? She seemed to had come back to my life the moment I made her jealous with another girl... but now that we already had sex I don't know if it's a good idea to make her jealous on purpose?

[Asker]

Are you guys trying to tell me that all she wants is to be my friend now? If she is interested like you say than why did she went distant and cold after sex?