Why do promiscuous women think they shouldn't be judged?

[peace-love-couture]

Virtually everyone and everything is judged, one way or another. Whether it's by race, class, religion, what you're wearing, how you laugh or your social skills, everyone is judged. Why should they be excluded form judgment? There are ways to be promiscuous without the world knowing, am I correct? What nation has the most promiscuous men and women? What encourages promiscuity? Why do guys complain about girls being easy nowadays, yet those same guys don't have standards for themselves? They continue to go out with promiscuous women, yet complain about them Do you think ugly/average girls are more/less likely to be promiscuous? What do you think of human sexuality in general? Be honest, do you look down on sexually active women? Sorry, a lot of questions in one lmao. Answer as many as you'd like and more. I'm NOT promiscuous but I'm not some goody good two shoes virgin who looks down on anyone. I'm not even a virgin. I'm just curious

[Cryostatic]

That's a lot of questions. I'll share my opinions on the ones I can.

A. What encourages promiscuity?

Modern society gives so many mixed messages regarding casual sex, that I think it's more confusing than encouraging. I think if women in particular get over the fear of being judged, they tend to be more promiscuous.

B. "Why do guys complain about girls being easy nowadays, yet those same guys don't have standards for themselves? They continue to go out with promiscuous women, yet complain about them"

Because they can. Most people will help to perpetuate a double-standard if it's generally beneficial for them. Most societies have tended to be dominated by men, and most men are generally insecure enough that they prefer female partners with less sexual experience, but they still want to be uninhibited sexually themselves. Thus, double-standard.

C. "Do you think ugly/average girls are more/less likely to be promiscuous?"

In my experience, women with fewer physical self-esteem issues tend to be less sexually inhibited. This would include ones who believe that they're very attractive, and ones who just don't give a f*** about how they look.

D. "Be honest, do you look down on sexually active women?"

I don't want to be with someone who's okay with having sex outside of relationships. It's not that I have a problem with what they're doing, I just don't feel that we'd be compatible. So in that sense, I suppose I do.

[Cryostatic]

As an aside: It's not only men that tend to judge promiscuous women. Women tend to judge each other where promiscuity is concerned. That's a little more confusing. I suppose in some cases I think these women may have been convinced by society that promiscuity is honestly bad. In other cases, it may simply be jealousy, when the judgmental woman desires to be so uninhibited herself, but fears being judged for it, passes that judgement herself to justify her fear of it.

[japanblitz]

Everyone judges each other everyday... blaming society for one's personal failures is the height of immaturity and irresponsibility. It'd be funny that so many people do this, especially in America, if it weren't so pathetic. Reminds me of the fat guy that sued Mc Donalds a few years back for "making" him fat.

[Jonny_]

I feel that they shouldn't be judged because most of the male population openly feel like they should hump half the moving world and be applauded. Personally I don't get the achievement in that. Fair play to people who enjoy sex and do it on their own terms. I do value sex and I do have a high sex drive, I'm not a slave to my hormones like many people, I actually look down more on guys for it, mainly because it always seems to be some sickophantic domination fantasy they seem to be fufilling to gain some sort of stud reputation. I don't see girls being so in your face about their sexual conquests. I think less desirable girls do put themselves out there more, I know a lot who are sluts (can't find a nicer word) and beautiful girls who're innocent as newborn babies. Sexuality is just normal really, I'm not a guy who believes he needs sex to have a good life, yet I enjoy having sex. I think what encourages it, is often personal sex drives and lack of the ability to think 'wait, is this safe, is it a good idea'... or just a number for people to brag to their friends about, self fufillment really.

[peace-love-couture]

I like your way of thinking :)

[Jonny_]

Thank you :)

[acka72]

I am a virgin myself and I don't judge other promiscuous women cause the dating world is tough. I think that many promiscuous women shouldn't be judged cause not all of us are lucky to find Mr. Right who we love and adore. So are we supposed to be nuns forever while we wait and wait and wait and wait?

[Anonymous]

Personally I don't think it is anybody's business how promiscuous someone is. What makes the person who judges better than anybody else?

[peace-love-couture]

Oh, I definitely agree! It's ironic how many judgmental people use the bible as their reason for judging, but wouldn't a true Christian know that God has the final say and judgment?

[Applefan1]

I think women that are really promiscuous should not be judged. Women have sex drives and raging hormones to. I think the most sexual, horny and turn on people that I have come across have been women actually.

You might find this very interesting.

Well what you will find interesting is that in my country a study has shown that women here are way more promiscuous than the men. They have considerably more sexual partners than us men here. They also say women in my country are way more promiscuous than anywhere else in the world. They say the global average is 7.3 sexual partners but claim women in my country average 20.4 sexual partners. I would like to see prove of this as I struggle to believe it but then I have no proof it is not true either.

www.stuff.co.nz/.../Kiwi-women-most-promiscuous-in-the-world

[Applefan1]

also https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/295808

[ben890]

It probably has something to do with the belief that none of those things (race, class, religion, clothes, etc.) warrants being an a**hole to someone. Being judgmental wouldn't be such a big problem if it didn't actually hurt anybody.

I believe people who have a lot of sex shouldn't be treated differently because, like many of those other things, why give a crap? I'm inexperienced as f*** but I do have friends (men and women) who have casual sex because they simply enjoy it. They don't have psychological issues or anything.

[gonyr]

the saying goes, a key that can open any lock is a master key, but a lock that gets opened by any key is a useless lock.

but honestly, do whatever makes you happy. If a girl wants to sleep around, by all means, go for it.

I think they get judged because girls are supposed to be held to some different standard. it really is a double standard. As long as your not cheating on a person your in a relationship with than I don't think they are doing anything wrong

[ben890]

Haha people love that analogy because they think it makes perfect sense. You can make it go the other way too: A pencil sharpener that can sharpen any pencil is a good pencil sharpener, but a pencil that gets sharpened by lots of sharpeners is probably a worn-out pencil.

[ObscuredBeyond]

She who most adamantly and frequently insists that nobody condemn her, is most desperately repressing the fact that her own conscience already has. What others do or do not is irrelevant. She is judged cosmically by something that existed before society, that cares not what society's petty double standards are.

To act like society is relevant to her dilemma is the desperation with which a guilty soul shifts the blame in a feeble attempt at self-preservation. Yet, her guilt remains. And poisons her.

Such is the personal dilemma of all who have such guilt; not just one random woman. What is fixed, written in the conscience, and written in the cosmos, cares nothing about the ever-shifting opinions of human society.

[Dionysos]

Being promiscuous only affects the ones having sex. If she's not f***ing a person, they have no valid reason to judge her.

[G_GTom]

I've always said something similar. People judge others all the time. Women do not like to be judged based on the number of sexual partners they've been with, yet women will judge men based on looks. Women site this as compatibility. After all, you have to be attracted to the person you're with. I'm fine with this, but if you take a step back and think about it, one is being judged by which they have no control and the other is being judged by their own actions. I'm not saying either is wrong, but do keep in mind that everyone judges. Men, certainly, judge women.

I'm not a big fan of being with women who've slept with a lot of guys, though I've heard other guys here frown upon that, but I feel those guys are trying to control others into their point of view. I have no problem if their beliefs are different, but to say that others are wrong because they do see the world the same way seems, well, controlling.

[Koldhearted]

Don't want an easy women as a gf/future wife. Why would I?

Also don't want a girlfriend that wears makeup and judges on looks.

[peace-love-couture]

Everyone judges on looks. I bet you wouldn't date this, no matter how good her personality is:

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The only difference is some people downplay how shallow they are, so that they can judge "shallow" people

[Koldhearted]

I'm just saying if she's gonna hide her real face and lure me in with makeup, she doesn't have the right to judge onlooks. No I wouldn't date her, and I agree all people are shallow to some extent

[Koldhearted]

If she's naturally pretty and doesn't wear makeup, judge away. Say what you want. At least they aren't hiding behind powder and gel.

[peace-love-couture]

Better to be attractive and content with makeup than less than average or average without...no one pays those girls attention, but in my experience, those girls tend to be the most judgmental.

[Koldhearted]

Oh I know. I just feel women who wear makeup are judging because the makeup makes them pretty. If plus, guys can't wear makeup to improve how they look, and falsely lure a women in

[japanblitz]

This. As cold as it is, it's a matter of supply and demand. Over supplied women are in low demand.

[Fiona83]

What exactly is the difference between a promiscuous woman and a promiscuous man?

[peace-love-couture]

Gender

[Fiona83]

But the behavior is the same. I just don't quite understand why this Q is directed only towards promiscuous females.

[peace-love-couture]

Because promiscuous men don't complain

[Fiona83]

Says who?

[peace-love-couture]

Says the promiscuous girls I know and society. Feminists always cite changing the attitudes towards female sexuality as a reason for maintaining feminism. Even on here there's judgment towards promiscuity and girls who are the defenders of promiscuous women. If you aren't going to answer the question, don't bother on here

[Fiona83]

Do you think prmoiscuous males are being judged the same way females are being judged for it?

[peace-love-couture]

No I'm trying to figure out why that is. people try to justify it and I'm trying to understand how and why they try so hard to justify degrading sexually active females

[Fiona83]

I don't think it's wrong NOT to judge promiscuous men, but I think it's wrong to judge women for the same thing at the same time. I think neither of them should be judged for it, as it's a personal choice and we're talking about grown ups. But judging one but not the other...that's not okay IMO.

[peace-love-couture]

My issue is more with degrading sexually active females...the whole "slut/whore/tramp" thing bothers me moreso than judgment, because everyone judges. But to genuinely feel as though one is better than someone else simply because the other is more sexually active is, immature imo

[Fiona83]

Well, I can only agree with you on that. Both is utterly idiotic.

[japanblitz]

Promiscuous women get pregnant and raise unwanted children that become sociopathic monsters in absence of a strong male-figure. Promiscuous men just move on and continue being users.

[Fiona83]

Yes, and leave the women they knocked up all on their own to raise the child...so much better! Also, I know several single moms, tey are all loving and caring mothers and their children are doing perfectly well, so maybe you should get out more and take a look at how people are in real life.

[Dragan]

I really don't know. For a conviction is each promiscuous behavior, both male and female such behavior.

[Bigtom155]

I like promiscuous women. Doesn’t matter to me how many partners she’s had.

[bigdealbryan]

the human species is a non-monoganus species by nature

judging a women's sexual endeavors is an immature judgmental mindset that controlling religious Societies of antiquity have forcefully indoctrinated

[Anonymous]

Because its wrong

[Anonymous]

Because nobody likes being judged, really. Nobody likes feeling looked down on. Especially in America, we have this attitude of entitlement that screams "I can do what I want! There are no social consequences! You cannot judge me!"

Well, welcome back to reality. Actions and choices have life consequences. Sex isn't a recreational activity or a drug, nor should it be regarded as such. It's the beautiful union between two people and the process by which Human life is created. Having sex carelessly for one's own selfish desires speaks volumes about a person, male or female.

It shows a real lack of character, lack of personal responsibility and an immature attitude.

[Opinion Owner]

What nation has the most promiscuous men and women? US. Followed by UK. What encourages promiscuity? Bad parenting. Immaturity. Why do guys complain about girls being easy nowadays, yet those same guys don't have standards for themselves? Lack of self-control, hypocrisy. Weakness of character. They continue to go promiscuous women, yet complain about them? ez sex. Ugly/average girls are more/less likely to be promiscuous? No difference, IMO

[Anonymous]

I don't get why promiscuous women would be more judgeable than promiscuous men...

[peace-love-couture]

I concur

[Anonymous]

Lol a VERY gross and VERY defensive female answered this hahaha

[peace-love-couture]

what do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

The "defensive" female answerer has talked of having sex with her son to people on meebo

[peace-love-couture]

so I've heard

[Opinion Owner]

She is an idiot. She thinks she is really clever by shocking people but I say she is just trash

[peace-love-couture]

okie dokie...

[Anonymous]

They are delusional maybe?

[Anonymous]

That's because women are more biologically valuable than men. Before we had the pill, women would be stupid to sleep around and get pregnant from random men that won't stick around. No man wants a woman who has slept with tons of men and then decides to settle down with him because he has money and a house. Men don't like being used, and we suspect rightly that women who slut it up while young and then expect a man to just be there to pick up the pieces when she's done partying is out of her mind.

Our brains have evolved to pick women that aren't promiscuous. A slutty woman likes many cocks. When we want to have children, we don't want to have to worry that one of those cocks is going to squirt some baby batter up her p**** behind our back. Men don't like sluts because they are high cuckold risks. It shows that a woman is low class and has no self-control.

Most men aren't sluts, so we don't want sluts and we certainly don't want one to marry. We're going to continue to judge no matter how much the sluts whine about double-standards. Got news for you, no man wants to marry a slut any more than any girl wants a poor man or any other dude that hasn't made good life choices. People who are immature (which sluts are) get left behind in the end.