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Can you tell if a woman has had anal sex?

My partner and I have recently started experimenting with anal sex. He hasn't penetrated with his penis (other than vaginal sex) but has fingered me. Now that he has been using 2 fingers I'm starting to worry that perhaps this will result in a looser and noticeable opening. I have started to notice that it is not as tight as it use to be. before even one finger was a tight fit. Those that have participated in anal sex, do you notice a change? Has anyone been with a partner and could tell she had participated in anal sex by looking or feeling her there?
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  • Yes, there can be a noticeable change if you have anal sex very frequently. The vagina is very elastic, so it doesn't exactly become loose. The anus, however, is not as elastic. It is not meant to be stretched out for long periods of time.
    I myself haven't participated in anal sex (and never will). But I have heard that kegel exercises will help you regain the tightness of your sphincter. I really do recommend them, since I've heard that some struggle to hold their poop in if they have too much anal sex and their anus becomes looser.

    • As for MrOracles answer comparing poop size to finger size, I'd just like to add that the poop normally passes through the anus within seconds, while anal sex lasts much, much longer. The anus wasn't built for that kind of stretching, but it is built to handle small amounts of quick stretching (pooping). I know this sounds kinda gross but whatever. I hope I gave a clear answer. :P

  • I love anal. But it hurts so I don't do it too often. Say once every month or two. I don't feel or look any different, it's still just as hard to get it with or without enough lube. You could be imagining these differences out of fear. Unless you are a p*rn star getting gangbanged in the arse once a week I wouldn't worry about it

    • Instant boner: "I love anal." It should not be hurting love. Get The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women on Amazon. It should be as smooth and loving a way to make love as the front. I have licked out a girls butt hole for 2 weeks before I even tried to get the head in. Another girl? It went in smooth with just her pussy juice. So every girl is diff. Maybe you just need warm up? Look at it as a journey...

  • Yes, you can definitely tell when soemoen has had anal sex. The anus was not created for sex therefore those muscles were not made to be extremely elastic. They're not just going to bounce back into shape like the vagina because they were not created to do so.

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  • While I'm not a big fan of anal sex (giving it), it is my understanding, that so long as it is moderate (no massive objects being used) and well lubricated and most importantly consensual, then there shouldn't be any way of telling or issues with regular bowel movements or other sorts of issues. Granted I'm not a proctologist but I have studied A & P a good deal, which is where I'm basing this information on. I hope this helps answer your question.

  • Unless you are regularly being stretched out by HUGE objects, no, absolutely not.

    Look at it this way: your poop is bigger than two of his fingers, and I'm assuming you do that at least once a day, every day, right? And yet, your anal sphincter is still functioning normally.

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  • by looking : a woman having regular anal sex will have a darker area there (this due to the streching of area while having it)...

    First time practice : sphincters muscles should be tight and opposing firm resistance (even with oil or lubrificatings)... after some times muscles are supples allowing entrance more freely.

    To avoid problems : don't do anal often, train your sphincters. And always use lubrifications.

    Have fun.

  • yes depending on how wide her opening is and the lack of tightness when going n

  • ive had anal for months now and my hole is 100% fine. You can't even tell I've ever had it. My guy used to date a girl who loved it and did it every time and never had any issues. If you insert large things into the anus and abuse it then yes you can tell

    • "I've had anal for months now and my hole is 100% fine." Boing!

  • I have heard from my cousin that if her anus dips inward it's a sign she's had anal sex

    I've have anal sex a few times and mine doesn't dip in so I think their isn't really a way to tell



    • U would be correct! And if he is that close to your anus that he can tell if it 'dips in a bit"? He should be licking the fuck out of it instead of wondering about her past history. It is YOU TWO in the moment. Forget the past.

  • I'm assuming you've been pooping your whole life and your butthole is fine. Calm down.

  • Nope, don't worry and enjoy it!

  • No and is a good thing because I would probably avoid her

  • There is no way for a guy to tell unless she asks for it which tells him she likes it. It's always tight no matter what =)

  • If you are safe about it and only do it on occasions, you'll probably be fine.

  • Google "anal prolapse symptoms". If a guy can see that, yes, he can tell you had anal. Be careful, if you do it wrong, you can get seriously injured. Google up and find out more of what I'm talking about.

    • These are usually cases of severe, abusive, rough anal sex, and as such, you are fear-mongering. I suppose it's good to know what can happen in extreme cases, but that's like saying "don't drive a car" and linking to a 30 car pile-up. A car crash is NOT automatically the end result of driving, and anal prolapse is not the automatic end-result of anal sex. :rolleyes:

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