Dumping over penis size: a better question

[kheserthorpe]

This isn't a topic I care about all that much, but I can't handle the badly formed questions that group together too many situations. Based on a recent question, I'm not going to ask about dumping guys for being too big- I suspect many girls would if sex was painful, always. But it's not a big concern. Girls - answer the first statement that is true for you regarding guys and penis size.

[springdragonfly]

I don't know. Most of the ones I've come across are rather average or not dramatically far from it (5 - 8).

In that range, I can say no one got trashed based on penis size, only for personalities.

Can't say what I would do if I came across a particularly small one... I think there would be a lot of other factors to consider as well: personality, what else he's got going for him sexually, whether he's behaving impaired and useless and self-pitying or whether he's figured out (or is willing to figure out) a few tricks, how good he is at oral, etc. None of us is perfect in every respect, but luckily sex and relationships have to do with compatibility and we are all different and all have different priorities.

Hard to tell. I am pretty sure this is a case by case basis subject, no different than a guy's sense of humor would be for whether or not I would do him. Alone, his having one doesn't mean I will nor does his not having one mean I won't.

These things depend on the whole package, ahaha. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

i picked the micropenis one. honestly I do not care about a huge penis at all. as long as the sex is good and there is oral, I am fine. but, if it was small to the point that sex was bad or I couldn't feel it in me, that would be a problem.

I wouldn't dump him BECAUSE the penis is small, only if it means the sex is bad because regardless of penis size, if the sex was bad I couldn't stay with him. whether that means so big it hurts or so tiny I can't feel it or some size in between where the sex just sucks.

i have never been with a guy with a tiny penis, I haven't dated that many guys but they all seemed about average to me, some slightly larger than others but no one huge or very small. guess it's true that most guys are around 5-6 inches. no one's ever bothered me.

[kheserthorpe]

I actually expected that answer to be more popular - the 'as long as we can have sex it's fine' answer.

[EverythingReal]

I really enjoy how you did the poll, I think it sums up a majority of questions on here.

I would not dump a guy over penis size, by time I see his penis we're already committed so there would be no point. We would find other means of pleasure if it became a problem.

I also don't carry a ruler with me, you could tell me you are 7 inches but in reality only be 5 and I would never know.

[jlb03]

I'm curious to hear what results this question will yield. I do believe size matters to a point. I honestly believe the majority of girls wouldn't dump a guy for being too small or too big, but I do think they might secretly wish they can change his size if they could.

I know a friend that told us he was around 4 and a half inches, and it seems like it effects ability to talk to women. It's sad, because he's attractive guy that competes in MMA fighting.

[Anonymous]

most women don't measure their husbands or boyfriends penis. so they basically couldn't care less about size, but it doesn't mean they can stand too big or too small penis. as long as their boyfriends or husbands penis exist and can erect and ejaculate as normal and they can get orgasm, they don't think measuring is that much important.

[lumos]

To me it doesn't matter as long as he's around average.

[ZEDA_X]

I'm late :)

Tbh was looking for a diff question but since I'm here ill vote.

Hmmm..., let me see.

D. No contest. ;)

[Racez]

Choice E pretty summarizes my preference.

[aMuse]

2" ... That's like an extra thumb... She might have an unfair advantage at pulling off power moves while playing Street Fighter.

[aMuse]

A penis size question got 5 stars... You've accomplished a miracle. =P I'm surprised no internet size queens have showed their face yet to show that only a shallow **** would need a big penis.

[aMuse]

*****

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ah shallow women. Such is their true nature. Just as men are stupidly shallow as well.

[kheserthorpe]

I think you are misusing shallow. Surely shallow means to -only- care about one (often superficial) item?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

If you put any important emphasis on something physical, you're shallow. In this case, if they're willing to dump over penis size, shallow.

[kheserthorpe]

Why is it 'shallow'? A sexual relationship is partly physical, and physical appearance and attraction matter. Is penis size the only thing that matters? No, but for some women, if it impacts their arousal or enjoyment of sex, its a perfectly reasonable thing to use as ONE of the criteria they choose partners on.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Cause there's more to a relationship than the physical. And there's plenty of ways to make any such physical thing work. If you don't think so, you're not using your imagination well enough.

[kheserthorpe]

The fact that there's -more- doesn't mean that there's -less- either. Maybe you have no physical requirements of -any- sort. But most people do. And none of them are any more 'reasonable' or justifiable then any other. People get to be attracted to what attracts them.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

The fact they have physical requirements is shallow in the first place. They place something on the superficial. If they want to be superficial and shallow? So be it. But why must they pretend they aren't what they are? You find it an insult you're shallow? Tough. Either stop being it or accept it. It's like a slut complaining that she's being called a slut. You are what you are. You chose it.

[kheserthorpe]

What I fundamentally disagreed with was that paying attention to the superficial made one 'shallow'. My basic argument is that 'shallow' is focusing ONLY on one (often superficial) trait. If you only date someone based on their intelligence, I'd consider that shallow. Or wallet. Or level of cool. Or **** size.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Shallow just basically means "Of little depth." and its synonym is superficial. If you're focusing on appearances in a serious way, you are shallow at least on some level. Maybe not entirely, but still shallow.

[kheserthorpe]

True, but I think taking it -literally- in this case is inappropriate. Attraction is a -serious- part of relationships. To use the male version ... I personally like small breasts, maybe more then large ones. But a guy who is really really into large breasts should NOT date small breasted women. Just don't! You're supposed to find your partner hot.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

So if that girl with small breasts makes them feel loved and they love them, if they get along and match up on personality, opinions, hobbies, etc? They shouldn't date em just cause breasts aren't ideal to the guy?

[kheserthorpe]

It depends on him. Some guys care a lot about breast size, some guys it doesn't matter much. If they're in the latter group, then they'd probably overlook it. If they're in the former group, they're going to be constantly looking at bigger girls, and they're not doing anyone a favor by being 'mature' and 'seeing past it'. People should be honest about what they really want. You settle on small stuff, not stuff that matters to you - you're not doing your partner a favor either if you do.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ya, and guys who care that much that they'll pass up a great girl in every other regards just cause of the breasts (even if everything else physically is appealing) then they're shallow :P

[G_GTom]

Women are fairly size centric, more so than men.

[toulouse]

@Women are fairly size centric, more so than men. 53% of the answers are from men preferring a clit less than two inches.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how some guys can think that a girl who needs a big one is shallow...

[Anonymous]

I prefer 6 inches

[Anonymous]

I vote A. I will break up with a guy who is average or less. I only date men who are larger than 7. Anything below that is small and doesn't compare

[aMuse]

You must not date many men, because there aren't many of us out there that are over 7.

[G_GTom]

So, all those guys who are 6.9 inches leave disappointed?

[Opinion Owner]

Thats fine. I only date men over 6'2 as well. I won't lower my standards because there "arent lot of you out there"

[kheserthorpe]

I believe there are men who are 7" and over 6'2" out there. *cough cough*

[aMuse]

lol well I meet your criteria, but you should keep standards like that to yourself. You'd be lucky to land a guy that beats the averages on all your standards and we don't put up with bullsh*t from snot nosed girls.

[Opinion Owner]

nope I'm blunt with my standards. Don't meet them get lost. Not going to waste my time on a guy who doesn't.

[Robotic]

pretty ridiculous standards...

[kheserthorpe]

I would -assume- that most men you date fall below your standard, so you date, fool around, move on? What percent of the guys you fool around with pass requirements?

[Anonymous]

Girl dumps a guy over penis size - Totally understandable

Guy dumps a girl over breast size - Hellish monster with no feelings and is looked down on

[G_GTom]

Yes, women decry double standards, yet they create quite a few themselves.

[realistic]

haha true!

[Anonymous]

I choose D because I really could care less how big or small a guys penis is. For me, there is more to sex than the size of a guys penis. Does he look at me? Does he help/guide me if I need it? Does he let me know he's enjoying it? Does he show concern for me and my pleasure? All of these things and probably more are way more important to me.