My boyfriends best friend kissed me and wanted sex?

[ktbeasleyze]

So, I have been dating his guy for 3 months but we have been best friends for over a year and a half now. Anyway he recently left for basic training about a month ago and writes me letters as often as possible filled of sweet nothings and I love you. I would jump in front of a bullet for this guy as we have been through so much trouble in the time we have known each other and are very close or so I thought. Well long story short, my boyfriend asked me to marry him and I said I would as soon as he gets out of the military. So, his best friend texted me at the pool and asked if I wanted to hang out, I said I didn't cause it was unfair to my boyfriend for us to hang out alone. Anyway, he told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me and we needed to work it out. I told what he said to heart and drove to his house to talk about it in person and I knew his parents would be home. About 10min after our conversation has begun, he parents decide to leave and take care of some things. I read the letter my boyfriend had sent to him that talked about how not having sex for 2 months is ridiculous and how he wanted to be home to f*ck. And a bunch of other things that didn't seem like him. As I'm getting analyzing the letter his bud starts saying he knows I'm a virgin and what I want to know about sex. He then comes over to where I'm at and kisses me, reaches his hand up and says "wow they are D's!" I have the letter that I know my boyfriend wrote which details some of his urges which he has never spoken about to me...his friend was acting like a prick but he did have solid evidence that painted a completely different picture than the guy I know...

[ionhide]

you can create stamps, seals, everything if you have the intentions. it includes paper as well. your boyfriend sending letters to his best friend how he feels about sex, that sounds too wrong and made up. why wouldn't he talk about it with u, but with some guy friend?

and what's the difference you see from your boyfriend's attitudes mentioned in the letter and his friend's attitudes? don't you feel like the intentions in the letter is somewhat similar to what this guy wants?

i think you better talk about this with your boyfriend and figure this out.

but one thing to be sure his friend is being a jerk whether he is telling the truth or not.

if he is faking all that he is definitely being a jerk and if not taking advantage of the situation makes him in the same place as well

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

His disloyalty to your boyfriend should have sufficed to convince you of his untrustworthy character, which should have immediately sent you running and cutting off all communication with him.

Guys often speak and express themselves to each other in explicit and macho tones, so don't think your boyfriend's letter is red flag or a revelation of his character or true feelings for you. I'm not saying it's right, but it is normal for many guys.

Talk to your boyfriend and make him aware of what went down with his friend. If the letter offended you, address that also, but don't use the letter as an excuse to believe and be manipulated to break up with your guy by his slimy, so called friend.

[NightBlindness]

If you love your boyfriend as much as you say, then tell his mate to back off and stay away from you. Phone or write to your boyfriend and tell him everything you've told us, then you will find out his honest feelings. If he wants to marry you, then I'm pretty sure he wouldn't do anything to jeopardize that.

Just talk to your boyfriend and work things out. Be direct, if not your going to spend days worrying about it or even being in a position that your bf's mate seduces you.

Hope you work things out and stay away from your bf's best friend.

[Betwyn]

1: Talk to your BF

2: Dude at home betrayed his friend. Your Boyfriend should know.

3: Are you sure your Boyfriend wrote the letter?

4: Was it talking about urges? Or actions that had happened?

If you are a virgin, then your Boyfriend knew what he was in for. He knew what the deal was.

Either the friend is faking all of this... He is misconstruing this...

Or your Boyfriend is slimeball.

[ionhide]

what you are doing is wrong, according to my point of view. anyone can fake a letter. and sometimes people we consider as best friends do disasters to our lives. now it's too late to ask your boyfriend whether this letter is true because he might be doing the same thing to your boyfriend too. spoiling his mind with lies. just be careful the next time when dealing with people. if you are OK with it and if you are sure your boyfriend will not take you wrong for what you did tell him exactly what happened. unless you hear or see something from your own eyes that your boyfriend is cheating on you never believe it.

[Anonymous]

If the letter simply talks about your boyfriend's urges, then that's not evidence that he cheated. Does this other guy have evidence that your boyfriend cheated? Clearly this guy wants you, so he could easily be lying and taking advantage of your boyfriend's absence.

That said, if you feel you don't even know your boyfriend properly, you shouldn't marry him.