Is it really bad or wrong to objectify women?

[Anonymous]

No bullsh*t here. I'm being honest, I don't think its necessarily wrong. My roommate (female) was on my case about it yesterday because I was talking about how I love p*rn, webcam girls, strip clubs, etc. Some friends of mine had a bachelor party a week ago and there was some pretty heated action with the strippers there. Men know where I'm coming from, and even some women. She said she doesn't like those things because they sexually objectify women. She said its like a meat market where you choose the best cut you like and consume it through masturbation. It makes sense, ill give her that. but I find women sexually attractive. I love looking at ass, t*ts, and pus.sy on my computer screen, I like strip clubs, lap dances, I like what strippers will do for you outside of the club or in the vip section, etc. this all provides an outlet for mens sexual desires so we don't lay it all on our gfs. and it makes cheating less likely, imo. I give the girl a choice, no need to lie. if she doesn't like it, ill just break up and do what I want to do. I love to objectify women, and I think most men do. I don't think this makes us bad people. its just that women make such good sexual objects. I think even women like to objectify themselves. the girls on webcam love it half the time, they get off on all those men watching them and treating them like a "piece of meat." the strippers like it sometimes too or they at least like getting paid for it. and women like to dress sexy and decorate themselves to fulfill male fantasies. and its amazing how many throw themselves at you when they know you're in a relationship. even some of your gf's so called "friends." that has happened to me several times. they like the idea that they could out-do my girlfriend somehow, they like the idea of objectifying themselves as a sexual object for me for a one night stand or a long term affair of mostly sex. we all like objectifying women, lets be honest. naked women are f***ing hot, why not? Then she judged me for have friends with benefits relationships. I have one now. I prefer those half the time because the girl knows what I want and she can't expect me to take emotional hangups as seriously. anyone else agree?

[madhatters4]

to an extent I agree but I don't agree I think to the degree you are talking about

I have a girlfriend. I maybe watch p*rn twice a week, don't do web cams, and haven't been to a strip club. I went to a bachelor party while with a girlfriend but only watched didn't participate. I think there is a healthy amount of sexual practice (p*rn watching, masturbation, etc) and an unhealthy level and seems like you approach a little more unhealthy

it is cheating on a girlfriend to do what it sounds like you are suggesting you and your friends do with strippers "outside the club". I would suggest (being honest that I don't know the degree to which you go to strip clubs, or watch p*rn and webcams) but I would suggest that you may have an unhealthy sexual appetite and level of sexual lasciviousness towards women.

I do think objectifying women (or any pesron) is wrong entirely and wholly but I think there is a difference between objectification of women and whacking off to p*rn or goign to a strip club once in a while. Your roommate seems to have the more orthodox feministic outlook on p*rn, strip clubs, etc btu plent of women that men are visual creatures who self satisfy using these tools as stimuli but it isn't about objectifying

[Anonymous]

Sexual objectification is normal, to a degree. We all objectify others sexually.

The problem comes when sexual objectification becomes the only way you relate to women, and you lose respect for them as human beings as a result.

[teasegirl]

Totally agree with you. Women do the same thing though. I have boy toys too. Haha some of my friends know that if we are hanging out their shirt must be off. I'm not going to touch but the sexy visuals are good enough. And not one had felt offended or refuses to do so. It goes both ways.

And the stripers deal, is their job... If you're doing more than lap dance then dude you're cheating lol

If a guy needs to go get a bj or a fck somewhere else then obviously he is not ready for a relationship, so why be in one. Better be single and do as you please.

Being single -give no explanations, expect no explanations-

[Anonymous]

I (along with almost all other women in some way) equally objectify men, so I don't see an issue with it.

[Markezzo]

I can see your point and agree with most of it. I would say that this differs a lot from person to person. We simply have to be honest about what we want. Your room-mate will find a man who agrees with her and that will probably work for them.

I don't think there's anything wrong with objectifying attractive people, but it will always be important to question the way we view women/men so it doesn't lead us in a hateful way.

[ChooChooHaha]

Nah. As long as it's all consensual, at least I don't have a problem.
She's being judgmental. And from all that condemnation, you know she's up to the same shit you are, if not more dirty.

[tadpole25]

It's not that it's right or wrong to objectify people. It's about when and how. Generally, we only objectify people we're interested in.

If a woman is sexually attracting to you, she will like being objectified (in a flattering way of course). If sh'es not then, she won't like it. And she'd probably objectify you too.

But if she's not attracted, then it doesn't take place period.

[dwiller943]

Yes. Especially if she is a respectful person.
Good women don't deserve to be treated like objects.

[dudeman]

only if youknow the women. if you don't know them then that's exactly what they are, objects. a p*rn film/pics are objects.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Do I love sexual objectication the women in their small outfits I just want to rip it off and fuck them max, only those female apologist kinda guys or fucking simps would act like they doesn't objectify women hell even women objectify themselves and they enjoy getting that attention.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry. A lot of guys do that objectification.

[Anonymous]

No. Most portray themselves as such anyway.

[Anonymous]

in the end we're all just objects