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How do I give a good bj and hj?

so I'm gay and have been with my boyfriend for about six months now. we are both ready t take it to the next level and have sex. problem is I'm still a virgin and he has had some experience. so how do I make it good? I want to give him a night to remember. so how do I give a good bj and hj?
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so we talked the other day and it might happen sooner than I think.. I'm so nervous what if I'm not good enough for him?
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so we had sex last night.. it was amazing! I never knew what exactly it was I was missing out on. and as for the hj and bj he told me and I thought you were a virgin. I was nervous at first but I got over it real soon if you know what I mean lol XD
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  • Well congratulations on your relationship! It's going to be really fun. Well I have a gay roommate and he is also like one of my best friends. He told me you must take it slow in the back door. You guys need to decide who's going to be the pitcher and who's going to be the catcher., jajajaja... You need to buy good lube and make sure you don't eat foods that will upset your stomach. I know it's kind of gross, but if you don’t sh*t before you do it, something very embarrassing can happen. He needs to use his fingers first to relax your anus. Pinky in first and so on, then two fingers, once you can take three full fingers he can penetrate you... slowly. It takes time and can't be done in one night.

    As for giving him and hj, start by massaging his lower stomach and inner thighs without touching his groin. He needs to be enticed. Then massage the groin area with his pants on, with clothes on you can be a tad rough. Do all this while lying next to him, while you kiss him and you hug him. Then hut you hand in his pants without undoing them, and without going into his underwear. Massage there for a while then take your hand in his underwear straight to his balls and massage them delicately pulling down. Then move up to the penis and grab it with normal grip and go up and down, like when you masturbate. Then with a more firm grip, harder and faster.

    Then, open his pants, pull them down and do it for a while more, then move on to the bj... Make sure he has washed; there is nothing worse than a stinky dick! It’s about respect... Just to be sure, check out his dick, make sure there are no strange rashes or moles or strange growths. You don't want to get HPV. Then go lower, and take it in you mouth, let go of you saliva, it needs lube! Suck it like eating sweets, no teeth. Think of a Popsicle while you are doing it, look up at him a few times, but not too many. Concentrate, it's gonna get salty soon with precum, it's like seawater. So just live though it, you get used to it...ring your tongue about, suck the tip and tighten your lips about it. After a while, go up and kiss his neck, he should start doing the same to you... Go crazy and have fun! Take a quick shower together afterwards and eat something. After sex you get hungry from the exercise.

  • i don't agree with the girl below me... I would say play with it some but don't just use your hands... slowly start putting it in your mouth and licking it up and down and really just have fun with it, if you want to really know what he likes just ask him to teach you... have him do what he likes to you or have him tell you what he likes as you do it... I don't know but I honestly think a guy should answer this question because they know what they like, and every guy likes different things... but don't worry about it and just have some fun! and btw if he cums in your mouth it does have a bitter taste so just be prepared, it makes me gag...

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  • yay! I'm glad you had fun!

  • HJ's are probably easier for you to know what to do. As for BJ's, they require practice. Maintain eye contact, and if you really want you can look at some pron to get ideas. That is what I did. Good luck. <3

    • I think you should give it a try. You've been going out for a while, I really think you're gonna be okay. *Hugs* Take it slow and try not to stress yourself out too much. If I were you, I wouldn't worry. It comes with practice.

    • 'm so happy that things went well for you last night. Last night I went to a gender bender party :) It was really fun.

  • oh. I was assuming you were a chick. but anyway...

    well for starters, you should go with hj first. some men like to be felt fast or slow. and with bj, you wanna make sure you touch there inner thighs while sucking slowly. guys love it when I do that. I would say that's my signature move. lols. then you just go to town. lucky for you, you don't have long hair. I always had to tie mine up for me to get the job done ;).. lols

    g'luck!

  • Dont worry about that if he for real loves you it won't matter..

  • I would say you can first stuff by kissing and licking his stomach area then go down to his thighs and do the same. Once you do that start slowly licking his balls and make your way to his penis. Then lick and kiss it until you reach the head once you do take the head into your mouth just the tip and swirl your tongue around it. Especially where there that outline around the tip and once you have him go down and suck and lick him all the way. Have him place his hands on your head and then if you get tired use your hand to jerk him off while sucking and licking him. What you can try is on one side jerking him off while on the other licking and kissing him. My guy really enjoyed this! Just alternate between that. :)

  • haha...when you give him a hj do it fast and don't stop until he cums..then suck it all up lyk ur sucking a sucker in a really sexy way...it works I tried it on my boyfriend and he loved it!

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