Her Favorite toy......moving in?

Few months ago I kind of got mixed up into some crazy mess! You see once I step foot outside of my job. I walk into two different worlds. One being my normal family and friend relationships, where I do your normal things such as hanging out or going on trips blah blah blah. Then there's the new world or lifestyle, where I'm a swinger. Yes, a swinger and before you ask "No, you don't have to be in a relationship in order to swing. You just need a willing or guiding partner and the rest is simple" This all started with my neighbor Tiffany(whose 43) who lives right above me. We hooked up back in February, a couple of weeks after that she introduced me to one of her friends Lisa(whose 51). Lisa is the one that got me into "the lifestyle" and has been my partner. Since we've started this she has opened my eyes to a number of things sexually and non-sexual. While treating me as a equal and never really mentioning our age difference the entire time. The times we've gone to "meet and greets" and "swing parties". She's made sure I meet the right people and steers me away from people she knows or doesn't know. "People she knows" as in they have a rep: meaning they are into some from of drug use or they don't know the meaning of the words "stop" or "no" After a few parties I finally told her I really wasn't into them, and she was actually happy to hear that. Mainly because she likes to have "private parties" at her home. Which over the past month and a half have been extremely fun, entertaining, and very giving to say the least. So far the parties have consist of us chatting and sharing drinks with other couples, and then moving to the bedroom to split them(as in she takes the husband and I get the wife). Which I'm starting to notice are becoming more of a try-out to see how far the wife in the couple is willing to go. Because after that I only see the women from those couples. For one in particular I've become a regular or a substitute companion. In the sense that we have our own room at Lisa's that we share on nights she can stay out or when her husband is off doing his own thing. For some reason Lisa is absolutely fascinated by the way I do things and how I carry myself and has introduced me to others women. Two from her job and one from the lifestyle group she's sometimes apart of. So now I'm juggling my work life, my normal life, and this life. It has become very exhausting. To the point where I'm waking up not knowing what day it is or (at times) whose house I'm actually at. The thought of taking another sip of wine is sickening and thinking about sex just makes me tired. So currently (as in right now) I'm at Lisa's. Pretty much hiding from the world phone is off, no Facebook,and no work for the next two days. After telling lisa about everything I'm going through and feeling and how tired I've been she says: "Well why doesn't my favorite toy move in and let me take care of him? Rest up and we can talk tomorrow" Should I move in with her?
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  • I think that moving in would not be the best idea. This is possibly something you experienced and it gives you an understanding of another world/lifestyle but if it is becoming tedious then I am of the opinion that you have now grown out of it no matter how short this lasted.

    If you move in with her you are making this your new lifestyle and need to leave the old/other one behind. I really believe that this is your life to live but I do not believe it is the healthiest split in the road to take. If she was a lot younger then maybe but I feel you are getting involved with an age group past your knowledge.

    I also find it worrying that you are nothing more than a toy. She has made no effort to even hide this. You need to be valued as a person instead of as an object. I just find the whole situation uncomfortable and not from the point that you are a swinger. You have no value to anyone involved and they are all a lot older. They don't have as much of a future to look forward to or to destroy. They at a different stage of their lives!

    I really hope you make the decision that will make you happiest.

Most Helpful Guys

  • sounds to me to you need a break from it all in general. not saying stop it all together but at least take a little hiatus.

    What you are involved in sounds very strenuous both physically and mentally and trying to balance that with the rest of your "normal" life must be tedious. It sounds to me like you are mentally exhausted by all the new experiences and it is causing you to feel physically exhausted.

    Moving in while it may provide some semblence of brief rest will only force your body to undergo more transitions which to be the cause of your exhaustion to begin with

    Can you just take a break from the scene for a while? Perhaps a few weeks or a month or two?

  • At the point where wine and sex become tedious is when you need to reexamine your lifestyle choices.

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