My boyfriend fell asleep while I was grinding him !

[Anonymous]

Weve been together 3 years sex is reducing and so is my patience ! ! I'm 22 he's 25 and we live together . due to his early morning starts at work he is always too tired for sex for the rest of the night when he knocks off work at around 2 and spends the rest of the afternoon playing games and watching sports till about ten at night . I am patient and let him do his thing or he will get annoyed and wait for him to cuddle me when he's read. whenever I try to initiate sex and foreplay he always says he's tired and my rejected efforts always makes me feel so unsexy. So basically last night we started getting it on. were having foreplay . he loves me grinding and feeling super horny we were getting somewhere I heavily grinded him last night. And he pulled my shorts down flicking my undies while I continued grinding him in a mixed lap dance kinda way he was hard but then stopped moving his hands and was asleep he had even got to the stage where he had pulled my undies down and I was butt naked . I felt insulted and not sexy. Wore my sexy lingerie and all but once again nothing can keep him tuned in . Guys have you fallen asleep while a girl has been grinding you? It's never happened to this extent before and its left me feeling hopeless and not sexy . I don't want to sound shallow but I know I'm not ugly I'm fit have done promo modeling in the past and always get told how pretty I am but my self esteem is crushing and I no longer feel attractive because the one person I love makes me feel like a nobody . I have an extremely high libido at this stage in my life and he is like the opposite and getting worse :( girls any similar problems ? And guys ? I just think it was ridiculous he zapped out thi time while I was getting really turned on !

[MrOracle]

I believe that he is legitimately tired, and, yes, I've fallen asleep during foreplay (not quite that level, though) before, when I was really worn out. But that's not the real problem here.

The real problem is his priorities. I get that he wants to relax for a little while when he comes home from work, and that's fine, but it's not fair for him to run out the clock for the night before he's given you some attention. You need to sit down and make your needs known to him. Maybe he needs to end his "me time" at 9pm instead of 10pm and give you that hour of attention every night. Or maybe he needs to get up earlier and give you some mornin' lovin'. Whatever it is, you need to work it out so that your needs are being met.

It's not that you aren't hot and sexy; I have no doubt that you are. That's simply not the issue. The issue is his priorities and time management, and if your relationship is going to survive, that's got to get fixed.

[bdoran24]

i am sort of in same postion, can't get girlfriend remotely interested in sex and I try o lot of different things, to get her going. At night its I am too tired, in the morning its either work time or really hungry, I feel like sex life is dying and she she doesn't see that its hurting our relationship. I feel like she gets no turn on from me and tries to run away from having sex with me. It hurts!. I hate it so much that I have thought about breaking up over this. I have high sex drive her's seems not to exist. Its not going to change however you go about it. If he is falling asleep while you are grinding him, that's just insane and sounds like you don't turn him on at all. I would have dead and gone to heaven if my girlfriend have ever done this to me. It makes me question my relationship everyday, do I stay with a person who doesn't jump at anytime to have fun in bed with me.

[Olivia9]

Wow, that's messed up what's wrong with this guy? Is he on meds or something that reduce his libido or something? That's craaaazy, it's like offering a starving man, a juicy steak and then him falling asleep right before it's in his mouth. The question is, is your man starving? Not to sound like a jerk, but after 3 years maybe he's a little too comfortable. I think it's messed up that he puts his video games before your needs. You shouldn't let someone mess with your confidence like this either. Maybe try a little something something in the morning before work? Or if it doesn't get better, I would dress sexy and go out clubbin, with the girls on the weekend. Make him feel nervous and remind him that he has a dime and home that any sane guy would scoop up in a heartbeat; maybe that will kick him in the butt a little bit. It seems like he is just ignoring you, don't you deserve better than for a guy to bring down your self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

sounds like he has a bit of a gaming addiction. time to tell him to get his priorities straight or you're leaving him. but don't threaten that if you won't go through with it...

[Foreverhappy101]

Oh my I'm sorry. This has never happened to me. Maybe you need to totally cut into his game time because then maybe he won't be tired. Like come in with some sexy lingerie on!

[Asker]

:[ Not even sexy lingerie can take his eyes off the game he watches live sports online and instead he will try to look around me so he won't miss an 'important' second of it *sigh

[Foreverhappy101]

You really do need to sit him down and talk to him then because there is definitely a problem if he'd rather watch a game than have sex with his pretty girlfriend.

[Travesty]

If he's legitimately spending 8 hours AFTER work passing games and watching sports, he's not too tired from work. And if he is, his ass needs to spend some of that time napping so he can be present and awake when you're available..

[greycadillacs]

I work from 3:30am to 12:30pm and am pretty much constantly dead tired during the week, but I have never nor ever would fall asleep whilst being grinded by a naked girl on top of me! Time for games and sports but not time for sex? I would recommend a healthy honest conversation with him and if things don't change, time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Update? Have this. gs changed?