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Anal sex question.....

So my girlfriend and I had anal sex for the second time yesterday. We have done it once before and had to stop because she felt to stressed from school to do anal and could not relax. Yesterday we were able to do anal successfully in the shower and I came in her ass. Let me just say it was amazing and for the record, she said she wanted to try doing anal. The problem is that after we did anal and I finished in her butt, later in the day when she had to take poop, she had some weird poop and a little blood with it. She said she loved it and it felt great once she relaxed, but she is afraid of this issue of messed up bowl movements and minor bleeding. She and I are concerned, but we both want to continue anal every once in a while. Here is my question...is there always some tearing or minor bleeding for the girl after having anal sex? Is this normal every time you do anal? Does it stop and or does her but heal and get use to it? Please, help.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • No. Hell no. You did not do anything wrong -- but you might have the wrong idea about anal. Anal takes MORE time and foreplay and kisses and caresses. Give her time to get ready. Like the girl said below, yes, make her come regular way first. Don't be afraid to get in there with your tongue. Make sure one finger, then two, go easy in and out. Use GOOD lube -- not olive oil or something. But something nice made for sex -- astoglide, etc. Sometimes I just take a mouth full of p-juice after oral, and inject it into her butt with my lips pursed like a kiss. It HAS to be wet. It HAS to be relaxed. That said, a little bleeding can happen at first -- but should not happen moving forward. Some girls say it takes 4-5 times for the system to get used to anal -- some more. Some less. Read The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. She has lots of good ideas. You are lucky to have a girl so open. Do you best to do your best by her and you will be happy for a long time!

  • there shouldn't be any bleeding, no. You said "she felt great once she relaxed". This is a bad sign - there shouldn't be any anal penetration until she is relaxed! I mean, fingers are alright to get her relaxed, but no sticking the penis in until she's ready.

    A good test for this is to watch the orifice. If you can pull your finger out without her hole clinching up afterward, then she is ready.

    • Sorry, you took my words out of context. I did not put my penis in until she was completely relaxed. And I also use my fingers to warm her up.

    • oh. my bad. even so the 'test' I mentioned is valid. She can think she is relaxed without quite being there yet. If you use this 'test', however, there won't be any doubt and shouldn't be any bleeding.

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  • Anal tears. It can happen but it shouldn’t. She’s probably ok, but there's an increased risk for infection. There might also be scarring, and it’s likely that almost-healed wounds keep tearing up when she has bowel movements. You want to avoid this in the future. Let her heal for at least a couple weeks until you try again. Next time, spend time warming her up with fingers first, and use toooons of lube. Remember to apply more lube if you go on for more than a couple minutes, as it gets absorbed.

  • Go easy and use lube to prevent bleeding... weird poops are just because of the extra fluid :) giving her oral first will help her relax

  • its all normal, the butt will get used to it... the first time, her butt will be sore and her stool will loosen

    • Is a little bit of bleeding normal, because that really scared her.

    • bleeding a bit is normal, make sure your using lots of lubricant and easing your manhood slowly...

    • I second this. It takes a little practice but then there're no negative side effects.

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  • it normal, oh! and even after months of doing it smoothly she may have another bleeding or something, maybe lack of lube or just stress, it would be abnormal if it ALWAYS happened, but even if you do everything right it may still be a little bleeding or a little uncomfort, but is normal.

  • I don't know if you got an acceptable answer. The strange poop is normal. A little minor bleeding the first few times is also to be expected. Like all things sexual, as she acclimates to being sodomized, her body will adjust so the bleeding will stop. Leaving a load up her ass (my next favorite place to unload it) will be strange cumming out but she shouldn't worry. If you're into role play sex, I have a true story about one my gf and I did that you might find interesting.

  • Not always, depends on the speed/roughness of it and how much lubircant you use and how relaxed she is. Just use a lot of lubricant and make sure she is relaxed (maybe give her a message with a happy ending to loosen her up before hand) and you should be fine. Also probably want her to go to the bathroom an hour or so before anal to avoid the altered bowl movements.

  • A little minor bleeding is not an issue. It stops on its own. Use thicker lube and make sure she comes a few times before you get started.

    • Best response yet! Anal is always easier on me if he makes me come first. Relaxes me back there and ensures enough natural lube to get him in there.

    • Great point! That is exactly what I was going to write.

  • Not always, but there are some girls who tell me that but its not that intense after one or two so they still do it. Now there are girls that even one time can cause issues. Very hott milf pornstar brandi love apparently tried it once with her husband ( she is married) and got a tear the hospital needed to fix and does not do it anymore.

  • I wouldn't do it in the shower any more, you probably washed off some of the lube. Too much lube is just enough for the back door.

    • yeah i would think the shower is a bad idea unless it's a large one with room enough for her to bend right over and something for her to hold on to while you are easing it in :) on the other hand when you are finished it's convenient for soaping and rinsing your penis so she can suck it for you...

  • I've never had the girl bleed after anal. See a doctor.

  • Not enough lube. She should not bleed and as for the bowel movement the poop should be mixed with your cum, otherwise should be normal.

  • make sure you lube up before ramming it in...good luck!

  • No, this is not normal. My wife and I have been having anal sex for YEARS and never had a trace of blood. Maybe your girlfriend has some underlying medical condition such as a fissure or hemmoroids.

  • Normal

  • Use lube

  • Anal is about humiliation and submission, not pleasure, you DO have a perfectly good organ specifically designed to be fucked, so yes, there will likely always be some pain and injury.

  • Minor bleeding is not uncommon when a girl doesn't have a lot of experience with anal. My wife and I have been doing it regularly for 20 years and she experienced that occasionally early on but it disappeared before long and has never been an issue since.

    As far as messing with her bowl movements, that's just not a problem. People have all sorts of misconceptions and fears about anal that are based purely on misinformation, of which there seems to be a lot here at GAG.

    • Give her butt a week or so to heel before trying it again.

  • There's really no problem with the anal.

    Nothing was torn or minor bleeding. It must be the lube.

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