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Does my boyfriend not trust me to take the pill?

I take it every day at the same time, I even have an alarm for it. But right before or after he ejaculates, he asks if I took it and every time it's a yes. I'm the one who would get stuck with the uncomfortable pregnancy and I definitely don't want a baby. I am a smart girl and not forgetful about things to do with my health. If I did miss the window we wouldn't even be having sex at all, I don't believe condoms are effective enough. Why is he being so paranoid? However, he's never expressed wish to use a condom, go figure. We've been dating 3 months.
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  • He's probably worried because he doesn't want to be stuck being the father of a child that he doesn't want. He wants intimacy, but that doesn't mean he wants the responsibilities of being a father.

    You might want to discuss this with him some time, to find out exactly what's on his mind. But only bring it up at a time when it's not in the bedroom.

    I'm happy though that you are responsible in taking your pill on time. Intimacy is a beautiful thing when it's done responsibly.

    (I answer G.A.G. questions on Twitter too. Follow me there @riodejaneirofun , John Smith)

  • Sit him down, and explain to him that you are taking your pill regularly, and that you take that seriously, and he's making you feel insecure because he keeps asking about it. Tell him you recognize his concern, and you share it (you don't want to be pregnant), but that there's no reason to keep bringing it up, and that you'll talk about it before you change anything.

    That should put his mind at ease, and then you can both move forward. It's all about communication.

    • The problem is that she doesn't recognize that it's also his concern. "I'm the one who would get stuck with the uncomfortable pregnancy" She really doesn't see why her pregnancy could be at least as concerning for him as for it would be for her.

    • Actually, I think she does. But, according to her at least, she's taking it seriously and being responsible. He needs to understand that, but also have his legitimate fears assuaged.

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  • just explain what you did here. You don't want to get pregnant so he doesn't have to worry. I imagine he just asked to double check although mid-sex really isn't the time to ask it.

    I don't think it's that he doesn't trust you as much as he wants to check and double check. If it bothers you just tell him that he doesn't need to keep asking.

  • youve only been dating 3 months give him a break lol the other guy has the answer

  • Trust but verify. Just mention it to him.

  • he sounds OCD

  • He's just cautious.

  • Condoms aren't that great for a monogamous relationship. He's scared that he may ruin your life & his. You can say before you started that you took your pill today or he can simply pull out & finish elsewhere.

    I was married young & we weren't ready for kids. I didn't take any chances & pulled out every time.

    Sometimes paranoia gets the best of us.

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