Why are people so hard on virgins/singles?

[Anonymous]

So after having a string of failed relationships/flings, I'm inspired to ask this question. I've never had a long, successful relationship before. I started getting worried then I thought to myself WTH I'm no where near 80 yet. I'm still young.I should have time to mess up, and learn from my mistake. that's why so many people are in hurry to get a boyfriend/girlfriend or lose their virginity then end up in heartbreak because they don't know that patience is a virtue. you can't plant a seed today then expect a beautiful flower the next day. you have to nurture it..give it water, sunlight etc. and Since when do we ever just fall into success with anything (career, honor roll, etc and relationships should be included)Shouldnt we have to work on it? isn't life a whole big trial and error? Which brings me to the virgin thing. If a guy/girl is a 23 years old virgin, society will have that person think something is definitely wrong with them. but what if that person have their reasons? like, not finding the right one or whatever reason they have? why should everyone just be non virgins by a particular age? do everyone graduate college at the same age? are you a failure if you get your bachelor degree at 35 instead of 24? my whole point is this, why does it matter that a person is a certain age and is a virgin? why does it matter if a person is a certain age and have not had a long successful relationship? to anyone on here who are virgins, stop feeling bad. It will happen. take your time. don't rush a thing and don't let anyone make you feel bad about being a virgin. to folks who aren't having success with love, don't let your age, boredom, friends in relationships etc cause to feel down. learn from your mistakes and be happy alone and with someone.

[kaylaS91]

I think society is hard on everyone whenever they might belong to a group that is outside the majority. For example, if you're 20 or over or a virgin, you're definitely a minority, so that instinct will kick in for all those non-virgins to team up against you in a sense. Same would go for singles, the reason being that from one or 2 generations ago, there was actually a need to be in a relationship/married in your early 20's to avoid being drafted, whereas now people can take their time. However, that older mindset is still in a way present.

I wouldn't really worry about it if I were you though. I am a 20 year old virgin, and for the longest time I felt bad, as though I'm single and a virgin because I'm unattractive, bad personality, etc. Recently, I kind of started looking at all my friends & acquaintances who have slept with 10+ people while not in a relationship, and kind of feel bad for them now.

Looking at it long-term, a virgin or someone who has higher values and able to keep their dignity in that way have a much higher chance to attracting a nice male/female to spend their life with and build a family.

[xHoneyxBeex]

People are hard on everyone for any reason. People "generally" will always judge the opposite of what they are. In accordance to your question, I've seen plenty of virgins be hard on non-virgins too.

Some virgins think they are better than me just because I am sexually active. It goes both ways to be honest. I mean really, why can't everyone just leave everyone else alone? No one is better than anyone else, everyone is different. I wish people would just accept that already.

[onlyaguy]

+1 ^^

[caligirl3]

i think people think there is something wrong with you if you don't have a partner. And they think something is wrong with you if you have too many partners. You can never please others so who cares what they think?

[Anonymous]

because the teens and 20's are the sexual prime years, eventhough people say better late than never, it's better when you are in your youth and sexual prime, yes you may never be too old for companionship, but somethings in life are just better to experience when you are young than when you are old, and plus me being a guy, I don't want to be attracted to or date women that are 10 years or more younger me than, I'm referring to when I reach my 30's and beyond, I find that gross, 5 years is the limit for me.

[Opinion Owner]

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[Anonymous]

That's because they want to brag about how they are successful in terms of relationship.

[IHateBeingaMan]

so I don't end up being like this guy: link