First, test the lube. Not all lube agrees with alll girls, so that may be an issue. Don't use anything like oil or lotion...use stuff that is made for sex...and test a bit by yourself.
Second, learn to have him eat your ass, and take time to play with it. If it takes 40 min for You to get ready, then so be it. Foreplay is KEY to anal.
Finally, learn to push out as he pushes in. You don't have to do it too much..dont strain, just nice easy push out...opens anus..helps him get in. Once in...stay stll for a minute...to get used to it. Then start to move. You don't just "take it" -- you work together.
you REALLY have to go slow, ie: lets say he's taking you doggy style, get him to put lube on his thumb and tease your asshole, slowly at first, 5min at least of RELAXING the ass, finally when you are turned on enough (and you MUST be open minded or it won't work) let him slip in the thumb SLOWLY, another 5 min, try the index finger and maybe another TIP of another finger, work those two in. once BOTH are in, he will fit in! trick is: slow, patience, communication, relaxed open mind, and it should blow your mind!
Well when me and my boyfriend did it for the first time we used lube, of course. He played with it a bit with his finger. He put lube on his finger then just outlined the anal ring and would slowly put his finger in and I guess the hole expands so when he saw that it had expanded a bit more he started playing with his penis instead of the finger and just slowly put it in. You can't just expect to jam it in there. Always make sure to use lube though. That is a must!
Hope I helped.
YES! That is one of the greatest joys in life. You kiss and lick and lube and play with her butt hole in a loving way -- sooner or later - that * is going to open to an O. Then you are in for years, decades, of amazing love making.
Are you a girl or a guy. Mr or Miss cause your name is A= user. Will if your a Miss don't do it anymore. If your a MR gel it. LOL
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Stop clenching. Have him eat your ass first till it is as juicy as any pussy. PUSH OUT as he pushes in. When head pops in stop and breathe -- he waits till YOU push back. As a married woman there should be cum in your ass hole a few times a week -- minimum. Buy The Ultimate Guild to Anal Sex for Women and read it together.
Lol, I don't know from firsthand experience, but you may be using too much lube...
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