Why do white guys don't like white girls dating black guys?

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Why do you think white guys don't like white girls dating black guys. The first answer might be racism but guys don't seem to have a problem with other ethnicities like Asian or Hispanic. Also its not just white guys other guys ie Asian, Hispanic guys don't like girls dating black guys either.

In case "penis myth" is mentioned, link

I've heard this from friends and other guys I know, that they wouln't date a girl who's been with a black guy. Many wouldn't like their sisters dating a black guy either. So why guys seem to have this issue exactly, and why wouldn't they date girls who have dated black guys.

Their is option to answer Anonymously so guys what are the exact reasons you wouldn't date a girl who's dated black guy/s.

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Would you date a girl who's been with a black guy/s?

VoiceOfReason · Accepted Answer

I think it can be an issue both ways. While I do see some Black men go after Black women who date outside of their race, I still feel it's more prevalent with White males when a White woman goes outside of her race, particularly if she is dating a Black man.

Of course not all White men behave like that. Generally, it's the uneducated low status White males who tend to present this type of behavior. In fact even if the woman is of a different race entirely a lot of these lower echelon White men will have issues if she is with a Black male.

For the most part, I don't think it's an issue for upper echelon Black or White men who are cultured and/or educated because these gentlemen have so many more important issues to concern themselves with such as their own relationships, families and careers. However, the guy sitting at home at the trailer park doesn't really have a lot going for himself to begin with, so he has to channel his idle time somewhere so he will tend to focus on hate and blaming other people for his shortcomings.

Take for instance, Mr Anonymous right above Mr TedStar. He is a prime example of clueless and believes that most Black men will date substandard White women as a means of retaliation against slavery when the truth is, just because he may prefer underweight anorexic type females doesn't mean that all men do. He fails to realize that a lot of Black men who are dating or married to White women are actually college educated and successful men who actually want an equally accomplished and successful woman. Perhaps the woman they chose has some appeal to them, but she just happens to be White. I really don't think that most Black men sit at home pondering ways to get back at White men for a time era we didn't live in or have no responsibility for.

Additionally, there are some women who tend to also exhibit this behavior, both Black and White, so it's not just the men who have this mentality. I don't think it's as prevalent with White women as it is for Black women and again I don't think its the entire race, just those who aren't educated and/or cultured.

In situations where wee have people who are the bottom feeders of society it is so easy for them to point fingers at someone else to cast blame for their own shortcomings when in reality they are their own worst enemy.

Bottom line is, no one should be consumed by what others are doing. They would be doing themselves a greater service if they took a realistic look at their own situation and come up with ways to resolve their own issues instead of blaming others. We all have our perceptions of what's attractive to us and it will differ in varying degrees with what our neighbor finds attractive. If that perception leads them to a mate of another race, then so be it. No need to condemn them for their choices.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably for the same reasons black quys hate it when a black woman is dating a white man. The only things that my females must have or be is female from birth not from desire or a surgeon. Fat/thin white/yellow/black small-boobs/large-boobs not of that matters, I married for the inside first and foremost.

I do think that a majority of black males in the US date white woman because they think that it is owed to them for the suffering that they went through as slaves. I also find out that the ghetto styled AAM's tend to degrade their females and usually go after the white woman with low-self esteem, daddy issues, or overweight, or physically not attractive to most white men.

MCSchubs · Accepted Answer

Here's the truth: The reason white guys don't like white girls liking black guys is because psychologically, we are programmed to think that lighter means "good" which translates to superior, pure and perfect, the white man is inherently superior because of his lighter and delicate features making them attractive which translates to their women being the same thing, in contrast, dark represents "evil" and a downgrade to pure and perfect which translates to inferior, thus their men are less perfect and attractive and it translates to their women being the same thing , so if you think about it, the lighter the person, the more superior he is and the darker the person, the more inferior they are to become remember this is in a physical sense. So imagine that the greatest possession that a man can be proud of is their women because women signify traits that make man attracted to them, now apply that to the theory that the lighter the person, the more superior they are attractive wise. And the darker they are, the more inferior they are attractive wise. So all in all, white women are on average more attractive than black women. Men (especially white men) are biologically wired by this, which makes them very aware of this. Which in turn, makes them psychologically ill when they see a white woman with a black man why. Because white=light which translates to superiority, purity, and delicacy and black=dark which translates to inferiority, and degration especially in the physical sense. This in turn makes white women the top of the prize. So in turn, the black guy doesn't deserve to be with a white girl because she is physically and attractively on a higher level, with her perfect delicate features and only deserves to be with someone with the same attractive delicate features as the white men and he should settle for a woman that is on his level of attractiveness, other wise, if the black man gets a white girl it's like the top jewel that's degraded. Here's the thumbs down.

crookthings · Accepted Answer

In my opinion, it's specifically anti-black racism (which is more prevalent in general than racism toward Asians or Hispanics). Obviously it's not the 1920s anymore, but I feel like the attitudes about black man/white woman couples are only SLOWLY fading away. It wasn't that long ago that white dudes were throwing riots and burning down homes because they saw black guys simply talking to white women. We don't have that history with Asians or Hispanics, as far as I know.

And this might seem like a stretch, but black men are stereotyped as more masculine (goes hand-in-hand with the aggressive stereotype, apparently), so men of other races who subconsciously take this "masculinity competition" seriously might feel threatened by them.

peace-love-couture · Accepted Answer

White guys are generally closet "racists" and think one of their precious white women dating a black guys as her dating down, hence white guys using terms like mudshark. To them, it's 'bestiality' or the equivalent as such.

Plus, most white guys don't like blacks in general. To even think of finding a black girl attractive is an abomination and to think that one of their own would date an inferior creature bugs them.

Hence why Adele is considered curvy to white people but Beyonce is considered a fatass and you'll never hear a white dude say Beyonce is hot.

I asked this but it got deleted, mostly because people want to post things anonymously but want to publicly condemn those who speak the truth

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archer86 · Answer

When you look at the world's history since the 16th century, no other ethnicity has suffered more hell than Africans on a continuous basis. It was just too easy to dominate and control the Africans because the three thousand tribes failed to develop guns. Add in religious dominance and the driving force to make money and the poor black man just got screwed. Only the Native Americans and the tribes of Central/South America had it so bad but even they do not suffer such a global stigmatism the way blacks do. During the 19th and 20th centuries, the whites would tell everyone in the world how bad blacks are and unless you lived in a very open culture or never seen a FREE black person before, the rest of the world believed them.

Today, the image of blacks in Africa and the western world continues to be negative unless they are in the NBA. Black-Americans continue to be marginalized and disenfranchised. Blacks still live in poor inner city areas except in the Deep South. In the Gulf Coast, places such as Haiti, Cuba and Dominican Republic suffer some of the worst poverty in the world. In a large majority of Sub-Saharan Africa, many tribes continue to practice the old ways of ancestral worship, living without I-Pods, PlayStation and BMW's. This is what we see and the world still thinks Blacks all over the world are savage bushmen who can never ascend into first-class citizenry and education.

Everyone thinks their specific women are the best in the world, and white people are the pinnacle of such beliefs. We see white chicks everyday in modeling, movies, sports and so on. It's only natural to think theirs is so above the rest of the world and us lowly blacks have no business touching the merchandise. Just how it is. I really don't think penis endowment has much to do with it.

Sorry for the long dialogue, hope this helps

katiesmuff · Answer

Take it from a white girl from redneck USA who dates and screws black guys about the racism! I have found most of the profound ones to be uneducated, ignorant with a hundred year old redneck mentallity. Around me the more they hate the more I flaunt it!

Fortunately these are the exceptions and I don't see a lot of resentment from the majority of the white community.

The Laughable part about it is, if I was into dating white guys it sure wouldn't be one of those ignorant redneck types.

TedStar · Answer

I'd say racist plain and simple. If they are attracted to each other and the guy is of good character there is absolutely no reason to be against interracial dating of this kind.

MyNameIsJonas · Answer

Im white and I don't care what so ever. Date who ever you want.

rabbit3891 · Answer

When I was a teenager it wasn't super common for a white girl to have been with black guys, but now I think most have at least once. There's nothing wrong with it.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

I have no problem because it's not like I give a sh*t what another person does with their private life if they're not hurting anyone. That's none of my business.

MarcoIsAFailure · Answer

Most white men are kinda racist towards black, but with positive stereotypes.
The old blacks got big dicks story for example, but also them being more masculine in general. More aggressive (not necessarily in a bad way), more muscular etc.
And it is kinda true, that black men excel at traditionally masculine traits.

That's why white men tend to be intimidated by black guys.
Now, if a girl is into black men too, the white men are frightened because they have to compete with those overly masculine black men which are even more overly masculine in their heads.
That's especially the case if they don't know the black guys she's been with. Then in his head, they will look like perfect super-men.

Just imagine an ex of your partner you've never seen. They might be ugly and stupid, but in your head they appear perfect.
The unknown danger is always the most frightening one.

G_GTom · Answer

As long as I don't have to date them, they can date who they please.

Cottoncandydreams · Answer

Ignorance Racist family "once you go black we don't want you back" They think that once a white woman has been with a black man they are "tainted"

The_truth_now · Answer

Multiculturalism is White GENOCIDE, don't do it!

mikehawke · Answer

It has nothing to do with the “penis” myth. It has to do with ghetto, dread wearing uneducated jobless dudes. Well spoken black dudes with ambition are cool, project thugs... nope. Shows a girl has character issues.

Anonymous · Answer

I won't be with any girl that has even kissed a Black guy or thought of one in a romantic way.
I will be with White or Hispanic girls and I think it is fine for Whites/Hispanic/Asians to date each other.

And I don't want to deal with racial BS all the time whenever something doesn't go their way, so for that reason I won't even be friends with one anymore.
That doesn't seem to be a problem when I am with White, Hispanic, or Asian people.

Anonymous · Answer

There not the only group to do it. Like, some black guys are pissed if black girls go elsewhere. They'll call her names and try to go after the guy as well. I've seen many times that in more predominately black websites where a black woman will mention liking white guys and they'll get a lot of sh*t for it and they'll be directed to ghettogaggers and say that's how white guys feel about them. I've seen white girls attack Asian girls because they're the biggest threat to them. It's just funny to me how only white guys are pointed out in any of these things.

Now, for me, it's mostly because of the type of black guy that those girls tend to go for. The reasons a lot of them go that way is kind of offensive too. The penis thing is one (the link confirm that? I didn't bother with it), they're saying how they are manlier, they have better bodies, they're this and that. You can easily find plenty of videos on Youtube where girls are saying these things, and those are just the ones that make videos on it. It's just strange how many of them will date and give it up to black guys and then marry a white guy down the line. lol Can't go to an amateur p*rn site without seen half the front page with that. A lot of tumblr too.

This is just all from the white girl side. A lot of black guys see white girls as a step up too.

Anyway, to me, there's a lot of disrespect white girls out there and they have ruined it for the rest of them. Though, if they believe those things, they really haven't ruined anything. That's the thing about interracial relationships that I don't like. You can ask a question on here about what guys/girls like about (insert race here) guys/girls and you'll probably see what I'm talking about. I'm bothered by it no matter who they are slighting. I don't feel like my reasons are from a racist standpoint or anything. It never bothered me when I was younger (unless I really liked that particular girl). It was after hearing and seeing the things some of these girls were saying/doing.

Anonymous · Answer

Poor parenting and racist upbringing. Who are we kidding? Most white guys don't find black girls attractive. I don't think it should matter what a white gals been with.

Anonymous · Answer

Insecurity or racist upbringing. They're typically less educated than other men as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Ive dated girls who were with black guys before.  If that is all she dated and I was the exception I might pay more attention to it

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