Nympho Ex-girlfriend Versus Virgin Current girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm 23 years old and my new boyfriend is 29. I'm a virgin and obviously he's not. He's way more experienced than I am and has had many girlfriends/hook ups. He knows that I'm a virgin and he's not trying to get in my pants, it's not that. The thing is what I haven't told him (and I don't plan on it because it's very embarrassing) is that I'm a lot more INEXPERIENCED than I've let on. I've never really been in a full blown make out session and I really have no idea how to go about it so that's making me so nervous because we are headed that way. He's been pretty open with me about his past and is even willing to get tested for STDs and all that stuff if we ever decide to have sex. Don't misunderstand me, he hasn't slept with hundreds of girls but he has hooked up and obviously had his share of sexual encounters. The thing is that his ex girlfriend was this HUGE nympho, I mean, geezus she comes off IMO as some kind of sex goddess or something and I'm so scared of being compared to that. What if I can't even kiss him right in a make out situation? That's very humiliating at my age. What can I do to make sure that things go well and he enjoys the way I touch and kiss him? I've heard the whole 'it'll just flow naturally' advice but I need more than that. Hell, I've done the hand practicing thing and I feel like a ridiculous 14 year old lmao. So embarrassing. I need a little help here. I don't want to disappoint him. I really want to kiss him and touch him right, that he likes it and gets turned on by me. But you know, in the back of my head I keep worrying about that stupid nympho of an ex who probably let him tie her to sex swings for all I know.

[silencesoloud8603]

You really have nothing to worry about. Some time ago I entered into a relationship with a VERY experienced girl (I didn't find out how experienced she was until after we broke up) when I was in a very similar situation to yours. Not only was I still a virgin, but I'd done nothing more than a short peck on the lips. Obviously the latter changed (I didn't lose my virginity until the relationship after this one; she apparently didn't feel like risking having to put up with awkward and clumsy sex until I was more practiced), and it wasn't even an issue. It came completely naturally and the only time it was ever an issue was before I got over the psychological "I'm inexperienced so I must be a bad kisser" thing. Fast forward a few girls and here I am with someone inexperienced. I would have never guessed she was a virgin if she hadn't told me, and as far as expectations go the only thing I'm worried about is making it the best experience possible for her. Based on what you've said it sounds like your boyfriend is a decent guy and should have similar priorities.

[sexwiseman]

Interesting. How does a 23 year old virgin end up with a guy that dated a nymph? :)

Honestly, I would suggest just coming out clean and being honest. There is no reason to be embarrassed. Believe it or not, there are many girls in your situation, and I've had a couple of girls that right before making out, they say, 'before we go on, I need to tell you a big secret. ' And they went on to tell me that they had no experience. So for me, I just made sure I wasn't being too aggressive, but if anything, I think most guys would love that cause they get the chance to break you in! :P

[Anonymous]

Wow! I am pretty much in the same exact situation! I am 23. A virgin with Very Little experience. Dating a 30 year old guy! I worry about these things all the time too. He doesn't even know that I am a virgin. I have know idea how to tell him!

As far as the making out goes. It will come naturally! I have had a few hot and heavy make out sessions with this new guy. And it just sorta happened. I had never done it before! Since he knows you are a virgin he should know to take the lead in this sorta thing! Also, it helps if you have had a couple of drinks. You don't want to be drunk obviously. But one or two drinks will relax you a little bit so you don't over analyze the situation.

Hope this helps! And if you have any advise on how I can tell my guy I am a virgin I would really appreciate it! Just comment back.

[emmaroh]

Lol, few drinks thing totally works. I too am a virgin and there was this guy I was dating and one day at a club he grabbed me out of the blue (unexpected is definitely the way to go) and considering my previous worries it was a great make-out session. ;)

[johnsmith2116]

Well, he'll really be puzzled about your response to him sexually. He'll just assume that something's wrong. That's why I think you should tell him. That way he can make up his mind to make it easier for you by guiding you and showing you the way.

And he'll do exactly that if he really cares for you. ;-)

[Aedak]

It's really not something you shouldn't worry about at all. In fact its silly of you to over think it so much. Just relax and have a good time with him, what you do WILL come naturally. If all else fails though, watch some porn.

[oftenconfused]

I agree with 99% of what you said the porn will give you a stylized and over the top view of things.

[amandamaher]

No are you kidding the porn would scare the shit out of her! She needs to concentrate on her own pleasure. For me there is no wrong way to touch or kiss someone, it is more the person doing it than the act itself. And concentrate on your own pleasure.

[Aedak]

If you don't know how to do something and are not willing to learn naturally, porn is the only other option.

[Anonymous]

OMG just f*** him one he will like it because you are a virgin what are you waiting for the vagina fairy is not going to come beat you because you had sex for the first time and if you save it til marriage trust me you will get a divorce because you will have massive thoughts about what it would be like to sleep with another guy so be straight forward with him and f*** him jesus he won't laugh at you remember when you find yourself in a situation remember the nike slogan "JUST DO IT"