What do you do if your partner won't give oral sex?

[Anonymous]

My problem is I like giving blow jobs and give pretty often, but my boyfriend returns the favor very, very rarely and it's started to wear on me. It makes me feel like I should give less. I'm clean and I don't think I taste or smell bad, he just isn't into it. I've told him I really like when he goes down on me and asked or implied I want it the few times he's done it, but he doesn't initiate it himself like I do for him. What do I do?

[ilovelegs]

Honestly, some people love giving oral and some don't! That's probably not an easy thing to change. I don't think it's a good idea to be giving a boyfriend a bj too often because you become like servant rather than a girlfriend. He needs to reciprocate or you need to slow down on how often you're pleasuring him and find out the real reason he doesn't like giving you oral. If he balks, then that should tell you that getting that from you means MORE to him than YOU do, and if that's true, then I'd say you should seriously reconsider your relationship with him. Once sexual stuff becomes the main ingredient in a relationship, that's the beginning of the end of that relationship. So you're going to have to face that sooner or later, and by later I don't mean all that much later. It's up to you if you want to continue how you've been and how he's been. Time to find that out what's more important to him... you or his pleasure. Right now he's not being fair with you so you need to slow down or else your continuing to do too often will hurt your relationship no matter how much you like doing it. Sexual stuff never keeps a relationship going.

[Anonymous]

Well you could drop larger hints or just come out and say "hey eat my p****!" If he is not willing to reciprocate then you have to really consider this and how much it affects your relationship? Is it a deal breaker? If my girlfriend wouldn't give me blowjobs then I wouldn't stay with her. It's just too important to me sexually and I simply need to be satisfied that way. I don't like going down on her but I would if she likes it.

[Kadiboma]

Damn... it's a deal-breaker for me! He has to enjoy doing that, I can't be with a guy who won't do it, or does it so rarely. I don't think I could be with him! But perhaps you need to sit him down and really talk to him seriously. It sounds like he's being quite selfish... and you should definitely give him less BJs so he knows how it feels to go without.

[Anonymous]

I agree with most of the comments. Just stop going down on him and see how he likes it. Fair is fair.

[mshaker]

Just grab his head and tell him to eat some proper well vitimanized liquid! Lol that Otta do it! He really doesn't like that? That's f*uckd.

[emg1012]

Play his game and don't give him blow jobs as often as you do now, maybe he will think twice about his decision...

[Dragan]

Terminate him fellatio, and asks, first cunnilingus.

[hannibal214]

not sure there's much you can do here. it's clear your Boyfriend doesn't enjoy performing cunnilingus. you can withhold blow jobs to compel him to do it, but you can't make him like it. sorry

[cherrychoco]

Don't give him blow jobs anymore. Or, if you feel comfortable doing this... You know how guys grab a girls hair and pretty much force themselves in her mouth? It's in almost every p*rno flick if you don't know what I'm talking about. Do that to him.

[Anonymous]

I really enjoy giving AND receiving.

I couldn't be with a girl who didn't like giving me BJs.

[Anonymous]

bring another woman in and have her pleasure you while you pleasure him.