Tongue kissing vs lip kissing

[nicolerae08]

So I've been talking with some girlfriends lately and they say that they find tongue kissing to be trashy and not very passionate or emotional. It's kind of strange for me because I've never had a guy kiss me without shoving his tongue down my throat basically. Is this normal? And how should I hint or explain to my boyfriend that I want it to be more sincere and emotional when he kisses me than just a bunch of tongue and no real meaning. Does this make sense? I don't mind tongue but I would like to experience more loving kisses you know? And not feel like he's kissing me just to get in my pants every time. Haha.

[philosophersdilemma]

Trashy? I've never heard that before... I find it really passionate. I mean, unless he's slobbering all over you like a mad animal. I think kissing with tongue is incredibly intense in a good way! And I think it's really normal for people to kiss with tongue, and there's a pretty good explanation that I read a while ago... The tongue is actually one of the more fascinating and sensitive parts of the human body :)

I think loving kisses have to do with the emotion that's behind it, rather than whether or not a guy uses his tongue. If you do want someone not to shove his tongue into your mouth, though, I would suggest saying so. Kiss him in a way that makes it comfortable for you, because chances are he doesn't know he's a bad kisser if he keeps making the same mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Though I too think tongue is appropriate, don't tell him- show him.

Kiss him very lightly, tenderly and don't let the kiss last long enough to go further than that. Then kiss him on the cheek or hold his hands and looking in his eyes tell him you like it when he does that. (As if he did anything, right? :P) But let's face it, he want to be the one to do it right. He wants to be appreciated.

[nicolerae08]

Haha great idea! Thanks. :]

[koloblicin]

okay, ((and I realize this is the second of you Q's I've answered))

now this is simple to remedy, next time he puts his tongue in your mouth, bite it, not hard, don't bite it off, but enough to make him panic a bit so he'll take it out, then when he asks what your doing, tell him these words "I want my tongue in YOUR mouth for once." or something else to get his attention and make it humorous. (its just to bring up the topic)

usually tongue is best when its half in each persons mouth, its, actually very passionate if done properly and I don't think you guys are doing it right.

but back on topic, just tell him you want to kiss him without tongue sometimes, and keep your mouth slightly more closed when kissing to block him.

[Dria06hplova]

Wow Koloblicin....that was really smooth advice. I am impressed. I need to add you to my friends list. Kudos.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend uses a lot of tongue sometimes, too. I've been trying to figure out a way to not use so much so this topic totally helped me out a lot. Thanks!