Why won't my boyfriend go down on me?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and we have an amazing SEX life. Can't keep our pants on when we're together. My only problem is he never goes down on me! I sometimes understand cause I get painful cysts down there, and because of that I can't shave either but I do trim. I give him head all the time and I'm spontaneous with it. I do it in the car, I use my vibrator on him. I just want him to lick me. My exes always loved going down on me. Every time we'd have sex I'd get eaten out, even when I didn't give them head. I was usually the receiver maybe this is karma? Hahaha seriously though, I want him to go down on me sometimes it feels amazing and I miss that feeling. What do I do?

[madhatters4]

ask him. for many guys they are

a) initially rather selfish during sex and don't realize that the girlfriend may want it

b)insecure because so often we are told that we don't really know what we're doing down there, or because of lack of experience aren't confident

c) he simply doesn't know that it is something you enjoy want and hope for (perhaps other girlfriends didn't ever make the request or want him to do it)

Communicate with him and tell him that you would really like him to go down on you. If need be help him through it by telling him what feels really good and then be appreciative (not to say you wouldn't do any of those things)

[Asker]

I can talk to him about everything but this. I don't want to get into detail too much but foreplay with him is making out and kissing my neck, I want him do more kiss my legs, rub my body. I miss all Of that stuff. I love him he's my best friend and I don't want him to feel Like he's not doing IT right cause the sex part is great.

[Robotic]

You have to let him know what you like, a guy is not going to know until you do. guys are literal like that.

[madhatters4]

well then you are both to blame for this. a relationship (particularly the sexual aspect of it) is something that two people need to be able to communicate on back adn forth. And sexual disatisfaction can ruin a relationship...my girlfriend is the love of my life and best friend and yet she communicates with me about what she would like and vice versa, we talk to each other about it because we know it's for the good of our relationship

[madhatters4]

some guys will just want to explore oral sex but some won't and if they don't know it's something the girl wants then they probably aren't going to just start doing it

[Asker]

How do I bring it up? I personally think it's cause I can't shave down there, and if it is there's nothing I can do about it. I guess since I never had to ask for it in the past I just think it should happen. The fact that I have hair down there never bothered my past bfs but I've also never dated a white guy lol I don't know ... I guess I'll try to talk to him about it. We are moving in together in March so it might be easier then.

[madhatters4]

my girlfriend trims (doesn't shave) it doesn't bother me and I doubt it would bother most guys as long as you keep it as clean and hygenic as possible

[justme20]

Maybe he isn't into it or finds it gross. Its only fair is you don't go down on him. If you want him to do it then tell him to do it and ask him why he wont. Communicate with him and if that doesn't work either 1. live without it, 2. stop giving him head or 3. find another guy

[Anonymous]

Just talk to him about it. Some guys don't like to go down on girls.

[Anonymous]

have you ever just asked him?

[Asker]

No... I know that seems simple and it should be easy since he's been in my life for 10 years but I'm Very shy about this topic. He'll make comments like "I can't wait to see you and lick your..." Then he says nothing I ask what he says you'll see. Never happens.