My boyfriend has slept with multiple strippers, craigslist girls, and call girls, should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

He says he has only been with 15 girls, but I think it's more then that. And he did all of this before we met of course. Honestly if he would have told me this when we first started talking, I probably wouldn't be with him =/ but I have fallen in love with him now. I need some opinions from people so I can just finally stop thinking about this. He says he is very in love with me, and that he is embarrassed of his past with these girls. Most guy's wouldn't date a p*rnstar because of their past, same implies with females, stuff like this is disgusting. Sigh, maybe I am just over reacting?

[JohnBelluci]

Judging and punishing someone for their past is pretty retarded in my opinion.

People have different period in their lifes, they make mistakes, they change, they have different needs etc.

If his past is the only thing that bugs you about him, yous should stop thinkng about it.

You wanna dump a guy who had to pay to get chicks ? Who had only one girlfriend before you ? Who is getting you an engagement ring after just One year of relationship ? ... let's be serious a minute.

The only harm he seems to be able to cause, is giving you STDs (that's actually a big deal, get him tested)

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[Married-in-PA]

No, not at all. I hit ass on the side all the time. My fav's are the be-hotches that are all strung-out on powder, and on The Pole. Every guy needs a little Strange once in a while...There's nothing you can't buy for say... $500.

Okay, enough kidding around...whatever a guy's (or girl's) past... choose someone who is and can be faithful. I was a wild child when I was in my early 20's - hey, the ARMY will do that to a man, but I've been with my wife for over 15 years, and I don't go to strip clubs or p*rn-stores. I have no need.

[Anonymous]

If you are already in love with him... what are you going to do? Just enjoy your relationship and don't think about the past, otherwise things will get confusing :/

[Asker]

Sigh, well I know he would never cheat on me. He is too old for that, and he doesn't want to lose me... It's rare to find a guy like that :l and all guy's have their past right?

[Opinion Owner]

Is the only problem the past?

[Asker]

YES the only problem is the past! Like, he f***ing spoils me and holds me and says he loves me. He is never on his phone, and he wants to marry me... It's just the past that is hurting me.

[Asker]

He had his heart broken in the past and he told me that the only reason he was with these girls was because he felt lonely. He is 28 years old and I am only his 2nd gf.

[Opinion Owner]

Will his past hurt you, knowing that he is giving his future to you? Something that you two can mold together?

[scnbabe89]

He sounds like a player ide watch out for him. Get tested for stds and make him do it too.

[JamielovesKU]

See if he can get tested for anything he may have just to be on the safe side.

[MissConfused93]

Well get him tested then go from there.

[Asker]

He says he is clean. And I haven't had any signs of std. But I have never been tested before, I'm doing it soon though.

[Konnour]

Is 15 "only"?

The worst you could ever do is to fall for such guy, there is no girl who will ever be "the one" for him, he is not wired that way

But what's even worse is that he's openly deceiving you, lying to you - some of such kind got the decency to be open and clear about their intentions to prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings but this one is a special kind of scumbag - he doesn't give a damn about your feelings and expectations at all, he gives you promises never to be fulfilled only to pull you in bed and then to dump you - open your eyes

Get some self-control and spare yourself from terrible misery and regret

[Asker]

We have been dating for almost a year now, and I found out that he is paying off an engagement ring for me. He isn't the best looking guy and he tells me that he is so lucky to have such a beautiful girl. He is 28 year's old and says that he knows what he wants in his life. With that being said, I am just debating if I do want to spend the rest of my life with a guy that has this past history with girls. What is you're opinion?

[Konnour]

My opinion? You can get something so much better! Don't believe in his lies and do yourself a favour - get rid of him!

[DexHawk2]

AIDS HIV ! WATCH OUTTT!

[Asker]

He say's that he used a condom with all of those girl's and that he has been tested but he has no STD. We have been dating for a year now.

[DexHawk2]

oh , well that's good , as long as he doesn't have them your good . but wouldn't you feel sad ? I mean I would if my girl did tht to me

[Asker]

Would I feel sad about what? I am sad about a lot of things, but that is just because I am f***ing in love with this guy lol it drives me insane you have no idea -_- everyone asks me why I date him, because I could get an amazing looking guy but you know what, I don't care about appearances. You know why? Because I use to be an ugly duckling, and I just bloomed late.. And I am in love with a guy that has a bad past =/

[DexHawk2]

i have a bad past still lol . people tell me it will get better lets hope so

[hannibal214]

assuming he doesn't have any STDs, yes, you are over-reacting. you can't change the past, and it had nothing to do with you. if he treats you right, get over it. it's irrelevant to the present, and in fact made him the man he is (who you say adores you). would you prefer a virgin who treated you like sh*t?

OT, I'm not sure why he told you any of this. he should've just lied and said he had 3-4 previous, non-professional, sex partners

[Cocobeet]

Is 15 girls:D Is your friend Casanova?

You can get rid of that kid.

[Asker]

No he isn't Casanova, he just has money saved up and gave it to these girls. You know I saw one of his craigslist adds he posted in 2008 (way before we even met) he was offering girls $1000-$1500 to film naked and stuff... I think he actually went through with it. I don't know I am not asking him. He doesn't know I found this out.

[Cocobeet]

Inappropriate situation.

[Anonymous]

I think a large minority of guys, maybe even a majority, would be open-minded about dating a p*rn star or at least a former p*rn star.

But anyway, I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.

Guys rarely get approached, so they have to do the best they can. I don't think many girls really try to think about things from the guy's perspective.

[Anonymous]

Stds galore.

[Anonymous]

To a point you are over reacting. Not everyone has the same morals or beliefs as you, nor do you have the same as everyone else. The only thing that I would do is go with him and have both of you checked for STDs. That should be with any partner, condom usage or not. Granted one night stands are harder but if you are having one of those he should be wearing a condom regardless of if you are on the pill or not. Thank God there is the morning after pill these days, when I was younger we did not have that option.

Are you over reacting? To a point, but not really. Not everyone is going to have a past that you approve of but as you have already said, you can not help who you fall in love with...